Trying for a Baby Part Six

twigpig

bigzippy wrote: »

I'm not sure whether to take a step back from this thread or not tbh........it's just that I also want to be genuinely pleased for me too :o

As someone who did take a few months away from the board, I can say that we all have those crappy days where no matter where you look, there's some undeserving mum that doesn't know how to treat her children, or everyone around you seems to be announcing their pregnancy when you just want it to be "my turn".

Your baby is so much wanted and when (not if), when it comes along, you'll give it so much love and care as you absolutely know what you want in your life.

You have a wonderful husband and the rest will all come in time. It will be all the more special when it does and it will make you stronger and appreciate the little things in life. Trust me you'll feel better soon when you look at your husband and your life and realise that it's only the start of you building your life together....... :kisses:

bigzippy

emsbet wrote: »

After all the rain we've had recently I'll take every little bt I can get! It's really sunny this evening at home (north of Manc) so it's all good!

We must be fairly close in proximity That breeze is pretty hefty though!

((hugs)) Sorry that you are feeling down. Only you can decide if you need to take a break from the thread but know that if you stick around we are ALL here for you. It's only human to feel jealous and envious of others when they have what you want, try not to be so hard on yourself.
Hope you feel better soon.

Thanks I think it's AF hormones messing with me, as well as being thoroughly sick to death of being so poorly tbh I'll perk up soon, just reckon I'll be quieter til then...

I know what you mean about FB - everytime I log on someone has just had a baby or announcing they are expecting! I make it worse for myself because I can't stop myself looking at the pictures! I'm like you the one that gets to me the most is people who moan about there kids! It makes me cross because I would give anything to have what they have and they are moaning and b*tching about it! I know that it must be hard being a parent and dealing with kids when they are naughty but some people seem to moan about it all the time and don't seem to appreciate what they have but the same can be said about all of us at one time or another.

xx

I mean, I get that kids are hard work. I'm not daft. But one in particular properly moans that she "can't" even get a snack because she just "has to" hold her 5month old baby ALL the time. It's ridiculous - she literally doesn't even let the baby sleep in a moses basket/cot, and is up round the clock to do this apart from when her OH takes over for a couple of hours for her to have a nap. It drives me mental! Not particularly that she's chosen to do this, that's her choice (although I don't think it's healthy for any of the 3 of them tbh!) - it's that she has chosen to do it, and then makes out that it's not a choice, that she HAS to do it and can't do anything and is knackered and had no sleep and all that. It's like she's just inventing reasons for her to be able to moan?! (Just to be clear, it's not that the baby is a particularly demanding baby or anything, she doesn't have colic, she isn't ill, there's no reason for her to be coddled so much)

Incidentally, this is the same person that asked me (which I haven't said yes to) to be Godmother... :cool:


In other news, MIL has been told that she's getting a bit of a windfall from her cousin's estate, and has just rung to tell me (while DH is at her flat) that she is giving us £1k! :shocked: I am, of course, already mentally spending it

twigpig

bigzippy wrote: »

In other news, MIL has been told that she's getting a bit of a windfall from her cousin's estate, and has just rung to tell me (while DH is at her flat) that she is giving us £1k! :shocked: I am, of course, already mentally spending it

See, good things happen to good people.....

emsbet

bigzippy wrote: »

We must be fairly close in proximity That breeze is pretty hefty though!

Oooo! Maybe It is rather breezy at the moment!

bigzippy wrote: »

Thanks I think it's AF hormones messing with me, as well as being thoroughly sick to death of being so poorly tbh I'll perk up soon, just reckon I'll be quieter til then...
I mean, I get that kids are hard work. I'm not daft. But one in particular properly moans that she "can't" even get a snack because she just "has to" hold her 5month old baby ALL the time. It's ridiculous - she literally doesn't even let the baby sleep in a moses basket/cot, and is up round the clock to do this apart from when her OH takes over for a couple of hours for her to have a nap. It drives me mental! Not particularly that she's chosen to do this, that's her choice (although I don't think it's healthy for any of the 3 of them tbh!) - it's that she has chosen to do it, and then makes out that it's not a choice, that she HAS to do it and can't do anything and is knackered and had no sleep and all that. It's like she's just inventing reasons for her to be able to moan?! (Just to be clear, it's not that the baby is a particularly demanding baby or anything, she doesn't have colic, she isn't ill, there's no reason for her to be coddled so much)

Incidentally, this is the same person that asked me (which I haven't said yes to) to be Godmother... :cool:

:eek:That's odd! All she's going to acheive is to end up making her child very clingy!
I have two friends on FB who are always moaning about there kids and calling them brats!

bigzippy wrote: »

In other news, MIL has been told that she's getting a bit of a windfall from her cousin's estate, and has just rung to tell me (while DH is at her flat) that she is giving us £1k! :shocked: I am, of course, already mentally spending it

Oooo! A nice spending spree might be good for you! Tell DH it's medicinal! :rotfl:

xx

bigzippy

twigpig wrote: »

You have a wonderful husband and the rest will all come in time. It will be all the more special when it does and it will make you stronger and appreciate the little things in life. Trust me you'll feel better soon when you look at your husband and your life and realise that it's only the start of you building your life together....... :kisses:

Thanks Twigpig, you made me tear up (some more? )
I do have a wonderful husband, I know I'm really lucky to have him, especially as he ends up being my carer as well as my husband and best friend most days, he really is an angel :A I couldn't be happier, in that respect, but...well you all know what would make the picture complete I'm also really glad that we've sorted the finances and aren't scratching for every penny any more (and DH got a payrise last week, did I say? ) and have a little baby-nest egg aside for when (if?) it happens

I guess the PCOS and not knowing if I'm even ovulating (OPKs and BBTs aren't helping me discover atm either ) aren't helping my PMA either...

Bless him, DH is even saying things about how he keeps seeing posters and stuff for fostering/adoption and that he's open to it (as am I, I think I always thought I'd have a house-full like Pippa in Home and Away! :rotfl:) but that he'd really like to have one (or more) of our own biologically first.:o He's so lovely, I know I'm so lucky to have him, I just end up feeling like I'm letting him down with my stupid crummy body all the time

bigzippy

twigpig wrote: »

See, good things happen to good people.....

:A Aww, thanks dude. You haven't seen me with PMT yet though :rotfl:

emsbet wrote: »

:eek:That's odd! All she's going to acheive is to end up making her child very clingy!

Tell me about it! It's got "sleeping in M&D's bed til she's 13" written all over it!:shocked: She has even gone out of her way (after the fact) to find articles that support her bizarre behaviour and reckons that because the baby isn't lying down in cots/baskets/carseats "all the time" that the baby's 'core muscles' are stronger and it's actually "helping" her with sitting up and stuff. There's no point saying anything to her though, her mother is even a midwife and can't get through to her.:cool:

It's a shame really, cos it obviously comes from her own issues, and she's going to end up passing on loads to her baby

I have two friends on FB who are always moaning about there kids and calling them brats!

Yeah, I tend to avoid people/posts like that, I can't handle it, especially not at the moment. I can't abide it when you're in the street/supermarket and some (usually chavvy, I have to say) woman is screeching blue murder (usually swearing and threatening) at her kids

Oooo! A nice spending spree might be good for you! Tell DH it's medicinal! :rotfl:

:rotfl: I reckon DH might have designs of his own on this money!!:rotfl:

In fairness, I've had quite a few treats lately (in comparison to "normal" or what it used to be like when we were brassic) -mainly because DH wants me to have nice things and cheer me up... I told you he was a sweetie! :A I think we might put half in the baby-egg nest, and spend half on things in the house/bits of overdrafts/towards his new laptop geekery Oh and a nice (if they can be nice!:cool:) lightweight wheelchair for me. Not that I've discussed this with DH yet! :rotfl:

emsbet

bigzippy wrote: »

I do have a wonderful husband, I know I'm really lucky to have him, especially as he ends up being my carer as well as my husband and best friend most days, he really is an angel :A I couldn't be happier, in that respect, but...well you all know what would make the picture complete I'm also really glad that we've sorted the finances and aren't scratching for every penny any more (and DH got a payrise last week, did I say? ) and have a little baby-nest egg aside for when (if?) it happens

I just end up feeling like I'm letting him down with my stupid crummy body all the time

Sounds like you have a great one there! I'm sure he doesn't feel like you are letting him down- you are in it together. He looks after you because he loves you and I'm sure you'd do the same for him.

Good news on the pay rise (my DH also got one this week! ) and the nest-egg for WHEN it happens

xx

bigzippy

emsbet wrote: »

Sounds like you have a great one there! I'm sure he doesn't feel like you are letting him down- you are in it together. He looks after you because he loves you and I'm sure you'd do the same for him.

Bah, he says the same...but I'm wallowing here:rotfl:;)

Good news on the pay rise (my DH also got one this week! )

:beer: Nice one!:beer:

emsbet

bigzippy wrote: »

It's a shame really, cos it obviously comes from her own issues, and she's going to end up passing on loads to her baby

That's a shame.

bigzippy wrote: »

In fairness, I've had quite a few treats lately (in comparison to "normal" or what it used to be like when we were brassic) -mainly because DH wants me to have nice things and cheer me up... I told you he was a sweetie! :A

Awww! Every girl deserves some nice things every now and again!

xx

emsbet

bigzippy wrote: »

Bah, he says the same...but I'm wallowing here:rotfl:;)

There you go then! You're out-voted!

bigzippy wrote: »

:beer: Nice one!:beer:

Yeah it's good because the organisation I work for is going to be closed down and as I'm not pregnant yet I'm going to miss out on the Mat pay package so I will only be on MA, but with this pay rise we will be ok Just need that lottery win now and we will be sorted! :rotfl:

xx