Home Birth

Dormouse

Becles wrote:

I already feel awful because I'm going to breastfeed against his wishes, so I think it's probably a good compromise to give birth in hospital, so we each get one thing we want.

Sorry to get off the subject a bit, but I couldn't help picking up on this comment. He doesn't want you to breastfeed??? Why???

I realise most men do have a slightly funny attitude to breastfeeding, especially in this country, but I feel there's a difference between feeling funny about it and actually objecting to it.

My DH's side of the family have all been bottlefed and I had to put up with a lot of misconceptions and stereotypes from them when I fed DS, so I do know what it's like having to deal with people's attitudes. I just find it incredible that a man would be so anti-breastfeeding.

But well done to you for sticking to your decision. :T Perhaps as your pregnancy progresses and your DH gains more information and knowledge, he'll see you're 100% right.

(Sorry, can't really comment on the home birth issue - I'm completely torn and not sure what I think :rotfl: )

Bargain_Rzl

Dormouse wrote:

(Sorry, can't really comment on the home birth issue - I'm completely torn and not sure what I think :rotfl: )

EEEEK - fancy revising your choice of words? :eek: :rotfl:

toadhall

my first was a water birth in hospital - wonderful, the last 2 were at home and it was much more relaxing and calm.
i would definitly say go for it.

nibs

I had a home birth and it was great. After two normal births I was told I was a good candidate and thankfully all went well. The midwives ran a bath for me afterwards and meanwhile they cleared up and re-made my bed. When I emerged they tucked me and baby up in bed and off they trotted. (Hubby very dissapointed they didn't do the same for him) Would highly reccomend it.

beachbeth

I had a home birth in 1990 and it all went smoothly and I used millions of canisters of gas and air as well as having pethidine! I had a lovely baby girl and it was so nice to be in my own home afterwards. You also feel more in control than you do in hospital. If there are any problems they will get you to hospital pretty quick anyway. I would recommend it.

LizEstelle

Since this thread is posted on MSE, I think it appropriate to point out that giving birth wherever is not a move calculated to save anyone money...

Gingham_Ribbon

LizEstelle wrote:

Since this thread is posted on MSE, I think it appropriate to point out that giving birth wherever is not a move calculated to save anyone money...

It's cheaper for the NHS therefore cheaper for us all.

rainbowrisin

LizEstelle wrote:

Since this thread is posted on MSE, I think it appropriate to point out that giving birth wherever is not a move calculated to save anyone money...

Wrong - home births are statistically less likely to require costly medical interventions (regardless of "risk" status of the women - look on the ARMS website (association of radical midwives) if you don't believe me), so save the NHS money.
Home births also have lower rates of PTSS, PND and various other pschological problems associated with high intervention hospital births - and who picks up the tab for treating those? - the tax payer.
So your point is?

Becles

Dormouse wrote:

Sorry to get off the subject a bit, but I couldn't help picking up on this comment. He doesn't want you to breastfeed??? Why???

He wants to help with feeding, so if baby was bottle fed, he could do some bottles. Have said I will try a breast pump again, but I didn't get on with it last time so I can't promise to get enough out for a feed.

Have said there are plenty other things he can help with, and when baby starts eating proper food, he can help with that.

I've always been strongly pro-breastfeeding, and there is no way I'm backing down over this one.

We're also having an "argument" over me wanting to use washable nappies, and he wants disposables. Should have had these discussions before deciding to have a baby I think

LizEstelle

Er... for the sake of those who have clearly had a humourectomy, post #87 was intended as a witticism....