Am I crazy to do it that way round?

Magicboo

At least you can talk about it on here to your hearts content-congratulations!! :j x

mimosaurus

Dizzie77 wrote: »

I did joke that their wedding would be organised before they were officially engaged..!!!

this was exactly how we planned our wedding - deliberately! my ring was made bespoke so i had to wait 6 agonising weeks for it, and we didn't want to tell anyone before i had the ring (that didn't work to be honest lol) so we decided to plan it all. this helped us loads as well because it meant that no-one else could get involved and we had totally free reign to do what we wanted without other people - and i have to say that no-one has even tried to get involved (which is unusual in our families lol) and i am fairly certain that's because we set the precedent!

we had confirmation of the venues 4 weeks after we decided to start planning (there wasn't really a 'proposal' so no real 'engagement' in some ways! we just came to a mutual decision one evening lol), and then decided we couldn't wait any longer even though we had two more weeks to wait for the ring, so called our parents and said "hi do you have your diary handy... we're getting married on x date".

it was one of the best moments of my life - loved it!!!! then we announced it on facebook etc, called friends and all that.

then i had the whole excitement a couple of weeks later of showing everyone my engagement ring when it was finally made!!!

for me, it was completely perfect to be able to plan everything with the freedom of knowing that if anyone doesn't like it (which is inevitable, and we're not very traditional so even more inevitable, especially following several very traditional family weddings!), our response was "ahh thanks for your suggestion/I know what you mean... but it's already booked."

congratulations to you

missknixon

mimosaurus wrote: »

for me, it was completely perfect to be able to plan everything with the freedom of knowing that if anyone doesn't like it (which is inevitable, and we're not very traditional so even more inevitable, especially following several very traditional family weddings!), our response was "ahh thanks for your suggestion/I know what you mean... but it's already booked."

congratulations to you

I am similar to you but everyone 'forgot' that we were engaged! Plus whenever anyone asked we would tell them we were just going to run away, if we bothered! Imagine their surprise when I told my mum and dad - when they came to visit!

Me: You know I'm your favourite daughter? Well, we are actually getting married!
Mum: when - I need time to diet?
Me: 30th October
Mum: That gives me a year and a bit
Me: No this year - 16 weeks yesterday!

They have always known that it will be our day and have never offered their help for that reason - I told them it was going to be our wedding and we were paying for it and having it as we want. My monster-in-law has tried to put her oar in but told her that everything was booked and arranged by the time we told her! That is how we wanted it!

Sometimes backwards is best!

misscoupon

Cheers all, I'm relieved

csh_2

Hi, my weddings all booked and sorted for next April. We booked everything in July and told people it was booked. I still don't have an engagement ring or been 'officially' asked but I still consider myself engaged.
I actually picked up our custom made wedding rings on Friday so OH says we can go e-ring shopping now and I can try them both together!
I'm a lot more engaged than some people I know who've had a ring for years with no intention of setting a date.....

Kate78

Just thought I would say "hi" - my OH and I were planning our holiday to Cyprus next year.

While away in Scotland this summer, we got to chatting about running away to Gretna Green etc etc, and then it became "let's do it in Cyprus next year", next thing he's down on one knee and I'm saying "YES!"

We have no engagement ring either.

Nobody at home knows about us either - we will announce it when we return and a family and friends wedding reception will be held ~ 6 weeks afterwards to allow for invites to be returned.

misscoupon

Wow Kate78, that would be impossible for me. I can barely keep my mouth shut about us getting married next year, I don't think I would be able to keep us being married a secret! Though the resort we're going to for our honeymoon does weddings as well, and we did toy with the idea of a destination wedding for a few seconds before we realised that we actually wanted our families and friends there on the day. Good luck with your planning!

Birdie85

Just out of interest, is it important to have your OH propose 'properly' even though you're already engaged and planning the wedding? My OH didn't propose in a very special way but it was the fact that he'd proposed that made it special. We were just out in town and looking at rings because I just like looking at shiny things and he said that we should drop off our shopping and go back into town, when we were at his he asked me to marry him, I laughed because I thought he was joking then he walked me back to the jeweller to pick out a ring. A few months after we got engaged some friends of ours bought a ring together but didn't get enaged until he'd planned a special evening and proposed properly... even though she knew it was coming! I thought it was a bit odd because once I'd got the ring I wanted to wear it straight away! Does the proposal story really mean that much?

misscoupon

Birdie85, I do want him to ask me just for the romantic side. That will happen soon hopefully! It still feels surreal at the minute to be honest...
We are meeting our first budget photographer tonight, do you nice ladies have any tips about what to look out for?

misscoupon

Just a quick update: I now can officially call my other half my fiance :j. He proposed yesterday and it was perfect, I love the ring he picked for me and moreover I can now tell everyone we're getting married! Happy, happy, happy :smileyhea