Baby cries all evening please help....

SUESMITH_2

feel for you, known as suicide time when nothing you do really makes a difference. dd used to feel all evening, then sleep for a couple of hours and cry constantly between midnight and 4am, ds would wake up at 4am cos it was light and want to get up! i used to go to bed with dd and oh would take ds downstairs and try and nap on the sofa after making room kidproof

it will get better.

personally i wouldnt rush to put her down but pop her in a sling like others have said or maybe give her to oh to cuddle - if you're breastfeeding you smell of milk whuch as we all know babies love and sometimes oh is the best person for those sleepy cuddles.

my kids are teenagers now and i have all on to wake them before noon now they're on hols - makes me and oh smile looking back to how they used to be.

beckseven

I also couldnt read and run as have been there. My DS was bad in the first 3 months in the evening-he wouldnt settle and would cry for at least a couple of hours-my nerves were so bad! i found that I brought him down in his bouncy chair on vibrate he was soothed. After 12 weeks he went down fine at 7. It just seemed like the longest time when he wasnt settling though. With DD me and OH braced ourselves for lost evenings of jiggling and getting up and down and she settled straight away every night and I didnt do anything different so dont blame yourself. Good luckx

emmaBZ

hi with all mine ( 4 ) when they wouldnt stop crying even when being cuddled ect i would pick her up and lie them along my arm so they were facing down, with their head to one side and gently rock them and rub/pat their back, it always seemed to work, wether its just a different position or something else i dont know but might be worth a try ?

gratefulforhelp_2

Hi honey. Hugs, this is completely normal, it is unusual for a 2 month old babe to sleep at 7pm and stay sleeping. They often need to feed more, and have more attention about this time when everyone else is knackered. You won't train her out of it yet, she's too young.

Suggestions, get any help you can from anyone, to hold her while you rest a bit, make sure your DH does his bit, sleep when she sleeps if possible and roll with it.

It will get better very soon, enjoy her while she's tiny.

danielle1977

Js_Other_Half wrote: »

A Fisherprice battery operated cradle swing was my sanity saver when DS was small - worth a try if nothing else works?

I did this too-ds didn't seem to have colic or reflux or anything and started every evening, I brought one of the fold away swings and put him in it and he was much happier-only problem was one night the batteries ran out so we both got in the car and went out to the petrol station and brought some more. My oh was in the raf and away, I thought I was a bad mum thats why he did it!

smithyjules

Hi there, our little cherub is 8 weeks too.He did have colic and colief and dr browns bottles worked marvels for it. Now he has started howling in the eve. Not an in pain cry he just seems to be unable to stop himself being an air-raid siren between 6 and 10 when we pop him down to bed. Its as if the clock strikes 10 and he self-settles and only wakes for feeds.(thankful for that!) Our first lo was such a chilled easy baby so this time round has been really hard going. Little darling hates the swing and refuses 3 different types of dummy to the point of gagging!

So I'm posting in support/sympathy and also in the hope that a cure may present itself.In the mean time i will look forward to my evening glass of rose!;)

Gargola

I agree with those above who say put baby to bed later and cuddle and feed all evening long! (In fact my 16 week old is currently passed out on my lap - it's lovely!!)
Slings are brilliant for hands-free cuddles but I like being able to sit down and get OH to do the housework.
With my first I started a bedtime routine at around 6 months and I think by this point they are ready for it.
If baby is crying and upset you could try: infacol, gripe water, colief, cranial osteopathy (if you want to spend loads of money) - but ultimately they do generally grow out of it. In the meantime lots of cuddles, dancing around the living room watching TV with the subtitles on!!

miss_spooky

Hi Lala, big huggs to you. Hope you doing ok.

I had same problem with my ds when she was born. She had severe reflus was on donperion (sp), gaviscon & renatidine (sp). So sleeping wasn't her best thing. She also lost 2lb as doctors at first didn't believe she had reflux as it was silent (not throwing up every feed, but when she did, boy it was the lot).

When she got to 2 mths old we had a week of her starting to cry at 3pm then not stopping until well into the evening. She was fed, medicated & everything else I could think of but she didn't stop.

My HV at the time (the only one who has ever made any sense) suggested that babies times are still all messed up and that between 3pm & evening they need help to adjust to the transistion of evening sleep. So she suggested that I put in place a dinner, bath & bed routine (we didn't have on in place at the time as she was only 8 weeks).

Within a week this started to make a grave difference. I kept her tried not to let her sleep after 3pm, took her out, played with her etc, then fed her at 6pm, gave her a bath then put her to bed. (I personally never gave mine a bottle at bedtime so that they didn't become used to going to bed with it. I read her a story with lights down low and just left her to play or do what she wanted. It wasn't always perfect and after a few days of going well, we'd have a few evenings where we'd be back to square one, but we stayed consistant and eventually she started to settle down.

Whatever you decide to try, remember you will need to give it time to work & try not give up on first night - this is really hard as you are getting stressed and upset because yr baby is upset. But consistancy helps.

Good luck & we're here if you need us.x

Lilacblue

Hi lala

Ah the memories come flooding back!...you have my every sympathy...my eldest daughter was like this and it was horribly traumatic. From 7-10pm every night she would just cry and cry until I was too. It got to the stage where friends would come round just to hold her for a while so that I didn't have to! My partner found that walking her very slowly round the garden helped, and so did chill-out music (actually, that was probably more for his benefit )

When you have a new baby and you aren't getting much sleep it can feel like a desperate time. You sound like a super mum, very sorted and capable, so give yourself a big pat on the back :T :T. There's been some super advice and support here already (that's why I like MSE forums so much!) so keep logging in and let us know how you are coping.

It's a cliche, but the colicky stage really won't go on for ever (I used to want to swing for people when they said this to me!). Good luck, and remember...you are doing great x.

meritaten

I dont think the baby is colicky - the OH doesnt describe THOSE symptoms! the baby is just awake and wanting attention and hey - its not 2.00am till silly o clock is it? so play, cuddle, just watch tv etc. tbh 2 months is a bit early to expect a baby to settle at 7.00 in my experience. with my three OH and I used to pass the baby back and forth according to whoever was doing supper, settling other kids, doing ironing etc until we went to bed around 11.00 or 12.00 and if they slept until 6.00am thought we had had a good night! you may be expecting a bit too much hun?