Wondering how I'll pay my mortgage

TOBRUK

MaggieD wrote: »

Yes, same authority different school.

When I rang the head to explain that I would rather work with older children with mixed abilities, and also as I was supporting my mum after our recent bereavement and they wanted someone to start immediately, I felt I wasn't in a position to accept.

He was extremely understanding and said he would keep me on their records if another position arises.

Basically a very understanding and helpful man. Very unlike many of the posters on this site.

I was asking for the same reasons that oldernotwiser has stated regarding the education world. Your reasons for declining may have been reasonable under the circumstances and you may be lucky if you get another interview in the future.

As much as I understand your circumstances and reasons for your actions, it's not very nice that you are continually knocking people on here who are really trying to help you although you are generalising.

It may be that there are a couple you feel are knocking you for your actions but you asked for advice and people can't second guess your circumstances when they don't have the full picture.

Many here are genuinely trying to help you although perhaps you don't like the answers.

MaggieD

Again, twisting my argument entirely.

The advice I was hoping (ha, I realise what a fool I was for even going there in the first place now, but hindsight, etc.) to get was whether another person had been in a similar situation whereby they returned to work and their mortgage lender continued to accept the interest payments until there came a time that they were able to pay the full amount.

Sadly, the 'burn the single parent benefit scrounger' torrent which has navigated us away from the original question I posed, has brought out of the woodwork a plethora of angry single minded Nazi-like attitudes to the fore.

At least I've learnt not to come to this site for 'advice' again - mind you, I hadn't realised it was for the extreme right-winged only.

Oldernotwiser

MaggieD wrote: »

Sadly, the 'burn the single parent benefit scrounger' torrent which has navigated us away from the original question I posed, has brought out of the woodwork a plethora of angry single minded Nazi-like attituddes to the fore.
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Heaven help you communication skills if that's the way you've been reading this thread!

Some of us (as well as being pretty left wing) actually work in the field of education and understand how things work there. Others work in the area of benefits and give up their free time to advise people like you. I am sorry that you haven't liked the advice you've been given but it has generally been accurate and always offered with your best interests at heart.

MaggieD

So every piece of advice is valid and just? No-one is trying to stigmatise me for my situation or blame me (even though my children's father seems to get off scot free) for not providing for my children?

I am not accusing everyone on here, but I feel I have a right to defend myself against certain individuals who spew such vicious comments against me and my family.

TOBRUK

MaggieD wrote: »

Again, twisting my argument entirely.

The advice I was hoping (ha, I realise what a fool I was for even going there in the first place now, but hindsight, etc.) to get was whether another person had been in a similar situation whereby they returned to work and their mortgage lender continued to accept the interest payments until there came a time that they were able to pay the full amount.

Sadly, the 'burn the single parent benefit scrounger' torrent which has navigated us away from the original question I posed, has brought out of the woodwork a plethora of angry single minded Nazi-like attituddes to the fore.

At least I've learnt not to come to this site for 'advice' again - mind you, I hadn't realised it was for the extreme right-winged only.

Excuse me! If your post is directed at me personally it is quite out of order!

I am not twisting any arguement - how? I am not here to argue with anyone or to knock any single parent which I appreciate is very hard.

I am definitely not single minded and your comment is totally uncalled for and very offensive!!

I am not in your position exactly BUT as far as mortgage interest payments question goes you were given the answers by a number of people - SMI payments for job seekers allowance is ending - some as near as January 2011!

As far as mortgage lender question is concerned I advised you to contact them - I said you should make an appointment with mortgage adviser - not write a letter. I don't see how that advice was unhelpful - different lenders will have different advice to you and no person here can give you a definite answer.

I am offended by your post.

MaggieD

My post was in reply to Sam but unfortunately your reply was posted before mine. I did not intend to offend you.

andyandflo

Sam___ wrote: »

I'm sorry, but your atitude is vile, thank goodness your kind are few and far between.

Once again reported to abuse.

Thank you for that comment. I have been told that I am a lot worse than that in my life!

Few and far between? I honestly don't know what planet you are living on but it certainly isn't this one.

I talk from a point of reality - actually what goes on in this country!
I would just love you to meet my friends, neighbours and ex work colleagues. They would tell you actually what I am saying is the cold harsh truth.

Things in life may be morally wrong, but that does not make it illegal.
I just hope that you don't have to come back to your car in a supermarket car park and find it damaged with no explanation or witnesses willing to get involved. Maybe then you you will remember what I have said.

We live in a very selfish society, and if you can't beat them, you might as well join them.

MaggieD

But AndyandFlo, don't you realise that you're talking to a certain amount of martyrs who have never put a foot wrong in their lives on here? But, boy, do they love to point the finger, so they're not as pious as they preach really...

Sam____2

MaggieD wrote: »

My post was in reply to Sam but unfortunately your reply was posted before mine. I did not intend to offend you.

I have been a single parent on benefits in the past so would be pretty hypocritical of me to slate others in the same boat.

You're comments are totaly unfounded, where have I ever had a go at you or anyone else for being a single parent, trying to make out I'm some sort of benefits basher because you think it makes your argument more valid is so transparent.

Benefits are meant to be a stop gap for those in need and who can't help themselves, you are able bodied and you're children are grown up, stop making excuses for not getting a job, take one that's not in your chosen field in the meantime to get yourself back into employment, your SMI payments are going to come to an end soon and the quicker you realise this the better.

Some people just don't like hearing the truth...

Sam____2

andyandflo wrote: »

Thank you for that comment. I have been told that I am a lot worse than that in my life!

Few and far between? I honestly don't know what planet you are living on but it certainly isn't this one.

I talk from a point of reality - actually what goes on in this country!
I would just love you to meet my friends, neighbours and ex work colleagues. They would tell you actually what I am saying is the cold harsh truth.

Things in life may be morally wrong, but that does not make it illegal.
I just hope that you don't have to come back to your car in a supermarket car park and find it damaged with no explanation or witnesses willing to get involved. Maybe then you you will remember what I have said.

We live in a very selfish society, and if you can't beat them, you might as well join them.

thankfully we don't all live in your society :T

you and you're friends sound....








appalling