how much should my daughter be paying for her keep

robpw2

laurarobby wrote: »

i cant believe how much some of you charge ur kids i dont know anyone that pays more then £140 a month to there parents (and they dont do anything around the house etc) im quite shocked i cant bare to think i would charge my son that much. i choose to have children so i expect to support him always!

whilst i agree with most of what you saying you get to a point where you need to teach your children how to look after themselves .

what happens when someone has lived with their parents all their lives and not done anything for themsleves and when parents died they will be very lost
and surely if your family needed help your sons would offer to help you

lr1277

I heard it should be a one third of a person's net wages.

If you think a mortgage or rent cost between a third and a half of someone's wages, and even then you might be sharing to make up any shortfalls, then a third is probably a good amount when living at home.

Rikki

its_all_gravy wrote: »

Never charged my Lads a penny untill this year 24 & 19
oldest earns around £300 a week youngest around £200 we take £100 and £50 respectively per month,and feel guilty at doing this
More often than not i end up giving back more than this :T:T
Charge her FAIR and realistic rent from the off
We are no example of how to do things and if I had my time again I would do this It hasnt taught my boys nothing but hey-ho not long now til they are gone !!!!!!!!!!
I wish
all the best

So your youngest has more money to himself each month than the eldest. To make it equal the youngest should be paying about £67 a week, a third of his wages like his brother.

scooby088

I used to pay £25 per week to my mom that was 19 years ago and i was only on 90 per week. If the child has got a good enough job then i should think i would want some board money off them.
I still think my parents took care of me till i was 16 free of charge and now it was my time to contribute to the house. I had a free ride for that long.

27col

laurarobby wrote: »

i left home 4yrs ago and was paying £30 a week. although if i went shopping with my mum she would prob spend this on me.
my brother is 19 and doesnt pay a penny or do anything in the house earns about £700 a month. but my mum doesnt want him to leave and she knows if she starts charging him board he will just find a room to rent at a mates.

i cant believe how much some of you charge ur kids i dont know anyone that pays more then £140 a month to there parents (and they dont do anything around the house etc) im quite shocked i cant bare to think i would charge my son that much. i choose to have children so i expect to support him always!

Right, so you are quite prepared to breed and maintain a lifelong idle sponger. You are not doing him any favours whatsoever. Any woman that he pairs up with in the future has my absolute sympathy. Kids should be charged a sensible amount for room and board, If only to instil some idea of responsibility and idea of budgeting.
If you really do not need the money, then save it without telling the child. My wife did this with our son and when he decided to get married and buy his own house she was able to give him £10000 towards the deposit, and a sensible attitude to saving and budgeting.

By the way, have a look on your keyboard and see if you can find some capital letters to go with your full stops.

CouponWoman

As soon as I left school and got a job I started to pay "keep" as I called it. My family were not rich and I would not expect them to feed me free of charge when I was working.

My son left school and got a job and he had to pay for his keep if he wanted to live at home, I also expected him to help around the house.

I am not my sons slave, I love him dearly but part of loving him is letting him grow up and be a responsible adult. Paying his way and treating me with respect is important. I do not want an idle sponger in my house.

People should stop treating young adults as "children", once they get a job they are classed as an adult, parents should treat them as such.

I would say 1/3 of the persons take home pay would be more than generous of any parent, and even paying this they should help around the house.

Hitch

When i left school, i ended up in a training scheme, paying £45 a week.
My parents took £20 a week off me.

When i started proper work, earning about £100 a week, they took 30, plus id help out round the house, often cook my own bought food, pay an extra £10p/w for a lift to work from my dad, despite him passing the door anyway.


Its a tough life, the more they pay now, the more they will appreciate it in a few years time when they want to move out.
I know someone whos parents didn't charge him, he was at home till 29.

McKneff

My daughter used to give me £60 a week for her keep.

She didnt give me anything when she was away on holiday (fair enough) but she objected
paying her keep when we were on holiday lol

We decided between us that she would pay £50 a week every week no matter who was on holiday
and she set up a standing order for that amount.
(obviously she came out better off but hey ho. thats what mums do.)

£200 a month is reasonable in my opinion.

pollypenny

laurarobby wrote: »

i left home 4yrs ago and was paying £30 a week. although if i went shopping with my mum she would prob spend this on me.
my brother is 19 and doesnt pay a penny or do anything in the house earns about £700 a month. but my mum doesnt want him to leave and she knows if she starts charging him board he will just find a room to rent at a mates.

i cant believe how much some of you charge ur kids i dont know anyone that pays more then £140 a month to there parents (and they dont do anything around the house etc) im quite shocked i cant bare to think i would charge my son that much. i choose to have children so i expect to support him always!

This particular family are in trouble - dad's lost his job, for god's sake!

The daughter is part of that family and should WANT to help, to pay her share. I can't see any parents profiteering from their kids.

ailuro2

I used to pay one quarter of my wages as keep once I'd gone up a bit in wages, at first I padi 1/3

£900 a month minus £140 - so she's got £760 left to spend on herself - I bet you'd love to have that kind of disposable income to yourself every month
(and yes I know a lot of teens have high car insurances to pay, but cars are not a necessity - most teens would be cheaper to get a taxi when there were no buses available and still be better off!)

I agree if times are tough that you need to up her board to a more adult level - how does 1/3 of all the heating, 1/3 rent on a houseshare in the same area, council tax etc add up? I bet it's more than £140 a month.;) Let her have a shelf in the fridge and a cupboard for her food and let her buy that herself outwith her bill payments.

Also look on gumtree etc. to see how much you would get for letting our the room she occupies - if she can't afford to pay you a less selfish rate, and you can't pay the bills with her living there then it's time she moved on to the real world for a while.