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TAXIS...Beating the cancer and clearing the mortgage the final hurdle.

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  • beanielou
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    Sleep tight Taxi xx
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  • InaPickle
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    Y'know Taxi, my Dad had cancer, and I know that this is a pretty controversial theory and all, but I think there genuinely might be a link between repressed emotions, the stress they cause on the body and cancer.

    So if you feel rubbish, don't bottle it all up: get it out, get it over with and help yourself heal. There's no point bottling it all up and potentially causing yourself blocks on getting better. xxxxxx
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  • taxi73
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    Thanks Pickle
  • InaPickle
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    taxi73 wrote: »
    Thanks Pickle

    You're welcome! :) And are you and I destined just to miss each other on each other's thread tonight?! I think so! ;)
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  • Lula-Hula
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    Hey hun,

    I really cant utter words in a better way than Hypnos posts above so will just say I'm thinking of you & however you feel is perfectly fine. You are 'allowed' to feel however you do, it's your right.

    Hugs

    xx
  • Wol2
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    edited 21 August 2010 at 11:41PM
    hypno06 wrote: »
    And if you're not, then I will send over my tin of brussel sprouts, and then you will REALLY have a problem :rotfl:

    :eek::eek::eek::eek::eek::eek: to the "nearly A-list celebrity" Hypno sprouts-

    Excellent posts by Hypno - and i think we all need to take her threat quite seriously :rotfl::rotfl:

    Hugs Taxi - 'twould appear that a pigeon has come home to roost today for you (and unfortunately crapped on your shoulder on it;s way in ...:()


    Not a lot you can do but give yourself time to adjust, dust yourself down and look to the next day (...ohhh.....but also you might get some satisfaction by lobbing aforementioned sprouts straight back at said pigeon ;))

    Thinking of you and wishing there was more i can do

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  • Taxi only you can decide but do you think it might be better to shave your hair now rather than have more fallout as I am sure that and the waiting might be worse psychologically?

    That is how I am thinking on my niave side of the fence.. I might think differently if I was going through it, so only you can know what is best for you x
  • milann
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    Big Hug Taxi.

    Been at my dd's and then this week at my ds flat decorating with him. It was hard work but well worth the effort as it looks great now. We made a good team he did the low bits he could reach I did higher up. He took me out for a couple of lovely meals and I enjoyed helping him choose new rugs, cushions etc to finish the effect off.

    Just caught up on the weeks postings - naughty Tess eating all that choccy and having everyone in a tizzy about her well being. LOL. Did she look suitably disgraced or did she just enjoy without guilt. My dog gave himself away EVERY time by looking guilty when we came in - we knew he'd done something by his look and just went searching for it LOL

    The hair loss must be tough - I lost a lot of mine after I'd been ill but it still looked ok to others as I didn't loose it all - and I was devastated with that - then dd has lost most of hers as reaction to being ill last Christmas - most of it went and is still very obvious - hers is just beginning to grow back - it is growing back curlier than it was - mine grew back curlier too - it had been really straight before - very strange. But to know it is going to happen must be very hard as you'd have been waiting for it looming!!

    Give yourself time to get over the loss and get used to the wig - or fancy scarves and hats. I know it is a sign that the meds are working but as you said it is a signal to others that all is not as it should be. When I first faced having the colostomy bag - I feared meeting people and wanted to lock myself away - would it show? would it smel? would it make rude noises? (LOL - it did occasionally). I went through a bad psycological time as well as being unwell. Looking back I needed that time because it made me stronger - I eventually turned it around and asked myself how I would react to someone if I knew they were in the same situation. This helped me get things into perspective - I realised the bag literally saved my life and that if people were concerned how I looked (a bump on my tummy at times) then that was more their problem than mine, annnnddddd.... everyone can make 'rude noises' - I wouldn't judge people so why did I think they would judge me!! Think what I'm trying to say is give yourself enough time to feel sad, angry, worried, embarrassed or however you might feel at that precise moment - I felt all of those and more. The hardest thing to get my head round was the feeling that 'no way' were people to 'feel sorry' me!!! The feelings frequently change and you can build on them in time to make yourself even stronger - but I believe I had to feel those feelings in order to get over them - if people did try to 'over protect' me - I accepted the help I needed with grace (ehhum.... I hope it was with grace - wonder if dh thought I did, I was 'awful' to him sometimes) but I politely made it clear I could still do some things and would soon be able to do more - but I would and did ask if I needed help!!!!!!!!!!! - LOL - that mortgage better watch out for an EVEN STROGER Taxi to emerge as she goes through all this as she slays not only her mortgage but cancer and hair loss too!!

    I went to the garden centre today and found a broken bit of plant which I duly put in my pocket rather than paying £8 for a potted one - I had every intention of potting it up and trying to get it to root with a bit of TLC - not much chance of that as I've just found it withered in my pocket!!

    Hang on in there Taxi - you are doing great - even if it doesn't always feel that way.

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  • lucielle
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    Morning Taxi, There are some really great posts above. I hope you have a better day today.
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  • macgirl
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    Hi Taxi - hugs to you xxx

    I'm sure that losing your hair must be one of the hardest hurdles to overcome, as it is a constant reminder and marks you out to everyone as having cancer - as well as inevitably knocking your confidence.
    One of my neighbours has BC - though is further on with her treatment than you, she's about your age and I saw her yesterday with a lovely scarf on. She said it's been hard but every day she feels stronger.

    Allow yourself to feel down and as Pickle said, let the emotions flow. Perhaps your BCN will be good to talk to....
    Take it easy on yourself and get a muzzle on that dog to protect your G&B's! ;) xxx
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