a new dawn, a new day, a new liiiiffffeeee for me............

Fruball

Hi Sammy-Kaye - just popped over from the OS board to see if you had posted again today and see how you are coping.

Sending you a hug and hope you are ok xxx

redstararnie76

Sammy-Kaye - Hope you are ok?

delain

I've been in a similar situation to you...

The relief you will feel when you're in your own place and in charge of your own life will be the best feeling ever

Go for it :j :j

I'm here if you need to chat about anything!

beachbaby_2

Don't know the full situation but hope you're ok. I'm going through separation at the moment and it's flippin hard, especially with children involved,but I know it will be worth it in the end. It sounds as though you are thinking it through though. When my husband left it came as a big shock yet I had already opened my own bank account a month earlier (just in case) - it was as if I knew something was imminent. From how you are writing it seems as if you know your answer already. PM me if you need to talk.
Good luck, and hugs for you and your little ones. X

sassyblue

sammy_kaye18 wrote: »

Feel like crap today and hes off work still because he was suspended for having a confrontation with a co worker.

:(:(:(:(

Sounds like my ex-brother in law, he's an ex for that reason.

You will find honey that it'll ALWAYS be your fault, l'm guessing that argument with his co-worker wasn't his fault either? My sister tried hard with him for years, they had counselling the lot, he always promised to change and did for oh..... a week at most - then he was back to his old ways.

It's sad because you have children together but if you're sure this is the end then best of luck to you Sammy, in years gone by l'm sure you'll find your soul-mate, your ex meanwhile will always be making someone unhappy.

hob

i wish i could say something to make u feel better.... im hoping you do whats best for you and ur baby what ever that may be look forward to having happer post from you...sorry im not good with words of advice or comfort.

Triker

Hope you're ok Sammy-kaye? xx

Pink.

Triker wrote: »

Hope you're ok Sammy-kaye? xx

For anyone who is worrying about Sammy-kaye, she posted this update on the Old Style board yesterday morning and thankfully seems to be doing ok for now.

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Jo_R_2

I read your post the other day and wondered how you were doing? I remember reading some of your posts a looong time ago and remember you were having some problems back then, sorry to hear they haven't got better.

My first thoughts upon reading your post were similar to something another poster had said; that is, the very fact you are making plans and looking into things speaks volumes.

About the father/child relationship - it's completely normal to have guilty thoughts of 'splitting up' that relationship - I remember having them when I was considering breaking up with my now ex. My eldest, who was then three, was very much a daddy's girl, but in fact although the dynamic has changed since we split up, now everything is on an even keel, they have a great relationship, it didn't materialise straightaway because he was (and he admits) an utter plank at first, but with lots of work, effort and negotiation between me and him (v. hard at times), they are close.

I honestly don't think staying together for the kids is enough of a reason. I know when my eldest even at the age of three started to realise mummy was upset every day by daddy - "Why are you upset Mummy, isn't Daddy coming back tonight, I want to see him" and me in tears trying to reason with him for the fourth/fifth/sixth time that week to come home, that it was completely inappropriate for her to be seeing that, but also I realised she would see how he treated me/us and 'normalise' that - kids are astute no matter how much you try to hide what's going on.

I hope you reach some sort of resolution soon x

sammie383

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