Buyers' Remorse not shifting

fraser

sorry to hear you are having a tough time

I would be inclined to give it a good clean and a lick of paint throughout then get an EA round to see what your options are - if you don't want to paint then getting a painter in could help, sure it costs more than you doing it yourself but it is not too expensive and saves a lot of hassle. a good redocorate can really lift a room and also makes it more marketable - keep neutral and you won't go wrong.

Getting it on in the spring will give you a best chance of selling on - some buyers don't look at all the buying resources online so don't worry about having owned it for a short time - people move for all sorts of reasons and often very quickly

has you mortgage deal got any penalties for early redemption? could you port it?

if you are commited to moving i would avoid doing any major fixes or changes - get them serviced well and make sure they are safe e.g. boiler, you may have to negotiate on these unless you go bargain hunting for replacement fixtures and kitchens etc.

PS tell your partner to pull his/her finger out plus get some family or friends to help out where possible

good luck

jonewer

I understand how OP feels, having just bought a place. I think part of it is having a mortgage - the first debt I have ever taken on - and it really kind of bugs me. I'm not comfortable being in debt.

Given the extremity of the pain, stress and expense of moving, I'd just stay put if I were OP, maybe for a year or two and see how it pans out. It always takes a few months, sometimes more, before you can feel a place is truly your HOME and not just your HOUSE.

BlondeHeadOn

Can I suggest that you make a list of all the rooms in your house that you want to change, and make a list for each as to what needs doing to make it so you would like to be in that room? Then choose one of the rooms that could be made nice for not too much effort and money, and concentrate on just doing that one? Make it into somewhere you would like to be to relax and escape to.

Then you will feel like you are doing something positive, and you should end up with a room that is much nicer to live in - which will be an escape when you need a bit of space and cheering up, which you can think about what to do next with the rest of the house.

Then I'd suggest just 'house doctor'-ing the rest of it - imagine that you are going to tart it up to sell out or rent, and slap paint on and make good the basics as much as you can for as little money as possible. Then see how you feel.

Worse case scenario: you finish tarting up the house and still hate it and don't want to be there - well, you have a house which is improved and suitable for either renting or putting back on the market looking pretty and more inviting to buyers.

Best case scenario: you finish the tarting up and by that time you've made friends in the neighbourhood and like the area a bit more, and the house looks nicer too so your mood lifts - maybe you can stay for a year or so and see what happens.

Either way is an improvement on this awful trapped feeling you have at the moment, and the work may help lift your spirits anyway just by doing it. And the decision is delayed for a while, so you don't have to stress about it now.

Look after yourself as well.

hedgehopper_2

jonewer wrote: »

I understand how OP feels, having just bought a place. I think part of it is having a mortgage - the first debt I have ever taken on - and it really kind of bugs me. I'm not comfortable being in debt.

Thanks, and yes, I think a good amount of it is simply having that worry! I feel exactly the same way you do about this and wonder if I would have found something wrong with wherever we moved (if we'd been somewhere nice it would have been too small)

On a sensible day I'm totally committed to sticking this out and making it work - after all, we did pick it for reasons that still stand, and I guess one just has to bear that in mind.

thanks again

jonewer

hedgehopper wrote: »

Thanks, and yes, I think a good amount of it is simply having that worry! I feel exactly the same way you do about this and wonder if I would have found something wrong with wherever we moved (if we'd been somewhere nice it would have been too small)

We actually looked at some houses in the road one down from us. They are much smaller but we could have bought one of them for cash.

We opted instead for the bigger house with a substantial mortgage.

Now I worry if we did the right thing but I also bet my life that if we had bought a smaller house we would have always looked up to the bigger place we could have had and regretted it much more.

Probably the worse thing about the place we have now is that theres enough space for the inlaws! Oh Nooooo!

JustKeepSwimming_2

mlz1413 wrote: »

My mother was forever moving house and so was her mother, always they couldn't stay where they were due to the house not having X / Y/ Z or being in A or not being in B.

Anyhow neither ever found happiness in a house for more than 5 yrs with 2 yrs being common. So I have experienced the buying / selling / moving / packing / making friends etc endless times (over 20) and that is why I'd ask you to ensure you're moving for the right reasons.

I wouldn't normally suggest this as being a landlord is a major concern but you maybe bettering renting it out for a year and renting somewhere else to ensure long term you make the right decision next.

I'd echo this too - my Ma is still talking about moving at the age of 76 despite being quite disabled & currently living in a 5 bed house that is jammed to the rafters (& its just her in it) as she still isn't "happy"where she is. She has moved over 20 times since I've been born, so I shudder to think how much she's spent in fees etc over this time!

She won't ever accept that there is another reason for moving other than the house is "wrong" or more usually, she doesn't get on with the neighbours.... She doesn't think there is anything "wrong" with her (wrong isn't the word I want to use but I can't think of the right one!). Sad really, as i worry she won't ever settle & be happy anywhere.

I would certainly give it a little longer, improve what you don't like about the house (budget allowing) & concentrate on the good bits - like your neighbours. Good neighbours can make such a difference.

Hope you start to feel more settled soon.

jonewer

JustKeepSwimming wrote: »

.....currently living in a 5 bed house that is jammed to the rafters (& its just her in it)

Blimey! She should go on a diet!

neverdespairgirl

hedgehopper wrote: »

It's also NEAR a trendy area and it is actually true that most of our neighbours are recently moved-in and (like us) were priced out of the nice bit. For that reason I do have some hope that the feel of the area will change and already has to some extent - we at least have nice, youngish neighbours who want to help improve the area.

Just north of Angel, by any chance?