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  • LEJC
    LEJC Posts: 9,618 Forumite
    Im going to try making the truffles at the weekend...hopefully that will be some christmas presents sorted.
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  • smcqis
    smcqis Posts: 862 Forumite
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    sethsgran wrote: »
    I'm sorry you feel like this about the posts. My daughter and her husband have taken their marriage/wedding very seriously and just because they had a fun day with all family and friends it doesn't mean they don't understand the sacredness of that day.

    Ofcourse you have a right to say what you think but don't be so defensive when others return it back to you.

    I respect that and value that so much, its the numerous weddings ppl maybe on their 2nd or 3rd. Maybe death is unfortunate cause of this which I would not give off about, but alot dont realise what marriage means.
    maggie111 wrote: »
    Most of the time brides don't want someone to tell them their idea isn't anything other than perfect and wonderful.

    Shouldnt say it on a forum, defeats its purpose, go ask your mother or best friend if thats case. I can understand rest of your post, and il try to be little more sensitive but im a man an have opinions, maybe some will be helpful to some
  • picklepick
    picklepick Posts: 4,048 Forumite
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    when are you getting married smcqis?
    Perhaps you'd like to start a thread to discuss your ideas and values on weddings?
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  • Birdie85
    Birdie85 Posts: 9,330 Forumite
    picklepick wrote: »
    when are you getting married smcqis?
    Perhaps you'd like to start a thread to discuss your ideas and values on weddings?

    He's probably worried that someone may make nasty comments about his plans!
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  • maggie111
    maggie111 Posts: 1,130 Forumite
    smcqis wrote: »
    Shouldnt say it on a forum, defeats its purpose, go ask your mother or best friend if thats case. I can understand rest of your post, and il try to be little more sensitive but im a man an have opinions, maybe some will be helpful to some

    I really don't think it is your place to remind people what marriage means. They are hardly likely to read a reply on the internet and think "wow, maybe I shouldn't get married". Perhaps not everyone gets married in the true spirit it is intended, but I bet 99.9% of people think when they get married it will be forever, whether they are misguided or not. And if they are - are you actually helping by making a snide comment?

    Thank you for taking what I have said on board - I appreciate where you come from a lot of the time - you don't see the harm in making short quips - but people on here are highly stressed (we're all planning a wedding!) and sometimes it doesn't take more than one nasty comment to drive us insane.

    And the reason I come on here is because no one at all understands what I am going through better than other people planning a wedding. I assure you no one in real life cares as much as brides do about the small details.

    People who are already married think "how trivial it all seems now I'm married, that's the important thing"

    People who aren't married just plain don't get the difficulties involved.

    But other brides understand, and that's why we come on here. And frankly, sometimes I don't want to talk weddings all day to my friends and family - even if that is all I think about!
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  • Bluefire
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    edited 12 October 2010 at 3:19PM
    smcqis wrote: »
    il try to be little more sensitive but im a man an have opinions, maybe some will be helpful to some

    Yes, I'm sure opinions such as "I think it looks rough & tacky" and "what's it supposed to be? a breast?" are extremely helpful to us all and not at all hurtful to sethsgran who obviously put in a lot of time & effort into making the cakes.

    Which I think are lovely by the way. I bake for a living & couldn't do better. Nice to see something unique & different!
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  • sethsgran
    sethsgran Posts: 2,855 Forumite
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    Thanks for all your kind words everyone. Sorry but the cakes were yummy also:) I totally understand people feeling frustrated at the casual way some people treat marriage. We have been married 36yrs and all of our children are now married to people they love and respect.
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  • kitschkitty
    kitschkitty Posts: 3,177 Forumite
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    smcqis wrote: »
    I can understand rest of your post, and il try to be little more sensitive but im a man an have opinions, maybe some will be helpful to some


    Opinions are like a$$holes - everyone has one.

    Oh yeah and in some cases they are full or crap and stink!

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  • smcqis
    smcqis Posts: 862 Forumite
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    picklepick wrote: »
    when are you getting married smcqis?
    Perhaps you'd like to start a thread to discuss your ideas and values on weddings?

    Shouldnt need to, if your getting married you should know it
    Birdie85 wrote: »
    He's probably worried that someone may make nasty comments about his plans!

    We make our own plans and only us know what we want and if i cant convince myself it wont be happening i dont need to ask on a forum where everyone is afraid to say they dislike it. Forum would be used for help to get what you want. Its your wedding decide what you want and dont try to be convinced by others unless they prepared to give positive and negative comments. Dont mean to offend your work sethgrans looks good but not a wedding option IMO
  • picklepick
    picklepick Posts: 4,048 Forumite
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    edited 12 October 2010 at 5:37PM
    So if you know what you want and arent bothered about what everyone else thinks about things, why do you even bother to come on here?

    Edit to say: I'm not trying to have a go, I'm generally interested to know. If you know what you want, its clearly not to pick up some ideas.
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