a bit gutted really, dress related

twirlypinky

I thought so too. I even thought i'd put a puffy petticoat underneath to make it a bit more girly...

Thanks for the links. The issue i've got is that this is my dress from my first wedding
and a lot of the wedding dresses that aren't puffy are very similar. I showed him a picture of it and he said that it was a real shame because it was lovely. Typical!

twirlypinky

Swinstie73 wrote: »

Now I'm worried twirlypink, I've got a tea length dress as we were supposed to marry in Barbados (ain't gonna happen due to flight times), so now we're marrying here, and I've been worried that H2B would like me in a more traditional longer dress. It's my first time but his second and I'm thinking maybe I should get a longer dress, but it's not really me IYSWIM! Decisions, decisions, but I loved the dress you picked twirly, it was lovely.

Oh no, i don't want to stress anyone else out!! I suspect it's just my other half being awkward, he's alarmingly good at that!

aliasojo

twirlypinky wrote: »

I'm torn between wanting to look like his dream bride and wanting to wear something i love myself.

There must be some sort of compromise to be had, you just haven't hit on it yet.

There must be long dresses that are not full on wedding gowns that will fulfill his idea of what a wedding dress should look like and what you would find ok to wear.

I know the ladies here are a helpful bunch, fingers crossed they come up with some suggestions.

twirlypinky

thanks, I think i need to get myself into a shop!

thenanny2die4

I went to a family wedding a couple of weeks ago and the bride wore the "Circle" dress from here which is lovely. An added bonus is it will travel well and not take up masses of room.

Actually, I was a bit gutted when the bride walked in as I'd already earmarked the same one for myself. What are the chances of that?

Sammy85_2

Maybe something with straps? or a halter neck? They can make a huge difference to the look.

http://cgi.ebay.co.uk/Ivory-Halter-Neck-Wedding-Dress-size-12-/120631524716?pt=UK_Wedding_Clothing&hash=item1c1632fd6c

or a lace bolero? Again, changes the look completely, but being lace wont make you too hot.

http://cgi.ebay.co.uk/Beautiful-fitted-Ivory-wedding-dress-lace-bolero-12-/170551003587?pt=UK_Wedding_Clothing&hash=item27b5a1c9c3

or a lace "coat". You could pair that up with a pretty simple a-line dress for a classy look.

http://cgi.ebay.co.uk/Alfred-Angelo-Wedding-Dress-and-lace-coat-size-12-14-/260675747924?pt=UK_Wedding_Clothing&hash=item3cb17c4054

twirlypinky

thanks, i'll have a proper look at all of these at lunch time - very kind of you to look for me.

Think I'm going to be sulking about the short dress thing for some time though, they're just so much more me!

mrs_B_5

twirlypinky wrote: »

He suggested going to a shop with me and seeing me in some because seeing them on the internet isn't the same as seeing me in them, but i don't think you're supposed to do it like that.

This made me smile It might not be how you're supposed to do it, but who's bothered?!? I talked my groom into coming with me to a wedding dress shop (he really didn't want to come!) so I could get an idea of what we both liked, and then found my dress, oops It was the first on I tried on and yes my groom has seen it but it'll look completely different on the day with all the other stuff that goes with it! And I know, that after the reaction in the dress shop, his chin will hit the deck on the day itself :T

nozzy6

I think going to a shop together is a great idea - to heck with "not how its supposed to be done"! If it'll save you both weeks of worry over it, do it!

Bluespirit

I agree with what others have said, go together and try a few dresses on to see what he thinks. You don't need to tell him which one your buying if he likes a few styles, and if you add different accessories, shoes, etc. then he's not really seen you in your wedding outfit.