From Trash to Cash: the river overflows

Elle7

I am It wouldn't let me log on in Spain for some reason, something about IP protection.

I'm stressed, and I've been feeling ill for days. Okay, though. Hot showers were helping, but the boiler pipe runs into the bath in this apartment and so it's covered in brown sludge. Not nice! Thought we'd be okay for a few nights but it's 40 degrees here so a shower would be really nice!!

OH has been offered a job in Brum, starting immediately. Now we are trying to think about what to do. (Well, he's supposed to be. He's actually feeling rather ill, probably because he isn't eating or sleeping at the minute. He won't let me help, though).

Up too much?

babymoo

Bored out of my mind, its raining here and hasnt stopped since I woke up, could use some of that sunshine!

That doesnt sound nice at all hun, I dont envy you, when im that hot I live in the shower! Stress isn't good for you and will only make the fibro worse hun, I know its easier said than done but you have to try and relax for your healths sake! Why won't OH let you help? You should both for a walk along the beach (assuming your near 1) and think about what to do, being on a beach always seems to make things clearer with me and when the waves crash in they seem to grab my stress and take it back out with them.

Thats great about the job. Maybe OH should take it, you can always go back to Spain, its not like its a 1 time deal or never again, it will always be there. Grab something to eat even if its something small, the brain needs food to think and you shouldnt make big decisions on an empty tummy! xx

Elle7

The nearest beach is a few hours away

It's peak season, too, so everywhere is packed. I made OH a tuna sandwich but he didn't touch it, and he can't sleep because he's waiting for emails from people.

The job is very different to what he came here to do...it's not the higher paid, less hours job he's been working towards, and he'll be working all the time. I think that is adding to his stress a lot. He'd start when we got home, too, either Wednesday this week or next Monday.

I'm feeling so lonely today

babymoo

O hunny, huge hugs!

The job isn't what you or OH wanted and that he has been working towards but it is a paid job and at a time where jobs are so hard to come by its surely got to be better than nothing. There is nothing saying that he can't still go 4 the job he wants while doing this new job. I know I probably have no idea what I'm talking about, just not really sure what to say to help tbh.

Wish I was there to give you a hug. I am assuming he doesn't want to leave you alone for all that time? Do you know anyone in Brum? Where would you live if you came back, would it make life easier in the short term while you tried to fix things long term?

Elle7

Thanks Baby

I think I'm the problem. He worked 9 - 6 before, but my fibro wasn't so bad then. Then I got hospitalized, and work wouldn't give him any time to visit me because I'm not 'family', and on top of all the other problems he'd had with the place he quit. He's done part time, since then, or we've both lived off what I make. I applied for DLA so he could get carers, but was turned down. I guess I'll try again when I get back to the UK. I don't want him gone all day, and he doesn't want to be gone all day.

He's just fallen asleep for the first time in days, and missed a call from one of the jobs. Hes waiting to see if the old company will let him go without trying to cause trouble like making us pay for this training even though it isn't what he wants.

I think we'll be staying at friends, and I'll have to find us somewhere to live. I don't know anyone in Brum...I had student friends, but they gave up and went home, and I don't know how to meet anyone else. I don't drive, either, which can be a problem. I guess that's why I'm so lonely...

Anyway, you don't need to hear all my problems!

babymoo

Dont be so daft if its helping to tell me then spill them all u never know i may be able to help. PM me if that will help or I can be on msn if you like?

I totally understand your OH not wanting to leave u all day i'm lucky I live with my mum so DP doesnt need 2 worry and when we move in together it will be close to mum. As far as DLA is concerned theyre a bunch of pricks, how long ago were u turned down? I would definitely apply again if not appeal against their first decision, what grounds did they say no on?

What work do you do? Is working not making your fibro worse? What meds are you on for it? I must admit that driving is my lifeline, i couldnt cope without it. Ive not driven for a week because of my op last friday and its sent me bonkers. Have you thought about learning?

Will your job not allow you to meet new people? Are there any groups that you could join to meet people? I know what you mean about being lonely. I hate being by myself and the only people I see during the day are my parents and then thats usually for 10 mins between work and falling asleep. I live for the evenings when I see my DP and/or friends. What about going to college even for 1 day a week, you would meet people there?! I shall keep thinking my lovely! xxx

Elle7

Ah, I don't work really. I just do some writing on my laptop when I can, for places like the local nursery. It's not much!

I never learnt to drive...I was learning, and then everything kicked off with my mother, and she started using my salary so I had none to learn with. OH had a car but it got written off before I met him, and our car was sold after all the events surrounding it. Our local garage is offering finance at good rates on cars at the moment, which we could afford, but I don't know if I'd get finance being unemployed, and OH's parents don't want him to finance anything ever if its to do with me.

Where I live is very...old. Although I guess I could have made more of an effort to meet people in Brum...I went really out of my way to find friends, though, and then their university class was too small and they all went home half way through. It felt stupid trying to meet people after that.

I could go to college...they do hairdressing part time, and massage, and they could be interesting?

Thank you for your help, you've been lovely listening to me rant
(Any chance you wanna move to Brum?)

babymoo

Lol nah sorry hun lol unless DP got a job there in which case I would be there like a shot. Tell him to get a job in manchester lol then you can come live near me and he can commute lol. I know easier said than done! Getting a car on finance is risky when you dont have a job, could you not look for a run around for around £500 and then continue with the lessons? You would appreciate being able to more than you will ever imagine.

What happened with your mother using your salary did you ever get the police involved? What a horrible thing for a mother to do!! It doesn't even bare thinking about.

Going to college to do hairdressing or massage is a really good idea, massage would possibly be easier with fibro to do I suppose it depends how the fibro affects your every day routine. You should definitely do something, or have a look at the courses your local council runs?! Ive done a couple of council run courses and they have them in lots of locations everywhere, luckily for me they have them at the top of my road so dead easy to get to even if Ive had meds and can't drive anywhere.

Maybe try something like avon or ann summers? Advertise and do parties and meet people that way while earning a little more cash?! Might be an idea although driving would definitely help with that.

Your welcome my love any time, rant away, im glad I can help someone even if I'm only listening. Have you slept much or eaten anything? xxx

skintbint_2

things will work out in the end Elle! juts take each day as it comes! hugs

Elly - waverley tomorrow at 11 sounds good - will check the train times - is it just for the day? or are we staying a week!!!!!

back on later

skintbint_2

dilli - you should see the sky now pale blue with lilac, mauve and pink streaky clouds, stunning!