Do you think this is going too far?

shellsuit

If it's all out there in the internet for anyone to see, then what's the problem?

If the woman hadn't had an affair with a married man, nobody would be gawping at her would they, so in a way, she's brought it on herself, and No I wouldn't tell her.

Pollycat

shellsuit wrote: »

If it's all out there in the internet for anyone to see, then what's the problem?

If the woman hadn't had an affair with a married man, nobody would be gawping at her would they, so in a way, she's brought it on herself, and No I wouldn't tell her.

But the reverse side is - if the married man hadn't had an affair with another woman......

I hate extra marital affairs but I do think it takes 2 to tango and the husband may be just as much to blame as the 'other woman' - or possibly evenmore to blame.
If the wife is going to take revenge, she should do it to both of the people who are responsible.

As far as the original question goes, I don't think it's fair that the woman who's been left should act in the way she has.

LJM

oh dear i do feel for the woman and her children, no it may not be right what she has done but you can never say you wouldnt do it till you are in her situation, its easy to sit and criticise her. and as regards to facebook if the accounts were locked down as private she would never have been able to get into the account, if people do not have strict filter settings on there accounts now you only have to google name and facebook and pictures come up, found this out through experience someone did it to me. so that is why i never post pics of my kids family on websites/forums as they are there for good for all to see

clearingout

LOL! Good for her. Wish I'd had the sense to do something like that when my ex husband ran off with another woman! In fact, his other woman is now a very scorned woman and has done him all sorts of public damage so I guess what goes around comes around one way or another....

Seriously, you have no idea how this kind of thing feels until it happens to you. It doesn't make her behaviour right, granted, but fear, anger, grief, disbelief, shock...all make us behave in ways we wouldn't normally. The trick is to come out of this situation with your dignity intact but it's not easy...I almost managed it, save for one dreadful night when I lost it completely and I have bitter regrets about that. But I have never given the girlfriend an audience, despite her many, many attempts to befriend me and get me on side (she used to turn up on my doorstep every time they had an argument!). And he knows in no uncertain terms exactly what he lost!

Hermia

I can understand why an abandoned wife would do this, but it's such a bad idea. I do think it just ends up with the wife looking like a screaming harpy, especially if the other woman acts with dignity. If the wife persecutes the other woman too much she can end up looking like the villain. And I do get totally peed off with the way the husband often gets off scot free.

I also think it's a bad idea because you don't know what the future will bring. It may be the case that after a period of reflection you realise the marriage was dying anyway and that you have made a fool of yourself for nothing. I actually know two men who are happily married to their former mistresses and the ex-wife and the 'other woman' are now on good terms! Basically, the original marriages were just not working. Whilst the affair was painful it did lead to the ex-wives meeting men who suit them much better.

red_devil

the site administrators edited the thread you arent supposed to post personal details without someone's permission.

The silly thing is they were running down her looks, her age even her name, whatever her name, age etc was they would never have been happy, they would have always found fault so waste of time really.

At the end of they day the hubby didnt want to stay with his wife for reasons unknown.

Gavin83

shellsuit wrote: »

If it's all out there in the internet for anyone to see, then what's the problem?

If the woman hadn't had an affair with a married man, nobody would be gawping at her would they, so in a way, she's brought it on herself, and No I wouldn't tell her.

We really don't know whats happened without more information. For all we know nothing happened between the two of them and he decided to leave his wife to start a relationship with the other woman.

poppyolivia

I'd probably do that too but with my gilfriends around here at the house..totally stalking her FB etc!!!!Lol...but not on the internet...might look a tad nutty!

denton6

shellsuit wrote: »

If it's all out there in the internet for anyone to see, then what's the problem?

If the woman hadn't had an affair with a married man, nobody would be gawping at her would they, so in a way, she's brought it on herself, and No I wouldn't tell her.

i agree, she has part of the blame to take aswell in the marriage breakdown.