Should adult children pay rent, if so how much?

flo5

Hi

My daughter her partner and their daughter are returning to the family home. They will have one double bedroom between them and free use of everything else. They have pets but l am not including these in my costings.

My quandary is should l ask for money from them and if so how much.
To be honest our circusmtances dictate that l will need to have some sort of contribution for household expenses from them but l am at a loss to what l should ask/expect.

Dtr is going to uni in Sept. Partner works (This has just been reduced to 24 hours a week) grandaughter will attend nursery for 2 days a week and we already look after her as and when required.

Any suggestions most welcome.

Thank you

pigpen

Absolutely they should!!

I think stuff like this is very individual so you should sit down with them and discuss it.

I'd ask for a weekly contribution to rent/mortgage and council tax bills and food etc. They would be expected to feed their own pets.. they are not yours and also provide any extras/clothes/makeup/toiletries they would want and I would make it quite clear if there were any 'Can i not pay you this week's' there would be harsh words.. that would not be acceptable. i would also want a percentage of the utilities.. half or a third depending on how much they used/how often they were in the house etc.

Dave101t

they should never, not pay? you would be mad!
id do 300 quid per person but you may want to go soft and say 300 all in

gonzo127

yes i personally beleive adult children should pay rent even in the family home, personally i think a reasonable amount would be around 10-20% of their income, however of course this is a bit more difficult in your situation where it is actually 3 people moving in.

have you double checked how them moving in is going to affect any benifits you and they are currently getting as a lot is based on how many adults are in the house or household income etc

ManOnTheMoon

33% of income my 17yo pays, but she is single and never left home and covers everything.

Will be different for different circumstances, but they should contribute, no doubt.

Fang_3

This isn't a case of whether they should pay because your circumstances dictate that they must so hopefully that will prevent the: "YOU MUST CHARGE THEM OR THEY WILL NEVER GROW UP AND THEY WILL DIE!!!1 DIE I TELL YOU!!11" people from banging on.

You have to look at what your costs are and what you are providing. If you're providing food and washing then it will be more than if not. Until we know exactly what you are providing, we cannot make a reasonable judgement and give a figure. I would think that £300 as a minimum starting point would be fair however.

Morgan_Ree

LOL are you my mum?

I'll be moving back to the parentals in 3 weeks until we find a new place.
They have said they are not going to charge us rent as such, they just want some money to cover the extra food as well the utilities.
We offered £400 but they said no that's too much (god I love parents ) They said £200 will cover it.

Not sure I'm going to want to move back out again!

betti911

I didn't pay rent when I lived at home. I found it a bit of a shock when I had to pay a mortgage for the first time though!

One of my colleagues told me that she collected rent money off of her children and without telling them put it in a bank account. When the kids eventually came to buy a house then she gave this to them as part of their deposit. I thought that was a really good idea if you don't require the money from them to pay your existing bills.

masterlumps

i would say the amount has to depend on the reason they are moving home tbh -

flo5

Wow, thanks for all the quick replies. I was not sure how much information to give in OP so thought the basics might help.
Dtr is 22 so is partner. Child is 2. dtr will have her Uni grant/loan, child benefit and tax credits. Her partner will have wtc and wages.
When they moved back the last time. My dtr was on maternity leave and her partner was working my grandaughter was only a baby so we charged £65 per week this was exculsive for food, utilities, laundry. So we had thought about £100 per week. It is only our intention to cover the extra costs that will be incurred for them being here rather than make a profit.

Again any comment most welcome

Thank you

HappyMJ

Sounds fair....£100 per week for 3 is OK.