Trying for a Baby Part Six

QQuaver

twigpig wrote: »

Shame I wasted OH's super stuff in the middle of last night - lol. At least he'll get the night off later..... :-)

:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:
Good idea to keep the swimmers fresh by disposing the old ones every other day:cool:

CBFM High for me today at last at CD14.
Will use Preseed tonight:j

littleme1982

Hi, thank you all for your messages. DH has wanted kids for years and I have been the one who wanted the career!

DH keeps saying it will all be fine, dont worry but its not as easy as that is it! I am the one who deals with all the finances in our house and I know that I would not be able to not work until baby started school!

Also very much want a house of our own so saving for the 40k deposit would have to be put on hold but you cant have everything you want at once can you?

I dont know about your but talking about money can sometimes end in a row

x

jcr16

luby-lu wrote: »

how long did yours take?

hi luby, i'm so sorry for you lose. i m/c at 12 weeks. 4th nov 02. i had a d & c. i can't remember how long it took for AF to come back but i found out i was preg with our little princess on feb 14th 03. so i must of been about 4 or 5 weeks then. so it really didn't take too long. of course everyones body is different.

i was so scared at falling preg again but i've since gone on to have 3 normal pregnacies and healthy children.

twigpig

Hi littleme, OH and me already know that I would have to go back to work, similar to a lot of other people. I'm expecting to reduce my hours and days to make it easier. To be honest, most people would struggle financially if one parent had to give up work for any length of time. Could you look at part time to ease the pressure on you both?

pinkpig08

Good luck QQ

jcr16

littleme i know it easier said than done, but try not to worry about money.

i had planned to return to work when my little one was born. and i did when she was 7 months old. but nursing shifts don't really work with a little one. i just couldn't do it. i tried for a month but although i loved my job it was the hardest thing ever not being there for my little one. so i gave up. hubby didn't mind if i worked or not, it was my choice but he was more than happy for me to give up. yes it made it tight to start off with and it meant that when we sold our small 1 bed flat we couldn't buy straight away again. and then house prices when stupid so we still prced out. even with hubbys fab wage. but we made it work. and tbh i wouldn't change any of it.

but you have to do whats right for you. you might find when your little one is born you want to work full time, or you might find even part time is too much. until your little one is in your arms you just can't plan how your be. so try not to worry too much about it now. i just imagine every mum worked full time and had kids and it was ok. i never imagined i'd feel how i did. i had so much guilt about not working and being a stay at home mum. i hate the sigma you get from those who say ' oh yeah well it alright for you isn't it' . not realising that it is a huge worry knowing you hubby provides for the whole family. the pressure he might be under. but we wouldn't have it any other way. it works really well for us , and were all really happy with it.

Doglover

Yay QQ - happy BDing!

Right the witch has just arrived so does that mean I can start with grapefruit and epo until ov? Also, when should I start preseed? I was thinking from about cd7 until after OV and the same with my opks. I don't want to miss it in case I'm an early or late ov'er. My poor dh had better rest up over the next few days!!

Sbdta x

SusanC_2

luby-lu wrote: »

Unfortunatly i will be joining you again soon. Me and OH had been TTC for 10mnths when i got my BFP, but i had a missed miscarriage at 11.5 weeks, only found out at scan, and had a Evac on tues 5th. Physically i have been fine, no cramps, minimal bleeding since op so i think that has helped me deal with it a lot better. we have decided to start trying as soon as AF turns up, so i am praying it doesnt take long. does anyone have any experience of this? how long did yours take?

Also i am scared stiff it will happen again, although i know there is no greater chance of it happening to me than anyone else, i suppose it is just natural to feel that way!

:grouphug: I ovulated nine days after I'd stopped bleeding but mine was complete and had no medical intervention. From what I have read, miscarriage is more common in a first pregnancy and it's only if you have more than one in a row that the likelihood of having one again is increased so statistically you should be no more likely than average to have another one next time. And I agree that it is natural to worry about it happening again even though the chances are it won't.

madbird_2

Hi Ladies,

Just dropping in to check up on you all...still feel part of you, its only a week today since BFP.

Hello to anyone who has joined in the last week, sorry to those AF got.

QQ good news on the egg front, keeping everything crossed (even legs now;):D)

Luby sorry to hear your new, look after yourself.

Can only repeat what Feisty said and not to stress over if you've caught the right time, worrying about no peak on CBFM. As good as CBFM is I only in 4 months got 2 peaks in my second month. It might be an idea to try different ov sticks as well if you aren't sure. I knew when I ov'd this month using Tesco ov sticks, if relied on CBFM may have missed it.

If I can be of any hope to anyone, I'm 39, had been on the depo injection, very overweight and high blood pressure. I never expected a BFP to be honest. So I'm treasuring everyday at the moment.

Take care, happy bd'ing and SBDTA xxx

QQuaver

Doglover wrote: »

does that mean I can start with grapefruit and epo until ov? Also, when should I start preseed? I was thinking from about cd7 until after OV and the same with my opks. I don't want to miss it in case I'm an early or late ov'er. My poor dh had better rest up over the next few days!!

You can start epo now until ov. As for grapefruit juice, you can start later, say CD7 same as preseed.
Good luck!:j