Rented flat- problems with a neighbour

PasturesNew

madnessofhpc wrote: »

sounds like he needed some of the charmin' too. :rotfl:

lol

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lilysgarden wrote: »

a cheeky fat bint from the flat downstairs but next to where ours is,

You lost all sympathy from me when you wrote this. Totally uncalled for. You sound like a neighbour from hell.

daisydays

Yes the OP is very rude. Her neighbour's weight has nothing to do with the issue.

poppysarah

john_white wrote: »

Of course knocking on the door of someone as rude as this can just as easily cause more issues.

It can. However disarming them with flowers or even a cake can work wonders.

triggerhappy_2

MadnessOfHPC wrote: »

Actually if the fat bints thumping about her flat heavy footed her weight IS an issue. I know this from my student days living in some poorly sound-proofed slumlords hovel.

I think you have misread: the neighbour being referred to lives below the OP, so her weight is of no relevance to the issue.

red_devil

i dont like the way she swore at you and i dont like the way you called her fat.

its a common problem where walls are thin you just have to muddle on.

john_white

Christmas?

mostlycheerful

“a cheeky fat bint “…“Her neighbour's weight has nothing to do with the issue.”

Well, actually, yes it does to a lot of people. When someone is a wrong’un and you’re in conflict with them then all their defects and ugliness comes into play. If someone is nice then you don’t mind or even notice their personal inadequacies but the minute you’re in conflict with them then all the personal stuff is set off in sharp relief. This is elementary social psychology. When you like someone then everything’s ok, when you don’t like someone you dislike them on more levels than just the original point of conflict, you dislike them on all levels possible and all the previous bad experiences you’ve had of encountering revolting people comes out of the background and into the foreground. It’s fruitless to try to deny this, it’s how most people’s brains are wired up. This is why in Europe and America tall good looking rich well spoken white men in suits tend to be found not guilty at trial whereas small ugly poor ethnic people wearing shabby clothes and with poor self expression tend to be found guilty, irrespective of the facts of the case. Superficial surface perception and prejudice are strong factors in most if not all human interactions. That's why we have to have anti discrimination laws to try to correct the natural endemic nastiness of humanity.

pingu2209

I am surprised that the noise travels so well in relatively new flats as I thought they were supposed to have good noise insulation. It is a bit harsh to be making comments when someone is ill, what would happen if you had a baby and it cried regularly in the night for months on end?

However, if you know that noise travels, perhaps wispering to each other after 11am would stop the noise travelling. Although it seems a bit harsh to change how you live, when how you live is not over the top.

Have you considered asking other neighbours if

a) they hear you at night/day

b) whether the complaining neighbour complains about other neighbours or the people who were there before you or other things in the flat.

You can then determine whether it is you or the neighbour who has the problem.

peterbaker

pingu2209 wrote: »

I am surprised that the noise travels so well in relatively new flats ...

Don't be. it's normal for a third world country.