Boss from hell & job from hell..

dilemma10

Hi all, I have edited out my post now as worried it might give too much away on these boards.

Tankrizzo_2

I think you need to sit down with your line manager and talk about the problems with your boss. Put it all down on paper/email so you don't miss anything out.

I would stick to the facts and try to leave out the petty sniping stuff to start with - concentrate first on the fact you are being contacted in the evenings and on weekends. What does your contract say? If you are only contracted to work 7.5 hours in the day for example, then your boss is behaving unacceptably by contacting you out of hours demanding urgent attention. Normally if this happens then it's down to exceptional circumstances and you're compensated either by callout pay or TOIL.

Also, this "personality stuff she is into" - is this the company's procedures she is following, i.e. some official company questionnaire? Or just something she has cooked up? Because if this is an official HR process with personal profiling data being recorded, then she is behaving appallingly by disclosing it to other staff without your consent - in the area where I work this would be verging on gross misconduct.

Put down on email what you believe you are expected to do, and then outline where you think this is being taken advantage of. If your line manager is reasonable then they will address this as a matter of urgency.

vaporate

It sounds like she is feeling her age, going through a old age crisis and taking it out on you because you are young.

Along with boasting about rubbish to make herself feel good.

As for paying her mortgage off, with joint partner no doubt, that will not bring her youth back lol

As the poster above said, talk to your line manager in a civil manner. Worst case scenario, talk to ACAS etc. Possibly formal complaint.

maninthestreet

The issue about 'kissing everybody' should set the alarm bells ringing - do you have a HR department??

Abbafan1972

Surely Team Meetings should be conducted on company premises in company time and not in her flat? :eek:

getmore4less

Sends me e-mails in the evening and wanting action on them ASAP and then all weekend too

Stop reading emails in the evening and weekends.

Make sure that read receipts are off and send them all the following morning.



DO NOT kiss the boss.

If others are getting talked about talk to them about it.

You could
Next time you go round the flat make some comment allong the lines of.

I would have though at your age you could have bought a nicer place than this, I hope I don't end up in a place like this.

viktory

I do think you should be able to shrug off a lot of what she says/does off to be honest. She sounds thoroughly dislikable but I'd ignore anything not work related. Keep a diary of the work related stuff so you have the basis for a grievance if you think it might be necessary.

teabelly

Go to see your doctor. Get signed off for 3 months. Resign. Simple.

You have posted on here a number of times about how bad it is and yet you still work for them. Just quit. It won't get any better unless you stand your ground and stop letting her walk all over you. If you'd quit the first time you posted then you'd be away from her now

A grievance is another possible route but as you have less than 12 months service I wouldn't expect it to turn out well.

shikoku

I don't think getting snarky back will help the situation.

Do you actually place any value on her opinion of you? Thought not. So ignore her comments. Yes, no, three bags full that's all you need to deal with her.

The kissing stops now. Ugh!!!!

I agree with Teabelly.

kazwookie

You have been there under 12 months, so I don't think they can make you work 3 months notice.

She cannot give a bad referance, she has to state the dates you work too and from.

Company meetings on company premises or meeting room not her flat (alarm bells here)

Kissing ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ alarm bells as well.

Don't read or respond to work emails in your off duty times.

Start looking for another job.

Arrange a formal meeting with H & R department.

Googlewhacker

kazwookie wrote: »

You have been there under 12 months, so I don't think they can make you work 3 months notice.
If there is a contract (written is easier to prove obviously) then yes she can, if the OP refuses to work the notice she could be taken to court over this.
She cannot give a bad referance, she has to state the dates you work too and from.
The employer could actually just refuse to give a referance at all, so no HAS to about it
Company meetings on company premises or meeting room not her flat (alarm bells here)

Kissing ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ alarm bells as well.

Don't read or respond to work emails in your off duty times.

Start looking for another job.

Arrange a formal meeting with H & R department.

See points above