advice regarding my nephew

clearingout

Just re-reading your last post. Focus on the legal side of it - a solicitor will tell you whether the rest of it is possible. I would be inclined to ignore going to the local council - they probably won't discuss with you and will assume you're trying to cause problems? I don't know, others may disagree.

Many two year olds are in less-than desireable households. The issue is whether or not he is genuinely 'at risk'. What evidence do you have that suggests this? Focusing on that, rather than how unsuitable the family are, might help? Start your sentences with 'it's in the best interests of the child if....' as that might help keep you focused, if you see what I mean!

You could speak to the community-based people at the police - you should find a number on your local police force's website. I found them helpful in dealing with my ex - and I was registered with them as a potential 'victim' of abuse so they'd come out to me immediately if I ever phoned. They also sent me advice on how to stay safe - I should imagine they would be (vaguely) interested in knowing that there might be problems over the child and where those problems might occur (addresses).

I hope I have helped in some way, it's a horrible situation to be in. Keep focused and remain calm at all time and, as you say, stand your ground!

Mojisola

The mother has walked out, leaving the child with its father in the family home. The child is normally cared for five days a week by the father's mother.

I think the mother has a much weaker case than the father to claim residency.

It's really important that your nephew communicates with her in writing as much as possible - texts, emails and letters. He needs to be proactive to protect his position. When she realises it might not be as easy as she thinks to get somewhere to live, she might start making allegations about him to improve her chances.

Shed_Head_3

Thanks for all the information. We are going to see a solicitor first thing. We also don't want to make it difficult for the mother but don't want to put the child in the situation he has been in before including fights and knives. If she was happy to bring the child to my mother to be looked after I am sure we could sort something out but she does not want to entertain the possible solution she wants the child no matter what and want her family to look after him when she is at work which is just not suitable. The child is not know with social services but the gf mother sister and brother all are for a variety of reason spanning a number of years. If she could realise its not in the best intrest of the child I am sure we could move forward but its a brick wall.

We are going to the solicitor tomorrow.

Thanks for all your input.

Shed