Gift lists - what do you think?

missknixon

My family are all having to travel and stump up for the hotel overnight so I feel really mean! I would rather have the money but would hate to have to ask them for more money. Contemplated asking for donations but that seemed really cheeky!

Kazz81

missknixon wrote: »

My family are all having to travel and stump up for the hotel overnight so I feel really mean! I would rather have the money but would hate to have to ask them for more money. Contemplated asking for donations but that seemed really cheeky!

Its official-you are me:D everyone bar 4 guests will be travelling for my wedding

missknixon

Our venue is 20 miles away from our house! The only person that will not be travelling is H2B's grandma - she lives locally! It is great though apart from the fact that the hotel only has 11 rooms which makes it hard! Getting there though!

Lexxi

The other thing that crossed my mind was how do you know what to put on the list? And at what worth, say for the honeymoon you want a room upgrade at £100 each, do you put 1 x £200 2 x £100 4 x £50 or what, I can't imagine most of the guests getting anything at £50 for us, the ones that would are all contributing in other ways.

hayleythedaisy

We didn't have a list, we ideally thought we'd like money but didn't want it badly enough to offend anyone.
People asked what we wanted and if we had a gift list and we insisted we didn't want anything.
We got some really lovely gifts, and all unusual things that we wouldn't have picked for ourselves, it was lovely to see how others interpreted us.
We also got a lot of cash and cheques. I was amazed!!!
I like the idea of your list but I would be inclined to wait until people ask if you've got one, without being rude at all, some people might find it a bit off if they got you gifts from the top of your gift list previously.

SeaBee

We were in a similar quandry when we decided to get married. We had lived together for 4 years and had everything we needed for the house. We were also getting married abroad and then having a party for friends and family when we got back. As most people had the expense of travelling and in some cases accommodation we really didn't want to ask for gifts.

However, we knew that some people would want to give us something, so we put a message in our invites saying that their presence was present enough, but if they really wanted to give something could they donate to our 2 favourite charities.

We did get a couple of presents from old friends which were homemade and very personal to us and very touching. Overall everyone was happy.

Louba

Hailey - that's not rude at all just honest and helpful! SeeBee did you set something up to help people donate - like a just giving page or just let them make donations on their own? I really like the idea of just saying something along the lines that you did and asking people to donate to a local charity if they really want to do something for us. We've both done quite alot over the last few years to raise money for charity so it fits quite well with what is important to us. Sorry - hope that doesn't sound too cheesy (!) The more I think about the more I realise we don't need anything - someone gave us John Lewis vouchers in May and we still haven't used them - I guess that means there is nothing pressing that we need and that we are happy with what we have - even more reasons not to have a list.