Buyers' Remorse

hedgehopper_2

Bronnie wrote: »

I cannot emphasise enough, that in your position I would be doing this, rather than spending out , at this time. It would be much better to stash any spare cash/avoid spending on credit cards at this time and build up some savings!

Oh yes definitely. We actually plan to start making overpayments pretty much immediately too while rates remain low. And given that I will have to stop work at some point in the near future we do need to save.

I'm actually really into my 'shabby chic' and would love to use ebay and freecycle. The main problem here is that neither of us can drive so I don't know how we'll physically buy large items that don't come with delivery.

hazyjo

Loads of ebay sellers offer delivery - there are tonnes of ebay shops on there too, not just private sellers - we got a Victorian style oval shower rail that hangs from the ceiling from an ebay business which was hundreds under the price in 'normal' shops. Plus some private sellers will arrange courier or delivery companies. Or you check your local paper for a 'man & a van'. For the savings, it'd probably be worth it.

I've read that everyone feels that 'r word' to some degree when they move. It's the sense of loss of familiarity and 'home' that does it. Our next home will be a fantastic house (we have an offer on, but it might fall through but we'll wait for another in the road to come up!), but I know we'll have to wait a while for some furniture to fill it, and I know I'll miss our current home. I've moved several times before and always felt it, even though I've always grown to love each house (except one!).

Good luck, fingers crossed.

Jx

Bronnie

hedgehopper wrote: »

Oh yes definitely. We actually plan to start making overpayments pretty much immediately too while rates remain low. And given that I will have to stop work at some point in the near future we do need to save.

I'm actually really into my 'shabby chic' and would love to use ebay and freecycle. The main problem here is that neither of us can drive so I don't know how we'll physically buy large items that don't come with delivery.

Shabby chic MSE style inspiration on this thread!

https://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/discussion/2733101

This is the 3rd shabby chic thread, if you read through you'll find links for the earlier threads too. They're really inspirational and posters put up piccies of their finished projects, costings etc.

HTH

parallax_20

I get buyers remorse all the time regardless of what I'm buying. Theres always something the same for cheaper or better if you look hard enough. You have to draw the line somewhere right?

On the flip side. I sold my rental 2 bed house last year for £175K which is below what I initially wanted, but the stamp duty threshold meant not many buyers were willing to offer above it. If I had known at the time that the stamp duty was going to be raised/extended, I would have held off a bit longer to get the best price. So some regrets in selling early. On the plus side, its one less thing to worry about!

poppysarah

parallax_20 wrote: »

I get buyers remorse all the time regardless of what I'm buying. Theres always something the same for cheaper or better if you look hard enough. You have to draw the line somewhere right?

freecycle.
Dearer than that and you're just wasting your money

dizziblonde

We moved in here and I sobbed for weeks - hated the house, hated the area (didn't help my car got broken into), wanted my little old damp mouldy flat back so badly because I felt safe there. Never thought I'd ever settle, despite everyone telling me the house was great etc.

Move forward a year and a half - we like the area so much we've moving from rented to buying the house three doors down! Still don't like this house - but that's the year of personal hell and me being convinced the unlucky door number's meant this place is slightly jinxed..!

gnimia

Just a thought - but have you looked at streetcar or similar in your area - if you are car-free, its much cheaper than taxis, and easier for collecting freecycle stuff than busses!
Ive just moved in and cried alone on my first night - just the size of the thing scared me - but I am getting used to it... and doing one little chunk at a time... friends and family are pretty essential tho!
hope you feel better about it soon.

parallax_20

poppysarah wrote: »

freecycle.
Dearer than that and you're just wasting your money

I know what you mean. You can't really beat a £0 outlay, but unfortunately things just don't always crop up at the right time, or someone else nabs it before you. But I tend to keep a keen on HotUKDeals and try not to spend more than I need to.

azkaban420

Hi hedgehopper,

I've moved into a rented place in a new city, it time for my kids to start school, and am awaiting my purchase to complete in the meantime for a house which I hope we can live in for several years. Although I am in rented at the mo, half my stuff is in boxes and I feel really 'unsettled'. I think it's partly because nothing is in its rightful place, and we're not in our final destination. Anyway the point is, it is early days, and until you have 'settled down' with boxes unpacked, things in their place, and filled out your currently sparse house, it probably will feel weird. Try to tackle emptying a box every few days, so that you don't have that 'just moved in' reminder constantly.

Oh, and chocolate always helps too, as mentioned before

Hope you feel better soon

Az

morg_monster

We have a bit of a complex about this too. We bought our 1st house in Dec 09. Although we had hardly any furniture and slept on an airbed for ages, we were happy and all was well until we got burgled <2m later. This totally knocked us for 6 and made us a bit "what's the point?". It was also a good 2-3m before we got the insurance money so a lot of plans had to go onto the back burner as we replaced some items from savings and bought a burglar alarm. The car broke down a couple of times and had to be fixed, again depleting our cash reserves. It has taken us til this August to get back on our feet and start saving at a decent rate again.

Spring and summer coming along helped as we got out in the garden and we really saw the benefits of having a 3 bed house with big garden, and of living in the suburbs, as opposed to the rented 1 bed zone 2 london flat we were in before. We also got 2 cats who are awesome and again we cuoldn't have had those in the flat.
But despite all that, we do miss our flat. Partly I think its the convenience of renting, in terms of not having to worry about maintenance etc. Partly because although I disliked the noisy location, we were on a thriving south london high street with so many choices for eating and drinking out, fun shops, etc. Now we are 1.5m away from the nearest high street (our compromise to get a 3bed house!), and are very bored of the tiny choice of restaurants and takeaways nearby. Evenings out in London are always bounded by the last train home, whereas before there were nightbuses to bring us home 24/7.

But then I remember how desperate I was to move into our own house! And how fed up I was that half our belongings were at my parents' house because we didn't have enough room. And how I hated being woken by annoying rude people coming into the flats at all hours of the night. And how we didn't have room to have bikes, and no-where to use my sewing machine, and how we couldn't have pets, and etc etc etc.

I think maybe we moved to a "grownup" house a bit early. Maybe its my youth I'm mourning, not the flat. We aren't going to have kids for at least another 1.5 yrs; maybe we should have stuck with the young person's flat a bit longer.
Wow this is no help to you at all. Maybe I should see a shrink!!