Feeling low...

MrGreen44

Hi,

I was wondering if there is life after 50?

Reason I ask is because even though I have worked from the age of 14 seem to struggle. I rent privately as a previous relationship broke down and well needed somewhere to live. Have tried to get social housing but I am not urgent so drop down the list. Recent years health issues mean I have an uncertain future so need to prepare.

I have no real capital or pension to fall back on, would I get any help for my medical condition?

Do not want hand outs or benefits or even to stop working [while I still can!]

Just want to live a comfortable quiet life.

Kev

tanith

Life is what you make it so they say and there is some truth there... as for your medical condition it depends on what it is and how seriously it affects your life.. do you have any family support? Or friends? if you are not talking about benefits what sort of help are you hoping for? A bit more info would be good

MrGreen44

Sorry for being rather vague, yes I do have friends and family but no one likes to burden others with problems.

Ok so I need to get some stuff sorted starting with bills, then savings, do not have debts [never have].

Would like to get my feet in door so to speak, social housing struck as a way to reduce rent costs and maybe plan for the future if/when my health gets worse.

Forgive me I may sound down but I am 'rich' if only in life and lately things are starting to pass me by, maybe I need to talk to someone, doctors, a friend, family.

Thanks

Kev

tanith

Well its good you have friends and family nearby and I'm sure there is someone who would listen, why not invite them for a meal or just a coffee.. its amazing how much difference getting outstanding bills/paperwork into order , its one thing off your mind so you can concentrate on getting involved with things outside your normal work day. If you are a single male I think you will struggle to get anywhere with social housing as you will be way down the list of priorities... there are so many people on waiting lists but of course if you illness is going to affect you greatly then that could make a difference... can you join in with colleagues on a cinema outing or visit to the pub maybe , just making contact with people can make a difference and lead to other opportunities... make a start today on your bills and make an effort to chat to someone...

McKneff

Hello Mr Green, yes you do sound a bit down but you must think a bit more positively. Some of it came over as positive,
you say your life is 'rich' well, thats a start.
Me, I started with RA in my early forties, full body RH, pain, pain and more pain, and depression because of it.
However, here i am 20 years later, still work, part time now but full time until i got my state pension last year.
(i had four months off while the RA stabilised) I have Osteoporosis, pernicious anaemia, but i look fine lol. I just get up and
get on with it. Cos thats what people of our generation do.

Get out more, go to the library, go swimming, if your health will allow. Find positive things to do every day, even if its just baking a cake.
Square your shoulders, give yourself a mental shake. Up and at 'em, thats what I say.
Annie

MrGreen44

Well that told me , my medical condition I know will not improve but I can make a start to change my way of life to cope.

Social housing may not be on the cards but reading here I could get help with housing benefit. So that is a start.

Saving money on bills seems very complicated but again I could get help from friends and family.

Money was never an issue as you come into this world with nothing and you cannot take it with you, but would be nice to live more comfortably.

Will look at getting out, very outgoing kind of person. A very skilled carpenter and artist.

Kev

Farway

MrGreen44 wrote: »

. A very skilled carpenter and artist.

Kev

Wow there are two very in demand skills / talents

Could you possibly teach these subjects at was once called "Evening classes"? No idea of it's new upmarket designation

This would give income, satisfaction, and possible new openings to areas yet unknown

There must be other opportunities for such talents as well

McKneff

MrGreen44 wrote: »

Well that told me ,

Will look at getting out, very outgoing kind of person. A very skilled carpenter and artist.

Kev

In the nicest possible way

Wow, i admire that you have a couple of skills, what i feel sad about any body who has a skill and doesnt use it, it means it is wasted.
( I know that there is a big difference between carpentry and joinery)

Make some small peices of furniture and do some artwork and sell them. Friends and family or Get them into some arty farty shops, just use them (the skills that is)

Good luck.

MrGreen44

I guess I could use my skills to bring in some beer money, my art was more of a hobby to me a way of expressing myself.

Teaching might take more out that I can give, but I would use my skills to help others.

Kev

realshannon

you need to go onto "entitled to" website to give you a start but the rest has been said. You are right to think about it, I have been nagging my sister who cant see the wood for the trees, and has got her head down a rabbit burrow I am sure, but I can only try! Maybe try and think of it differently, instead of thinking negatively think how potentially exciting it could be to go into a new chapter in your life doing things you enjoy and are good at like the carpentry and artist, both very skilled and people admire people like you who can do it. Find out about markets nearby that you could sell some items at - even if you sell one a day, it will boost your confidence. When I feel down, which is alot lately, I cook, which must be like your skills, not everyone can do it, its rewarding, you get compliments and its exciting when it takes shape - hope that helps

MrGreen44

I believe that art can be enjoyed by anyone, the desire to try is the first step.

Carpentry is similar to cooking in that you need a plan [recipe], materials [ingredients]. you of course need to be able to measure [weigh etc.]

A skill can be learned by most people, I had to start somewhere.

I am running on, Entitled to ok lets see

Kev