Drawing the line under nightmare lodger experience.

Frosti

BitterAndTwisted wrote: »

Phone the organisations with which she has taken out these new services and inform them of her status as a lodger and the date she vacated your home. Give them the address that she works at and tell them to contact her there if they want. I'd be doing the same for every creditor sending mail to your address for the foreseeable future.

Thank you! I'll do that on Monday.

BitterAndTwisted wrote: »

Trying to go through the Pastor at her church and disclosing the information you have about her could be interpreted as harassment, so although I sympathise completely with your desire to cause her discomfort, I would strongly advise you against doing this. Her past WILL catch up with her eventually, you can be quite sure of that.

Ok. I don't particularly want to embarrass her in front of people whose opinion she presumably cares about, I just want her right out of my life, and I accept that I've lost the money she owes me.

BitterAndTwisted wrote: »

I have no idea why you haven't deposited her smelly belongings at her place of work by now. Perhaps you could pop them round to her church instead?

Well, I was advised not to approach her at work as this would be harassment, and in fact I've made a point of avoiding the shop since she left so there is very little chance I might 'run into' her - I really don't want to get involved in a confrontation with her!
Taking her stuff to her church would inevitably involve an explanation to whoever is there when I arrive.. Which takes us back to your 2nd paragraph.

The council provided yet another wheelie bin recently for their increasingly complicated recycling system, so I scrubbed out the old one and am now storing her abandoned stuff in there.

BitterAndTwisted

Why on earth would you scrub out the wheelie-bin just to deposit her smelly things in there? I wouldn't have bothered.

G_M

If you trace her new address why send her mail there? Better by far to pass her address to her creditors.

Frosti

BitterAndTwisted wrote: »

Why on earth would you scrub out the wheelie-bin just to deposit her smelly things in there? I wouldn't have bothered.

I understood that I am obliged to keep her stuff for her in good condition in case she decides to return for it, for a period of ninety days before I can dispose of it (I'm counting! ).

The bin police round here have been known to refuse to empty overly smelly bins so everyone keeps their bins pretty fragrant; I can't afford the bin-cleaning service most of my neighbours use, so generally give mine a scrub every few weeks anyway - it's not an awful job apart from getting to the bottom of the things as I'm not very tall!

poppysarah

Frosti wrote: »

The bin police round here have been known to refuse to empty overly smelly bins

That sounds insane.

Frosti

G_M wrote: »

If you trace her new address why send her mail there? Better by far to pass her address to her creditors.

It may well come to that if letters keep arriving for her!

Though I am not at all comfortable with deliberately opening her mail.. :mad:

Frosti

Frosti wrote:

The bin police round here have been known to refuse to empty overly smelly bins

poppysarah wrote: »

That sounds insane.

Well I did say, it's a "nice" area! The refuse operatives will also leave a bin un-emptied if the lid isn't fully shut, but we're all lovely neighbours and some of mine [with several children = more rubbish] often have to put a bag in my [underused] bin to get round this. I don't mind as they always ask first, and the bags are scrupulously clean on the outside and properly closed.
..We are so civilised round here! :rotfl:

zzzLazyDaisy

Do you have a link for the 90 day rule? I ask, because I have never heard of it (though I don't pretend to be an expert in these things).

As far as I am aware, you are an 'involuntary bailee' - which basically means that you have been left to take care of her things against your wishes.

What you need to do is to write to her giving her notice that she is required to collect her possessions by x date, failing which you will dispose of them. As you don't have a forwarding address, I'd write c/o the employer, but mark the envelope 'strictly private and confidential'. Send the letter by a tracked method, and also provide a list of the belongings you are referring to. I'd give her 14 days, and if she doesn't collect by then, I'd go through the same process giving her 7 days. Then I'd get rid.

More info about involuntary bailees here.......

http://www.lodgerlandlord.co.uk/2010/08/19/dealing-with-lodgers-possessions-that-they-leave-behind/

G_M

:rotfl:

the bin-cleaning service most of my neighbours use

:rotfl:

TrickyDicky101

G_M wrote: »

:rotfl: :rotfl:

That's no joke - there's one round my way (which, naturally, we don't subscribe to).