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Toddler haircut nightmare

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  • beedeedee
    beedeedee Posts: 991 Forumite
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    Just stand back for while - it's not vital that he has it cut right now, poker straight or not, is it?
    Better than giving him a phobia about haircuts surely? In a little while you may find he's changed his mind completely and will be pleading for one....like the big boys.
  • Indie_Kid
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    DON79 wrote: »
    Yes you are right, its got to be worth a try but I am just terrified that he will end up with a chopped ear or something because he jerks his head etc when trying to trim his hair or he will end up with scissors embedded in his head. :eek:

    Your DS probably isn't the first child a hairdresser / barber has come across with this phobia.
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  • 123louisa
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    I found that by googleing childrens hairdressers in wherever you are.
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  • jinky67
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    DON79 wrote: »
    wearing a hat 24/7 - school won't allow it for a start I would imagine and he is off to school in two weeks and there are times when you can't wear a hat all the time.
    ok I wasn't really being serious, but seriously is it really that big a deal at the end of the day?
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  • DON79
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    123louisa wrote: »
    I found that by googleing childrens hairdressers in wherever you are.

    just tried that, not a thing came up saying that any specialise in childrens hair.

    It is not a big deal but he is going to have to learn to cope with getting his hair cut regularly and until he is of an age to decide for himself how he would like his hair, then it will be getting cut regularly. I think 4 is too young to self style - sorry!
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  • mrcow
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    Well I had exactly the same problem - would get screaming and flailing every time we went to a hairdressers/barbers (we went to many different ones to try and see if it made a difference).

    In the end, I bought some clippers and did it myself as there is no way that my son would scream at me in the way that he screamed at the hairdressers.

    However.......it took a lot of getting used to. I used to run the clippers along my hand and then his hand to show him that there was nothing to hurt him. And also let him hold them. You need to make sure that his hair is wet enough, as otherwise it can pull and that does hurt.

    The main thing is to keep calm and turn it into a fun thing. If your husband will let you, let your son use the clippers (at a long setting!) on the back of his hair so that he can see what's going on.

    Make sure the blades are clean and oiled too - or again, they can tug and that does hurt.

    My son is 8 and still won't let me near him with a pair of scissors, but he's now even talking about going to the babrbers with his Dad next time - so there is hope.

    You just have to keep your cool and stick with it.

    If all else fails, do what I do.......resort to barefaced bribery. Go online and have a look at whatever Lego etc is fanciable and tell him that if he works with you on this, he can go out and buy it once his hair is cut.
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  • VK-2008
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    i would take him to a good barbers, then once he is over his fear you can go back to doing this at home
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  • MX5huggy
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    Can you get him to do his dads or brothers for them? just to normalize it.
  • alm721
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    Its not a sensory thing is it? My son has sensory issues had has a real problem with his head being touched generally so hairdressers is a nightmare. I find massaging his head before hand sort of desensitises his head a bit and he is able to cope a lot better. Also plenty of breaks and making sure the clippers are oiled etc so they don't tug is great advice, as it letting him try it on his dad.
    Do you think it really is hurting him or hem just says it is? As I said my son has sensory issues so will tell you it hurts if you brush his arm then can take all the skin off his knees and not notice. I guess the issue is if it really is hurting him or if he just thinks it is. If the former check the clippers, if the later then massaging/touching his head a lot before hand may help. Good luck
  • Spendless
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    I would also try a barbers first. They can cut hair far quicker with the clippers than you'll be able to. The one I took my son to when he was that age used to have a few cars for them to hold and look at whilst having their hair clipped. By the time they'd lost interest she was nomally over 1/2 way thru, a quick swap to another car to hold and she'd be done. I used to favour this barber over asking my mother who is hairdresser, purely cos the barber was so much quicker than my mum who isn't used to doing many cuts with clippers.

    At least give it a try.
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