Where are these nasty people coming from?

shayshay

In a world where the internet can throw up a difference of oinion within seconds a message can be so different to a conversation in a pub due to the tone of the message put across.

I would agree if it gets to much then report it, other than that if someone has an opinion that differs to your own, down't sweat it, if you cant respect someone else's opinion how do we expect others to respect ours!

nillhouse

I thought people came here for support, I thought that was the point of this place

kathfisch

If you disagree with someone and wish to put across your opinion, it does not follow that you need to be abusive or agressive in your tone. You're actually much more likely to be taken seriously if you are calm and reasonable.

There are posters who feel very strongly about certain issues and forget to be calm and reasonable because their emotions get the better of them. And there are those who deliberately set out to offend and upset i.e. trolls.

Both can be equally upsetting, particularly if you are new to the 'community' and especially if you are posting as a newbie debt-free-wannabe, with all the emotions that entails. Personally, I completely ignore trolls because attention and friction is what they crave - discussion of their comments diverts a thread off the point very quickly. The first kind though, sometimes I have to accept that other people feel passionately about opinions that seem alien to me... sometimes a good discussion can be had, sometimes not.

To anyone reading and feeling worried to post - don't be! There are lots of friendly faces here

all_hours

frenchconnection200 wrote:

Just recently people asking for help are getting a lot of stick. Why are people being so offensive to people who are asking for help?
The poor guy whose GF had dropped 10 grand of debt on him somehow became the one at fault, someone else had their thread frozen after people became abusive towards them and poor Up the creek is apparantly going to bring the country down.
What is going on?

I haven't seen all the posts you refer to.

I did see the one from a guy who came on a public forum calling his girlfriend a stupid cow for running up £10k of debt. He had no idea what she had spent the money on and even stated that she didn't have lots of nice clothes or shoes. They live together and have kids so apart from a piece of paper they are man and wife. Yet he was calling it his money. The post has been removed so I can't look at all the details again - but I remember being shocked at his attitude.

IMO he deserved to get some stick.

Bambywamby

This web site isn't different to any other - when you have a public forum - a small faction will seek satisfaction by being negative and bitter towards others.
Its the only reaction they can get due to their poor states of mind. In their minds any reaction is better than NO reaction.
Its nice to see the biggest percentage of people are positive, supportive and there to back you up no matter what your transgressions. :T

Those that want to point a finger, be negative and spiteful will have their debt hanging around along time after everybody else... as they are fighting the world on their own... and sadly its by choice.


Feel the love folks. :kisses:

Jessiepig

I do agree that sometimes people are quite abusive on here but sometimes people need to be told a few home truths.
The advice and help on here is brilliant but people can only be helped if they are prepared to listen and help themselves.
Quite people are given sound advice only to come up with excuses
The bloke with the Gf with debts seemed to be venting his anger rather than asking for constructive advice.

We are all only human and sometimes our fustrations with others gets a little out of hand. Maybe we should just ignore them and move on

Love to everyone

chloe99_2

i am glad op posted here as i read the dark s thread, but also another nasty one just yesterday - it totally didn't make sense and was a very innocent original post with unpleasant responses. agree that sometimes posters need to hear home truths, but we can all try and do this in a nice way, and if poster makes it clear that they are not seeking this kind of personal and well meaning advice (seen by them as criticism) then perhaps we should respect that? hope it all blows over and gets back to normaL soon...

**purpleprincess**

Maybe this piece of text needs to be made bigger and bolder ****Please be nice to all MoneySavers. There’s no such thing as a stupid question, and even if you disagree courtesy helps****

mm2000

I'd be quite happy if someone answered my threads, abuse or not.:)

lazy&indebt

mm2000 wrote:

I'd be quite happy if someone answered my threads, abuse or not.:)

me too! Nobody wants to talk to me