Cheapest burial/cremation/disposal at sea etc.

escortg3

Errata wrote: »

That would seem to be the best way to do it

lol. yeah but i have been asked by some relatives after someone has died, to then donate to science to save the funeral bill. When you then say um sorry but now they are deceased they cant actually give there permission now its to late, they get upset because they say thats what the deceasd wanted to do. So people need to be aware they need to arrange it before they die.

escortg3

MrsE wrote: »

I thought they would want you more in those cases.......

I signed that thing on my licence that they could have any organs. While I wouldn't be against them having my body I don't know how DH & DD would feel. TBH I'm not sure I would give one of them away for a while. I think the funeral can be part of the grieving process.

I agree, i think it would be hard not to have a funeral. to think of them in jars. no no . well done to those that can do it, because without them who would trainee medical people practice on:T

Errata

I understand there is a shortage of dead bodies donated to medical schools at the moment. Although artificial bodies and bits and pieces are useful, they don't have the same 'feel' as human bodies, which is one of the things that medical students need experience in.

Gemmy_2

Nixer wrote: »

I'd quite like to be composted (am a keen, if rubbish, gardener), but not sure if you can. It doesn't really matter that much to me though because whatever happens will be down to whoever is left behind. They might respect my wishes and they might not, but I'm certainly not going to be around to care. Whatever's most bearable and easy for them is fine by me.
Having said that my partner's father died a couple of weeks ago and he'd specified no religion in the funeral service and at one point his mum said "should we have a prayer?". I felt that it was wrong to disregard his wish, and in fact she decided not to in the end. I guess that means I care more about respecting other people's wishes than in having any of my own.

You can!! Its what my grandad is turning into!
Hes buried at this ground: http://westallpark.homestead.com/

LilacPixie

MrsE wrote: »

I thought they would want you more in those cases.......

I signed that thing on my licence that they could have any organs. While I wouldn't be against them having my body I don't know how DH & DD would feel. TBH I'm not sure I would give one of them away for a while. I think the funeral can be part of the grieving process.

I guess it depends on your views of death. I tend to sway to the ideology that your body is just a vessel you live inside, onc ethe body dies you move on to where ever. My OH knows my thoughts on this and when I pop it so to speak they can have whatever is usable to help others. It is a body I would have no further requirment for.

thistledome

I liked the idea of donating myself to medical research but was a bit disappointed to find that they won't always accept you. One reason for rejection was if you'd had an autopsy, so you could think you'd arranged for disposal only to have your relatives lumbered with the remains if you have an autopsy.

It would be better if they just agreed to take you in regardless, surely they could find a use for the parts and just cremate the rest with normal hospital waste? (Breaking: 1963 female caucasion - most parts available. Sorry no brain).

One of my pet peeves is the rigmarole, ceremony and expense that's devoted to disposing of dead human tissue. As a species we seem to afford more respect to the dead than the living, which is completely mad IMO.

Person_one

LilacPixie wrote: »

I guess it depends on your views of death. I tend to sway to the ideology that your body is just a vessel you live inside, onc ethe body dies you move on to where ever. My OH knows my thoughts on this and when I pop it so to speak they can have whatever is usable to help others. It is a body I would have no further requirment for.

I used to think this way until the death of somebody I loved very much.

I still feel this way on a logical level, but when it comes down to it, it can be very hard to let the last of that person's physical presence go.

Organs are one thing, but the whole body is something else entirely.

I'm on the donor register and they can take as much as they like, but I'll leave it up to my family to decide after that. They're the ones who'll have needs to be met at that point, not me.

property.advert

I tell the missus to check my pockets, put me in a garbage bag and chuck me out with the rubbish. Or just have a big hole ready in the garden and when you go, someone you trust can just slide you in.

miserable_ol_so_n_so

So many interesting posts have appeared on here. I will return later and thank all those who have contributed. In the meantime.........need to hit the bottle.....to steady the nerves.....purely medicinal I assure myself.......

Doozergirl

Gemmy wrote: »

You can!! Its what my grandad is turning into!
Hes buried at this ground: http://westallpark.homestead.com/

My mum is there too It's perfect.

It's so beautiful and peaceful there in the middle of countryside and I like the fact that it is unfussy, that you don't laden up graves with ornaments and trinkets, that the grass grows and that it will return simpy to being countryside one day.

I wouldn't want to worry about not being a burden on my family when I'm gone - I think you could end up being more of a burden by making demands that could end up being quite stressful for them. I'd like them to do it in their own way - whatever makes the grieving process most bearable for them. My mum's ashes moved house with me twice before I found the right place and time to inter them.