Sacked! For the atmosphere in the office

valos_mummy

The only thing I could suggest to doobiesis is to keep an eye on facebook, if the supervisor was stupid enough to leave a message like that (and yes it's a shame you didn't print it off beforehand) then she'll be stupid enough to either send you another message rubbing it in your face, or a status update to gloat about how she shafted you and got her mate the job instead. And you screen print, reel off a copy and send it to the boss. Then sit back with your beverage of choice, and think about her face when they call her into the office.
Probably won't get you your job back; but will prove you were right, that they let a perfectly good employee go because of her, and she will get a very tough rollocking because of it.

People aren't that stupid, your co-workers will have seen exactly what she's done and she won't be thanked for it. But if you had started as permanent, imagine how hard she would have made life for you!

Other than that I'd probably complain to your agency about how you've been treated as well. Again, probably won't get you your job but they should raise the issue with your employer as they aren't going to want to supply staff to a company that condones that sort of thing.

Karma is a b*tch though. She'll get hers.

yorkshirekev

Personally I agree with the people who say that you are not friends with your workmates. Ultimately you are all in competition with one another and you should always keep that in mind.

The way I look at things is that as soon as you leave the house in the morning, you need to look after number one. People may appear to be friendly in work, but as soon as your goals conflict with one another (promotion etc) that all goes out of the window.

Even if you do socialise with workmates, keep a lot of yourself back. If they are still in contact after you have stopped working with them, then they are real friends.

It is a shame that you had to learn in such a painful and messy way.

Widelats

Wrongly treated there. Facebook i only use for family and real friends, i used to add people and they would not reply to my posts or messages, i class that as rude, so i took them off the friend list and they will stay off too, i don't care how much they know my cousin that is not how i roll.

chuckley

yes of course u get on with some people u work with, but some of them will be 'friends' with people u dont like, and here in lies the problem with Facebook. people r fake and will pretend they are ur friend and will will report things to the other party about u, e.t.c

and BOY when the chips are down and theres an 'issue' @ work, who's back does ur 'friend' have?! NOT YOURS! they will team up with the 'majority' and drop u like a lead balloon.

and people r even more stupid to add their boss on there. thats career suicide.

dickydonkin

Parva wrote: »

Just don't go on the Internet, it's the only solution! Life was so much easier 20 years ago.

Although the internet is now part and parcel of everyday life, I do agree that social networking sites and work are just not compatible.

The number of threads on these forums highlighting where people have been using company time and equipment accessing Facebook and other similar sites and have been found in breach of company policies .

But people still do it.

Nemo

I've never personally got Facebook, it's just all too messy. You put on some info about a lairy night out with your mates, and your grandma can see it. Then if someone from work who you bump into once a day wants to 'friend' you up, you end up accepting them rather than cause offence. That's when Facebook/work problems start.

I think it's a bit sad to say that people at work can NEVER be your friends though. I'd break down my relationships with the 120ish people at the place I work at as:- 5 I just don't like. They're ignorant, selfish, and just annoy me...90 are nice enough. I have no problem with them and will happily spend a couple of minutes chatting with them...22 (to make the numbers add up) I get on well with and can have a good laugh with...1 I get on really well with and totally trust...and 2 that I would call real friends. These two are people that I would definitely keep in touch with and who on principle I'd risk my own job with by supporting them if I thought they'd been treated unfairly.

I'm sure some people will think that last comment is a suicidal attitude to have, but it's just the way I feel. You just need to be a good judge of character. If you're not, then avoiding becoming too friendly with colleagues may be the best thing to do.

SarEl

Nemo wrote: »

...and 2 that I would call real friends. These two are people that I would definitely keep in touch with and who on principle I'd risk my own job with by supporting them if I thought they'd been treated unfairly.

I agree that it is probably unrealistic given the amount of time spent at work that one wouldn't become friends with someone. I think the point is to not make assumptions about work based "friendships" - perhaps especially if you haven't known people for very long.

After all, as has been succintly pointed out in the OP, the test isn't whether you would risk your job for them - it's whether or not they would return the favour. Unfortunately, when the chips are down, such friends are few and far between

teabelly

It is safer to assume that work colleagues aren't suitable as friends on facebook. There's no reason to not add them on something more professional like linkedin. This way you don't offend but you don't risk the problem of work colleagues seeing into your personal life. Also if any of your friends are friends with anyone you work with moaning about work on facebook becomes an automatic no-no as somehow word will get around even if it is unintentional. One slip with the privacy settings and you're toast.

Hermia

teabelly wrote: »

It is safer to assume that work colleagues aren't suitable as friends on facebook. There's no reason to not add them on something more professional like linkedin. This way you don't offend but you don't risk the problem of work colleagues seeing into your personal life. Also if any of your friends are friends with anyone you work with moaning about work on facebook becomes an automatic no-no as somehow word will get around even if it is unintentional. One slip with the privacy settings and you're toast.

I agree. I have some ex-colleagues on Facebook but I never friend any current colleagues on there. I always explain why if they ask and I've never had anyone not understand or get offended.

It's not just about accidently slagging off work that's the problem in my opinion. It could also be a problem if a friend posts something on your wall about your life you'd rather your colleagues didn't know or that could be misconstrued. E.g. my ex-colleague got a lot of grief from our very religious boss when he found out she was an atheist via Facebook. Another friend works with kids and never friends anyone she meets professionally. She has a couple of slightly saucy (but innocent) hobbies like burlesque dance classes. She says there are some very straight-laced and paranoid parents out there so she doesn't want anyone using this information against her.

bendix

What a ridiculous story, and so symptomatic of modern life.

Here we have a person effectively losing their job because two (sorry to say this, but it's true) immature people - a supervisor and their staff member - got into a childish fight by email, txt and bloody Facebook.

Perhaps if one or the other of you actually TALKED to each other face to face, rather than relying on electronic messaging, this wouldn't have happened.

Hey, people, let's talk to each other, shall we?