The giving up/cutting down alcohol support thread Part 8!

graemecarter

skintscottishgirl wrote: »

I am getting to the stage where if i dont sort this i will die

Which would be carp

God help me

but i will not drink mon to wed and onwards and upwards from then i hope!

i am doing the best i can

Please get help from other sources as well as God.
We don't want you to become another alcohol death statistic.

With my drinking, it took me a long time to realise that if I did nothing different, then nothing would change.

honeybear_2

Being very domesticated over here - just tried to fix my leaky shower & worked out I need a new part for it. Thankfully, the first store I looked at online sells just the right thing & there's a couple of those near my work so will be off ASAP this week to get it

skintscottishgirl

Morning All,

Well i feel a bit rough to say the least after three nights drinking on the trot.

Luckily I am backshift for three starting tonight. Think i need to restart the not drinking on my own in the flat rule.

Not feeling very positive right now I have to tell you, but i will get there.

feel angry with myself for yet again being in this position

XX

jo1972

Morning all :wave:

Diable, congrats on a week AF, and good luck for week 2

SSG, just take each day at a time and don't worry about what's coming up

BHB, I watched Vexed to, it's quite funny (thank god after the gorilla thing!!). Is the weather bad there then? Think we were lucky with the week we'd chosen!

HB, hope you defrost!

Sparkles, hope you feel better later, did it affect your excema (sp??), my mouth is sooooo sore, definitely think I've developed an allergy to something in beer, either the alcohol or the wheat or summat?

Shaggy, well done on 11 days

GC, morning :wave:

ETA: DB I'm on 11 now please, I've gone back and looked, I did 2 days before I went on hols after the 8 I'm already down for and then did yesterday too. Ta muchly Tonight's gonna be a tough one as I'm relegated to the 'other' telly for tonight's soap fest as nobody else watches them :eek:


In bed by 10.15pm last night and didn't wake up till 9.20am :eek: albeit I did have AF sleep vivid dreams which woke me often during the night (lots of dreams of me being in a holiday place and trying to get sneaky drinks at the bar without OH seeing!!) plus was woken up a few times as poor OH has the sick bug :eek: typical as he's been off work for 2 weeks and due to go back tomorrow, this happens every time he has a holiday! This is a shame as we'd planned on probably doing something with the kids today if the weather turns out nice, it's sunny out there at the moment but he's gone back to bed. I'll have to give him an hour or two and see how it goes.

DecemberBaby_2

Another scores update:-

:staradmin = 1 day AF
= 5 days AF

:j = target achieved

Budgie 12/TF :staradmin:staradmin

CWM 27

DB 8/20 :staradmin:staradmin:staradmin

DC 17/31 :staradmin:staradmin

Dotstar 15

Fay 23/20 :D :D :staradmin:staradmin:staradmin :j

Gien 20

HB 1/TF :staradmin

Jo 11/31 :staradmin

Maman 12/10 :staradmin:staradmin :j

Noynoy 7/16 :staradmin:staradmin

Peedie 20/31 :D:D:D

NRA 19/15 :staradmin:staradmin:staradmin:staradmin :j

RN 11/10 :D :staradmin :j
SOS 16/20 :D:D :staradmin

Shaggy 11/17 :staradmin

SSG 20/20 :D:D:D :j

115K 4/TF :staradmin:staradmin:staradmin:staradmin


DB x

skintscottishgirl

Right thats it i have edited my sig yet again, and as of now there will be no drinking on my own in the flat.

I did it before for nearly 7 weeks, and i am going to do it this time.

I know i have said it before but at the end of the day I can't give up giving up.

I just have to remember that I am not missing out on anything.

Apart from hangovers and depression:D

Hope everyone is having a good day

XX

jo1972

skintscottishgirl wrote: »

Right thats it i have edited my sig yet again, and as of now there will be no drinking on my own in the flat.

I did it before for nearly 7 weeks, and i am going to do it this time.

I know i have said it before but at the end of the day I can't give up giving up.

I just have to remember that I am not missing out on anything.

Apart from hangovers and depression:D

Hope everyone is having a good day

XX

:T:T:T:T

Let me tell you something SSG, I had every intention of drinking yesterday, was already thinking about it at lunchtime. Said in the morning I didn't want to do it anymore but the thoughts of 'oh I don't think I can climb that mountain' started by midday. Now this is bluddy stupid really as I was told June LAST YEAR that I do have the beginning of liver damage which was again confirmed with a blood test last December and I have been having twinges around that area for quite a while and feeling generally run down for a month or two now.

I picked up Allen Carr's (RIP) cutting down on alcohol book on Sat and read half of it in the library and it was funny cos some of the things he was saying kept coming back to me. I don't know if you've ever read his books before but he's kind of into counter-brainwashing, i.e. strips away the reasons and justifications for your habit and then gets you to see it how it is.

For me, it's right frame of mind at that very moment I need it, when driving home from my mums yesterday and past the offy I happened to think 'lets not drink today' but 10 minutes later it could've gone either way, this being said I did also have the thought at the back of my mind that if I really 'needed' to drink then there will always be an excuse I can find to drive to the shop later.

It was actually touch and go because the only way I can remain sober is if I have something to eat or drink to change the taste in my mouth (iykwim). I knew I didn't have any orange squash left (which is the only one I like) and knew I couldn't stop in the shop and buy any because I would buy beer instead, so I was left with OH's ribena which I detest _pale_ (note to self...must buy some squash a bit later ). I downed about half a litre of it, oh it was disgusting and then busied myself putting tea on, cleaning, reading, bathing kids etc etc. Once I saw it had got to half seven I knew I'd be able to get through it although the bells still ring till about 9pm

2 hours after I got home yesterday and cooked my roast I couldn't believe all the things I'd done whereas usually I would've drunk a few cans and wouldn't have moved from the kitchen and done practically nothing. And so I don't understand why I get that 'missing out' feeling too as actually drink renders me useless!!

I just don't understand why I do it and don't want to do it either but I know the bells will start again very shortly and battle will commence, the only plus side today is that I have one day behind me, the 1st (and 3rd :undecided) day is always the worst.

Keep going, SSG, we will get there

xx

Marru

Good on you SSG. Stock up with AF drinks that you like and you do not drink regurlary i.e. it is something special. Also keep something nice and sugary in stock (to replace the sugar that you would get from the drink) at least initially. I can vouch for Th0rnt0n caramel short bread If you can figure out a hobby or interest you could do (go walking, study) then all the better.

I have decided that in few years time I am going to look into overseas volunteering opportunities and if I can get one funded one that lets me take DD with me then off we go before she goes to secondary school. I think it will give me focus to comple the things that are going on at the moment, learn to simplify my life and will be fantastic experience for DD as well. And Fay - yes the plan for doing PhD when I am back is still on, only now delayed by couple of years.

skintscottishgirl

:)Thanks to you both for your support and wisdom:)

I think this weekend the problem was the one drink I had while out having dinner, it just gave me the notion.......

What i should have done is hung about my sister's till 10pm when the shop shut, as it just wasted the whole weekend.

My thinking gets messed up while drinking, and I also get the sitting on my ar5e acheiving nothing thing going on.

Well done Jo on beating the bells last night, as you say it gets easier as time goes on. I am so glad I am backshift for three and I will deal with thursday and friday when they come.

It's so good to be able to get all this written down on this forum, i think it provides an invaluable support for us all, drunk or sober.

If I can nail the drinking on the flat thing, I will be a happy woman!

Next night out will likely be Christmas, will deal with that at the time.

A hobby which is active is what i am needing, something which involves getting out.......

Good luck everyone

XXX

honeybear_2

SSG, like you say, you've done it before so you know you can do it again We'll be rooting for you every step of the way

Jo, top post from you :T

Fridge cleaned & back on so I'm slowly warming up again :rotfl: