living with me but not partner

boobless

i will explain best i can but following my sisters death i have become guardian to her son (14) who now lives with me, my sister lived with her partner for 10 years in council property which has been handed back (no rights to stay or rehouse) can her partner stay here while he saves for private rent deposit - i am on income support as lone parent (1 daughter) or will i lose all, we are not romantically linked in any way shape or form.??????????

flufff

I'm not sure the council had any right taking the house back from a 10 year old boy.Did he not have a right of succession?
I take it he wants to live with you not his stepdad?
Surely the council should of had some obligation to rehouse her partner in suitable accomodation.
So sorry to hear of your loss as well I hope your all bearig up.

Scarlett1

boobless sorry to hear about your sister *hug*

I would have thought he would have been able to stay in the property, maybe it was allowed as they were not married. If this guys stays with you then he will be liable for your rent, you will also lose your income support/HB and CTC as it will appear to be that you are living together, even if it is not romantic, they will see it as you having a lodger with an income.

I know you will probably want to help him out, but I would think twice about it personally

cattie

I'm shocked they haven't given the partner another smaller property. Two years ago a friend lost his partner of 9+ years, his partner was already renting the HA property when they met so was in her name only. After she died the housing association told him he wouldn't be able to remain in the property as it was too large for a single person's needs, but gave him a 1 bed flat with his own tenancy as an alternative.

I'd suggest he investigates the legality of not offering him alternative accomodation. Involve your local mp if need be, they can be a real help in this kind of thing.

Commiserations on the loss of your sister, I too lost a sister recently, but fortunately her child is now a grown man. I hope your nephew is coping with the loss of his mother, poor lad.

boobless

hi everyone
thanks for your advice.

my sisters house (council) had already been handed down twice and as they were not married he had no rights of succession, her son was 13 at the time his mum died and social services suggested to place him in LA care (not an option), her partner tried for council accomadation but they said as he had never been a tenant and worked with a fairly good wage, he should find private premises, i dont receive any housing benefit as i own my home.

Natalie99

Boobless, first of all I'm sorry to hear about your loss.

If you do decide to let him move in, make sure you inform Income Support, it is better to be honest with them as you have nothing to hide. It is not true that you will loss your Income Support, you will probably be asked to fill out a form stating the situation or a visiting officer will come round and see you. If it's clear that its going to be a temporary measure and you are most definitely not a couple they will not stop any of your benefit.

boobless

thank you all for your kind words, its impossible to describe my feelings, our parents died many years ago and we relied on each other for support, she was my only relative left, this is why its so important that myself my daughter and her son stick together.

thanks natalie for your reply, would ringing and asking them about it put my benefit at risk, would they put me under suspicion of something naughty, its making me nervous thinking about it :eek:

savesave_3

Can anyone help ?my friend has been made homeless-is he entitled to b and b acomodation?. He has little money, is on invalidity benefit and does not want to go into a hostel! Can he stay b and b until his homeless application is sorted.

Alleycat

Hi Savesave, can you post a new thread so people can help without confusing this one?

Cheers!

P.S. Depending on whether he is potentially in priority need (if he is on incapacity benefit or DLA he may be) then he would be placed into whatever temporary accommodation there is available. B&B is only used as a very last resort and usually not indefinately until long term housing is found.

real1314

boobless wrote:

thank you all for your kind words, its impossible to describe my feelings, our parents died many years ago and we relied on each other for support, she was my only relative left, this is why its so important that myself my daughter and her son stick together.

thanks natalie for your reply, would ringing and asking them about it put my benefit at risk, would they put me under suspicion of something naughty, its making me nervous thinking about it :eek:

It's highly unlikely that anone would see this as suspicious imo, just explaian the circumstances clearly.
He is your late sister's bereaved partner. If you were living together as "husband and wife", you would lose our money but as you have said that is not the case, you should be fine.
Assuming that you rent your home (?) you will lose some housing benefit if he is working, anything from £7 odd to over £45 depending on how much he earns.

boobless

thanks real1314

i dont think anything could be seen as husband and wife, he does visit often and they go off to football etc, and he has his dinner with us - we are trying to keep things as near normal for the boy as when his mum was here, and also we have to accept that his grief is as bad if not worse than mine, he has lost his partner, his 'son' and his home in one foul swoop, he is 50yrs old and devoted the last 10 years to my sister and nephew, and suddenly its all gone - As for housing benefit i do not get it because i own my house but i do get CTB, we have discussed living arrangements, i have 3 bedrooms and he would share with my nephew or my daughter will share with me and he can be independent, he does accept that it will not be a permanant arrangement and as soon as his finances allow he will find a new home (he does work full time)