Friends Betrayal

msmyth18

Hello,

Brace yourselves this is very jerry springer like issue!

Basically myself and two best mates threw a bbq when his parents were away(All of us are 20).
We stocked up and invited some of our friends, the friend who was hosting the bbq allowed his younger sister to invite some friends

And the other friends sister also came along.

Everything was going well and eventually the party died down and people started to go to sleep.

The next day i found out that one of our friends who was invited slept with my friends(not the host the other one) Sister.

Both my self and the guy who was hosting are now aware of this, we arent really sure what to do!

A) we tell him knowing the trouble it will cause

we have a word with his sister directly

C) we pretend we know nothing



We found out because one of the other people actually saw this happen, they arent going to tell anyone else.

Any advice?

shell_girl

Betrayal how? In the nicest possible way (and providing it was consensual as is implied by your wording) you need to butt out of this one. It's none of your business.

Make-it-3

How much "younger" were these girls?

jackieglasgow

Was she a consenting adult? If not, then your friend is not very responsbile inviting his underage sister to a party where drink would be consumed! Butt out, its no one's business but the two people involved.

Phirefly

msmyth18 wrote: »

A) we tell him knowing the trouble it will cause

You've not expalined why it will cause trouble. So - why will it cause trouble?

Harrowing_2

:rotfl:No sex please, we're British;)

pinkshoes

Unless the girl in question is under 16, then it's none of your business and is only the business of the guy and girl involved.

Betrayal doesn't even come into question!!

SugarSpun

Is this about the mythical rule that you don't do your friends' siblings?

Mythical. Say nothing, if they make it a regular thing and get together you can be quietly pleased that you helped a new relationship along, but in the meantime who puts what where is only a concern of yours if you own the what or the where or are in a relationship with the owner thereof.

msmyth18

She is 16.

The reason why I count it as a betrayal is the lad involved is supposed to be one of his best mates. I see it as almost an unwritten rule that you do not do things like that with a mates sister ( unless you speak to them first )
This was very clearly nothing to do with him genuinely liking her.

I believe it would cause trouble because firstly he himself probably would feel betrayed by his friend, and also his relationship with his sister would probably be affected.

jackieglasgow

Its none of your business to get involved. You speak to the guy concerned and tell him you aren't impressed if you must, but you have no right to interfere in any of their relationships. You tell your mate he shouldn't be inviting underage girls to parties where you are all drinking, and leave it at that.

Incidentally, I went out with my BFF's younger brother when I was 20 and he 16/17, and they were not amused. We've been married twelve years with two children.

mountainofdebt

Have you stop think that they might have fancied each other for ages but didn't get together because they knew they would face this petty reaction? How do you know he doesn't genuinely like her?

I doubt very much the mate's sister would thank her brother for getting involved as well.