giving up work

andyandflo

beth58 wrote: »

If your daughters are so highly skilled why don't you stay home provide child care and they can pay you... Thus everyone wins, unless you all prefer to claim benefits? and why aren't the fathers of these children paying child support or helping provide care?

Are you being serious? At 62 and my wife 66, the last thing we need is to be 'parents' to all of the grandchildren.

We have done our bit and now is the time to enjoy life a little more without becoming unpaid babysitters 5 days a week.

As regards the fathers'

Daughter (1) has no idea where the father is for the eldest, the youngest's father is not in work so she gets £5pw from him via CSA out of his JSA
Daughter (2) Father also pays £5pw via CSA out of his JSA,

Daughter (1) has 8 'O's & 3 'A's + Degree in Law
Daughter (2) has 9 'O's & 2 'A's but dropped out of FE

DaisyFlower

andyandflo wrote: »

Daughter (1) Has two children - 9, 3 with the 3rd due in December 2010.

Daugher (2) Has one child - 6 with the 2nd due in March 2011

Both single yet both parent - i'm always amazed at the amount of single parents who manage to keep having children yet remain single. It seems the days of having children in long term stable relationships are long gone and many simply see them as a way of not working and being handed huge amounts of money.

I would be mortified if my DS grew up with the attitude that you can do what you want, not work and other tax payers will fund you.

DX2

Metranil_Vavin wrote: »

I am guessing that andy and flo may be a troll..just a hunch like...

He's very real, see his postings over at CAG (community action group)

DX2

andyandflo wrote: »

Daughter (1) has no idea where the father is for the eldest, the youngest's father is not in work so she gets £5pw from him via CSA out of his JSA
Daughter (2) Father also pays £5pw via CSA out of his JSA,

Waynettes

Metranil_Vavin

DX2 wrote: »

He's very real, see his postings over at CAG (community action group)

In which case, oh dear oh dear....

poet123

andyandflo wrote: »

Are you being serious? At 62 and my wife 66, the last thing we need is to be 'parents' to all of the grandchildren.

We have done our bit and now is the time to enjoy life a little more without becoming unpaid babysitters 5 days a week.

As regards the fathers'

Daughter (1) has no idea where the father is for the eldest, the youngest's father is not in work so she gets £5pw from him via CSA out of his JSA
Daughter (2) Father also pays £5pw via CSA out of his JSA,

Daughter (1) has 8 'O's & 3 'A's + Degree in Law
Daughter (2) has 9 'O's & 2 'A's but dropped out of FE

And the fathers of the children they are both expecting? do they not live together/contribute to household expenses?

I have to say, despite appearances to the contrary by dint of their academic quals, neither of your daughters seem particularly bright, or appear to have much common sense. To paraphrase the old adage, anyone can make a mistake, but two and three times is taking the michael (out of the taxpayer)

nannytone_2

just to make you feel better. i bought both my children up as a single parent. both now are married with their own families. both work and neither get any benefits except cb.
this wasnt the case until may this year when my daughter was receiving dla for her youngest child who sadly passed away. but she managed to pay for childcare and work too. i am at a loss as to why andyandflo's daughters cant manage when so many other people do


just a ps......... i dont think that people with disabled kiddies should feel pressured to work. it takes a lot of effort and a lot of sorting out. just pointing out that if some people can work despite these additional problems, why cant people with no added problems find a way?

skibadee

andyandflo wrote: »

Are you being serious? At 62 and my wife 66, the last thing we need is to be 'parents' to all of the grandchildren.

We have done our bit and now is the time to enjoy life a little more without becoming unpaid babysitters 5 days a week.

As regards the fathers'

Daughter (1) has no idea where the father is for the eldest, the youngest's father is not in work so she gets £5pw from him via CSA out of his JSA
Daughter (2) Father also pays £5pw via CSA out of his JSA,

Daughter (1) has 8 'O's & 3 'A's + Degree in Law
Daughter (2) has 9 'O's & 2 'A's but dropped out of FE

My mum is 74 and still helps out with the occassional childcare for her grandchildren.
I know that childcare is expensive and the cost of it can dramaticlly reduce income earnt......but there is a childcare element in WTC that can be claimed to help meet costs.
There also Family Centres that can often help with these things.

Back to the OP's question.....
Maybe talking to CAB to see your options would be a good idea?

viktory

andyandflo wrote: »

Err why?

Isn't that what partner/husband is for??

Well it would be if they had a partner/husband.

skibadee

I was a single parent to 3 children, I worked......my children now all older and having left home tell me that they respect me for that and that it definetly set an example to them....... it wasn't easy...and I probaby would of been better off not working but its a sense of pride of knowing that you worked for what you have.

I have many single parents at work......who have found the balance of work and childcare....and are very proud of themselves...and so they should be!!