Cheapest burial/cremation/disposal at sea etc.

DS4215

OP - I think we are on the same wavelength. For years I've been saying I want them to ferry me up to the nearest coastal cliffs and dump me over in a cardboard box!

meg72

righter wrote: »

having buried my son last year,I can tell you cardboard coffins are not that cheap. £250-300. if we had been at home we would have made the coffin ourselves. We had to buy two,cardboard for preferred burial choice,and wooden for our ferry.
We buried him on our own land,which obviously cost nothing. this is permissible if you own land.

Hi you are quite right I too buried a Son this year and the cardboard
coffin he requested was dearer than a wooden one, as he left no estate and I am on basic pension . it had to be the wooden one.

What distressed me more than anything was that he had requested No flowers, he said that anyone who wanted to spend some money
should give it instead to his two young sons. People took absolutely no notice of this and there were literally hundreds of pounds worth of flowers from people he hardly knew. Wasted, His family respected his last wish and didnt send any.

God bless Meg

Gemmy_2

meg72 wrote: »

Hi you are quite right I too buried a Son this year and the cardboard
coffin he requested was dearer than a wooden one, as he left no estate and I am on basic pension . it had to be the wooden one.

What distressed me more than anything was that he had requested No flowers, he said that anyone who wanted to spend some money
should give it instead to his two young sons. People took absolutely no notice of this and there were literally hundreds of pounds worth of flowers from people he hardly knew. Wasted, His family respected his last wish and didnt send any.

God bless Meg

My Grandad had a humanist funural and the cardboard coffins cost way more than the basic wooden ones as they had to structure it with wood to hold a body

righter

We just used an ordinary estate car to transport the coffin this end,a body can rest any where,then be moved by van or large car. Do not believe funeral directors about what can or cannot be done.

We already knew that we were going to have DIY funerals,and be buried at home,because I checked the Natural death site (they do a handbook) years ago....unfortunately i did not expect to have to bury my own child.
He is close by,among trees,facing the sea,with a stone cairn that we built....I think taking control of the process helped me a lot...and that's how it used to be done.

I hope you are okay Meg72

mountainofdebt

miserable_ol_so_n_so wrote: »

This grieving business is not important to me.

Might not be to you but it might to your loved ones.

What ever ethnic back ground a person comes from, there are certain rituals that have developed over time and one of these rituals involves death and the burial of the body (can't bring myself to use the word disposal).

These rituals have come about as a way of those left behind deal with their grieving - its well documented that when this process doesn't follow the normal course of events that the grief is harder to deal with.

It doesn't have to be expensive.

LilacPixie

Donate to medical science I think is the cheapest. The medical school near me has the cadaver cremated once done. My aunt donated herself and the medical school returned ashes after about 2 years. The urn is buried in her sons garden now. Nice and simple, its what she wanted.

Nixer

I'd quite like to be composted (am a keen, if rubbish, gardener), but not sure if you can. It doesn't really matter that much to me though because whatever happens will be down to whoever is left behind. They might respect my wishes and they might not, but I'm certainly not going to be around to care. Whatever's most bearable and easy for them is fine by me.
Having said that my partner's father died a couple of weeks ago and he'd specified no religion in the funeral service and at one point his mum said "should we have a prayer?". I felt that it was wrong to disregard his wish, and in fact she decided not to in the end. I guess that means I care more about respecting other people's wishes than in having any of my own.

escortg3

You must apply before you die to donate your body to medical science. then once you die they will take you if you meet certain criteria. If you have had any infectious diseases or are an amputee or obese etc etc they wont accept you. they also could be full at your time and have no need for your body. Cheapest way is to be buried on your own land. Although you do need to own that property or land outright ie no mortgage. it will need to be put on the land registry though and can reduce the value of your property by 25%. You do not need a coffin to be cremated you can just be covered in a cloth. You family can transport you in own vehicle to crematorium and own bearers. You can do your own paperwork for cremation or burial but might be appropriate to have a funeral directors to remove and care for the deceased approx 250.00 then do everything else yourself. Cremation in my area is 447.00 but you also need two doctors to fill out crem papers which costs 73.50 each = 147.00. Burial at sea is very expensive. What ever you decide really makes no difference because it is up to your next of kin once you are deceased whether they carry out your wishes or not.

Errata

You must apply before you die to donate your body to medical science.

That would seem to be the best way to do it

MrsE_2

escortg3 wrote: »

You must apply before you die to donate your body to medical science. then once you die they will take you if you meet certain criteria. If you have had any infectious diseases or are an amputee or obese etc etc they wont accept you. .

I thought they would want you more in those cases.......

I signed that thing on my licence that they could have any organs. While I wouldn't be against them having my body I don't know how DH & DD would feel. TBH I'm not sure I would give one of them away for a while. I think the funeral can be part of the grieving process.