was involved in a car crash yesterday please help

enimod

I may be seen as milking it-but to add to everything my 4 year olds behaviour is getting worse he is very angry and school have informed me he has not eaten his dinner since monday-he usually asks for seconds. i am now really worried about him-he is talking inhis sleep and is obviously upset about the accident. has anyone got any advise-what i should or shouldnt do to help him. i think what makes it worse is peoples comments- like today a lady passed us..sorry to hear about your awful car accident..my little boy asked mummy why is she sorry did she do it to us.
i am hoping for a lovley weekend together-with no mention of cars etc and to just return to normality.

vaio

Proc wrote: »

Hyper-ventilating......

utter tosh snipped.

....Jesus. I've seen some people milk these things with a "bad back" etc but this is going to the next level! Especially seeing as you all walked away fine from the accident.

Proc wrote: »

mayb sum ppl can give me sum advice?!!.......

more utter tosh snipped.

....im not trying 2 milk it it's just all such a shock to me wot can i do?

thankx

Any accident involving deployed airbags and the occupants of the other vehicle involved being cut out and airlifted to hospital is no trivial matter so might I suggest you wind your neck in and stop being such a total knob-head?


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Diamond78

Younger children can forget things in time, so try not to worry. Hopefully your appointments will help you to recover quite quickly. Have you sorted out the hire car for the time being? Its good news that you will get more money than what your car is worth but have a look around and have a think about it. Get details of the actual damage to your car. Ask what catagory write off it is. If the car is still road worthy, you can buy the car back but you would have to get a vic check and mot done. Good luck and hope it all works out for you and your family.

Diamond78

Do you have a health visitor? Maybe you could try speaking to your son, ask him about school ect. Maybe something at school is also upsetting him. As you say, you will be spending a lovely weekend with each other as a family, so he may enjoy the time away from school and open up or he may just ignore the complete accident. Like I said before, sometimes it could be a good thing to talk about what happened and other times it could be the opposite. Have you been on netmums? That is a good place to chat with other parents and usually there are parent advisors who would be more experienced in giving advice. Big hugs xx

vaio

My OH (with 4 yo DS in baby seat) once had to swerve to avoid an out of control car which had crossed to her side, she lost it, spun and hit a curb side on, car went up on two wheels but thankfully came back down rather than going over.

When she got home she was fine and in full scary protective mummy mode intent on ripping the head off the other driver if she ever found him but the next two or three days she was draggy, achy and tearful, took best part of a week before she was back to normal.

DS on the other hand was full of it, he’d had g forces, screeching tyres, bumps, bangs and crashes plus the on two wheels bit, as far as he was concerned it was brilliant and he was bouncing around telling anyone who’d listen all about it complete with arm waving action replays and screeching tyre sound effects, this went on for a couple of days and then something else caught his attention (butterfly mind at that age) and it drifted into the past

Sorry this has gone on a bit but the point I was trying to make is adults & kids respond in different ways but after a not very long amount of time everything drifts back to normal. Keep life as calm & normal as possible and I’m sure you & DS will be soon be ok