Early-retirement wannabe

michaels

bugslet wrote: »

That's what I worry about, always been rubbish at knowing myself. I do know that I like to feel I've done stuff at the end of the day - holidays absolutely drive me nuts, they are monumentally boring to me.

Status, I quite liked it, but I've done it now and I find it doesn't bother me any more.




I'm average pay with average pressure I think. The thought of Corporate manslaughter isn't fun - in theory it should never get to that but I work on the principle that there is always something that blindsides you.

Anyway, having just turned 54 - I've given notice to my main customer, which means finishing my little company. No idea when I will finish, they are running round like headless chickens at the moment, throwing the odd phrase like, 'it could take up to a year'.... We shall see. In the meantime, I am out of contract, so I don't have to do all the corporate garbage that has been the driver for my leaving, but I still get to do the job, which I still like. Best of both worlds at the minute.

Good luck and keep us posted, Bugs

bugslet

Thanks michaels, I will.

None of the staff know, that is the bit I'm not looking forward to, but it might be several months away yet.

Anonymous101

bugslet wrote: »

That's what I worry about, always been rubbish at knowing myself. I do know that I like to feel I've done stuff at the end of the day - holidays absolutely drive me nuts, they are monumentally boring to me.

I think you're going on the wrong types of holidays if you find them boring. There's so much variation in things you can do the possibilities are endless really.

Again its about knowing yourself. I find it very difficult to understand how people can be bored after they finish their main careers. There's a world full of things to see, do and learn. Certainly enough for me to fill several lifetimes.

lisyloo

Lack of Status can be painful

My personal experience is that my husband placed a great deal of his self-worth on his job. He saw himself in terms of his job role.
I am female and I would put my job role as about 5th in terms of how I'd describe myself e.g. first wife, second daughter, third sister etc.


I think there may be a gender bias here which is a genearalisation as of course it's individual, but many women I know judge their own worth as multi-faceted and of course the caring roles would continue as normal (or in many cases be increased).

bugslet

Anonymous101 wrote: »

I think you're going on the wrong types of holidays if you find them boring. There's so much variation in things you can do the possibilities are endless really.

Again its about knowing yourself. I find it very difficult to understand how people can be bored after they finish there main careers. There's a world full of things to see, do and learn. Certainly enough for me to fill several lifetimes.

I've got a list a mile long of things I want to do, literally I made a list.

But holidays....I don't like cruises, though might make an exception for the fjords, don't like heat, don't like sports, don't care much for history, don't even mention a beach, thought of a walking holiday but walking without a dog is just wrong....

I really like travelling, I just don't like getting anywhere. I did think of a roadtrip, but then I know I'd end up driving for 12 hours a day and stopping for 30 minutes somewhere and going yes, nice, but I could have read about it:o

Some people are just not holiday people!

Anonymous101

bugslet wrote: »

I've got a list a mile long of things I want to do, literally I made a list.

But holidays....I don't like cruises, though might make an exception for the fjords, don't like heat, don't like sports, don't care much for history, don't even mention a beach, thought of a walking holiday but walking without a dog is just wrong....

I really like travelling, I just don't like getting anywhere. I did think of a roadtrip, but then I know I'd end up driving for 12 hours a day and stopping for 30 minutes somewhere and going yes, nice, but I could have read about it:o

Some people are just not holiday people!

I see what you mean now!

I suppose you can make holidays what you want. Something like a road trip around the States might be appealing or a trip to Scandinavia? I traveled Japan a year or two ago and that was amazing, could easily travel at a time of year the climate was cooler and leave the history part out.

Lots of people do the coast to coast walks or the 3 peaks challenges without a dog... or I suppose you could always borrow one! :rotfl:

I do really believe that there's something for everyone its just about having the time and thought to do it. Perhaps not having to work full time would allow the flexibility to travel in a way that will suit you better?

bugslet

I think Anonymous, that I'll perhaps get into the holiday groove when I have proper time off. I haven't had two weeks off in a row ( apart from some Xmas' when we shut down) since 1991. So the odd week I've had off, I've never switched off.

Japan is on a short list of places I want to go to. I run a not very serious virtual walking group on another forum ( all about getting moving and your steps count up), and we 'travelled' through Japan last year and it looked fabulous.

We are in Turkmenistan at the moment......bonkers some of those 'stan countries!

bugslet

lisyloo wrote: »

My personal experience is that my husband placed a great deal of his self-worth on his job. He saw himself in terms of his job role.
I am female and I would put my job role as about 5th in terms of how I'd describe myself e.g. first wife, second daughter, third sister etc.


I think there may be a gender bias here which is a genearalisation as of course it's individual, but many women I know judge their own worth as multi-faceted and of course the caring roles would continue as normal (or in many cases be increased).

I'm female. I have no family at all. I run my own business and what we do is very unusual, very specialised and I've enjoyed being near the top of my small profession. If I've got no job, it's going to be interesting to see how I describe myself - retired seems a bit too final IYSWIM.

Anonymous101

bugslet wrote: »

I think Anonymous, that I'll perhaps get into the holiday groove when I have proper time off. I haven't had two weeks off in a row ( apart from some Xmas' when we shut down) since 1991. So the odd week I've had off, I've never switched off.

Japan is on a short list of places I want to go to. I run a not very serious virtual walking group on another forum ( all about getting moving and your steps count up), and we 'travelled' through Japan last year and it looked fabulous.

We are in Turkmenistan at the moment......bonkers some of those 'stan countries!

I've not been to many of the 'Stans. I'd like to though.

I think you're right. Especially for someone like you. You need a break from the stress of work but don't particularly enjoy not doing very much. Once the stress of work is no longer there then that opens up many more possibilities. :cool:

Japan is amazing BTW. Its certainly one of the favorite places I've visited. I'd love to go back someday. I'd recommend it to anyone.

bugslet

The 'stans are actually really interesting places, just some truly bonkers leaders - can you imagine May having a rotating 39' tall gold statue of herself:rotfl:

I'll put you on the list of people to ask for travel destinations when I get my groove back;)