I do? Or I will?

maggie111

Looking at our wedding ceremony choices... H2B is getting a bit cross that we are supposed to say "I will" not "I do"... Can we change it?? What are you saying?

bubbles0169

im sure you can say what you want but have to say a certain few words, ill go find them x
are you in a church or civil venue?

bubbles0169

are you in england or wales?http://www.weddingguideuk.com/articles/legal/englandwales.asp#vows

maggie111

Thanks for your help! It's a civil venue.

RainbowDrops

Is the question "Will you XXX take YYY....?"

I hadn't thought about there being an alternative to "I do"!

shellsuit

I've watched many a wedding programme in the last 18 months, and I've found that all the USA programmes ask the question "Do you take..." so the bride and groom reply, "I do", whereas over here, the question asked is, "Will you take...", so our reply is "I will".

I'm not sure if it can be changed, but I'd ask wherever you are getting married.

kr15snw

I think the English version is I will.

We have changed our vows to I do as we're getting married in Australia and can say pretty much anything

hayleythedaisy

If you ask the registrar they may phrase it do you take... but it depends on the person. I'm pretty sure it has someone to do with the tense applied to the question. (You're not actually taking them at that second but you will in a minute!)

floss2

Don't forget, you have to say the "I, Josephine Bloggs, take you, John Smith, to be my lawfully wedded husband, to have & to hold" etc

My DH insists that we said "honour & obey" but I know we didn't!

jenhug

Here its "I will", our vicar was most specific about that, and hubby still said I do! Lol!

maggie111

As shellsuit said, the question on our proposed ceremony from the registrar says "Will you..." so the answer is "I will".

H2B is pretty grumpy because he wants the registrar to ask "Do you..." and I wasn't sure if that's possible. From these responses I'm guessing it wont hurt to ask the registrar if they can change it