It's STILL tough and not getting better - so how are we coping?

seasalt_2

charlies-aunt wrote: »

Oh dear - My midwife was practically a foetus herself :rotfl:

some days the idea of living in town with mains drainage seems very attractive!

"Rodding the drains" is a regular part of life here too! The rain has stopped here and lots of lovely seaweed washed up on the beach so should get down there with the wheelbarrow and get some of it on the garden. Feel very lazy today though - get up and go has gone!

ETA Oops - sorry. Messed that up. How do you do double quotes or do you just have to quote the whole thing?

mardatha

Drying up here but a long way from sunny .
Charleys aunt, I had a HV like yours once... my third baby was a right bad tempered wee sod. He's 31 and has not changed . The HV arrived right in the middle of a tantrum... he was about 12 weeks.
A brick red face, bright ginger hair, and a set of tonsils. That was him. (Thank god the hair went dark later ) Well she went through every single thing in the book, and all the while this brat was screaming like a Harrier taking off. After about three quarters of an hour she finally looked at her watch..said falsely and SO cheerfully "ooops lookat the time, I must dash...he seems to be settling now doesn't he?" (was he hell!) and off she ran.
Then I did the only thing that worked with him, and that I used to do all the time. I shoved him in his cot, shut the door; shut the hall door; shut the livingroom door; shut the kitchen door; put the radio on and made a cup of tea .. :rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

kezlou

:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

you sound like me!

I used to do with bedtime or if a bad tantrum. They soon learned i wasn't going to tolerate any nonsense.

anguk

Can I join the bad mother's club too? My DS was a greedy baby from birth, by 2 months old I was mixing baby rice or rusk in his bottle to thicken the milk (making the teat bigger with a needle heated on the gas hob). And by 3 months he was eating our food mashed up. He was also a tantrum thrower at times and I would put him in the cot and close the door, I knew he was safe and there was nothing wrong with him, he soon grew out of it.

He's now a big, strong 23 year old so I didn't do too badly.

maryb

I got the lecture about not weaning too early but both the DDs got to the stage by 10 weeks that they were having too much milk and were still hungry. The HV said to bottle feed on demand as if I was breastfeeding but they were in pain because their poor little tums were distended from so much milk and still not satisfied. So I started giving baby rice with the feed after their bath in the evening and within a week they were both sleeping 12 hours a night. Bliss for all concerned.

Public health sector workers are not allowed to 'discriminate' let alone be 'judgemental' when proper discrimination and judgement are actually the hallmark of an intelligent adult. So they have to have a one size fits all approach in case we might give our babies sweetened tea instead of formula. I decided to read, reflect and trust my judgement

lilac_lady

No 1 son has refused to eat vegetables since he was weaned. His wife told me that she "hides" vegetables in dishes she cooks and he isn't aware that he's been eating courgettes, cauliflower etc. He's 38.....!

ginnyknit

My pregnancies were scary, Dh almost had to decide who to save - me or Gareth. We nearly lost him 5 times in the first 2 weeks but he fought and lived. Then at 6 months he got whooping cough during a local epidemic, there were no hospital cots so we nursed him. I gave him honey on his dummy to soothe him and stop him crying. When the lovely Gp made one of her many many visits she saw the honey!! I just said, can you do anything better? No she couldn't, he grew into a strong baby very quickly, has no fillings and is rarely ill. I still believe I the power of a mothers knowledge of her child and tackling illness both with conventional medicine and herbal. Lets face it the first is derived from the second! Oh and I let ratty babies cry too. My Dgs now has rusk n his bedtime bottle and is finally sleeping through - good news is they now dissolve better and you don't need to bu**er about with hot needles and teats :rotfl:

mardatha

Bet mums everywhere heave a sigh of relief, I used to make the hole too big and feeding time sounded like the bath water draining away ...

mardatha

:mad: The OH is taking this moneysaving too far !! We have to be out all day tomorrow at a hospital appt & I wanted to put a nice stew in the crockpot because I will be shattered when I get home. Noooo he says -- "the crockpot burns electricity" :eek: my god, does it ???:rotfl:
Serve him right if I give him a pkt of crisps then.

parsonswife8

Both my kids had infant cereal from 12 weeks. My son is now a 6ft, 39 year old and my girl is 23 and fit and healthy.

They both eat a large variety of foods.

My two grand children had all their meals cooked by me when they were weaned, food mashed with a fork and frozen into little square containers.

They had mashed carrots, mashed potato, mashed peas, etc and later on, shredded cooked chicken, fine mince meat and veg and tuna pasta. Also yoghurt, mashed bananas, cut up strawberries etc.

They are both slim but are very active and eat like two horses.