Going through divorce in your 20's help?

gonzo127

to be honest from a man's point of view it wouldnt bother me, probably handy since my wife had previously been married, and was actually still technically married when we started seeing each other due to the lengh of time it took for her divorce to go through. but hey

anyways as far as getting divorced as people have said you dont have to tell the guy stright away as realitically you wouldnt (or would you?) go on a first date and be like, hi im penny, i am 20 odd, i have size xxx boobs, my inside leg measurment is xx, i had my last smear so long ago etc etc

basically what i am saying is of course there will be some information you dont tell them stright away, its not like you wont tell them ever, but it isnt a massive deal unless you make it one, so you have been married, yes you are going through a divorce but it is part of your past which has made you into the person you are now, if someone cant accept that then they are stupid and you deserve better

diable

Get them to fall head over heels in love with you, then tell them ;o)))

Minniemavis

A man should like YOU for who you are, not judge you on what mistakes you have made. They should just accept you and if they don't like it then they wasn't worth bothering over in the first place. You will be fine xx

NAR

penny82 wrote: »

I am in my 20's and going through divorce, we have been separated for nearly 2yrs now.

Think the highlighted bit is what will put men off, as you are not officially single again and at the minute you have "baggage."

Once you are officially free you will find you are treated very differently.

mackemdave

Lot of men might be wary of getting involved with someone who is still married....they might get dragged into it....so it might get better when you are divorced....Also both men and women are also wary of someone who is still married as there is always the thought that they might get back together again....

Nottoobadyet

I remember there being a scene in Friends about this (child of the 90s, I know!!), where Ross was sure he'd never get a date again after his 3rd divorce was finalized. What women told him was that though it was a bit extreeme, they wouldnt mind the divorces but wouldnt date him while he was still married as they felt it was a bit wrong still to be dating a technically married man, ISWIM?

So there, wisdom of Central Perk coming right up!

gratefulforhelp_2

Deleted_User wrote: »

I have to say, the time between my ex leaving, me becoming stronger and living on my own was the best time of my life, i had freedom for the first time ever. Not accountable to anyone. At the time i felt a bit lonely when i heard the family next door through the walls, but i enjoyed what i had. Now, well i'm mummy and me time rarely happens. Not that i can or should complain.

It was the best thing that could have happened to me to.

Had the ex not done a flit with a floozy from work, I would be dying inside right now, would not have had any more children would not be married to an ace man, but would never have left because he was my child's father.

Don't rush it!