Sexual harrassment at work?

John7619

If you go to HR they have no other option but to take the issue very very seriously. They have too, to protect the company, because if you do report it and they do not take action and you leave because of harassment, they will get nailed, if it went to court. Assuming you can prove it.

If you report it to his line manager, his line manager is duty bound to inform HR.

inkie

Get the sleazeball reported, and make sure that you are not alone with him - and if ever you are, amke sure that you have a dictophone tucked away in your pocket if he starts again!

Mine's_a_guinness

Report him!
If you don't and he tries it again then knee him very hard in his dangly bits!

ailuro2

I'd have a word with personnel, and start keeping a diary of events,comments etc. Let him know, albeit in a light hearted way,that he could end up in trouble.And let hime know he is not allowed to invade your space NO MATTER WHAT!!

By keeping a record of events,dates etc. If HR didn't take it seriously and you ended up leaving because of him you would at least have a record of his behaviour and might get some compensation. I'd talk to other women at work too, casually,to find out if any of them have problems,strength in numbers and all that.

I've worked in an environment of mostly men for the last twenty years and found whenever one of them stepped over MY line,that when I pretended to write something in my little black book and said "another few grand on my harassment claim,thank you" they have a think about what they have said and behave a bit better.

Good luck,hope the creep is gone soon!!

Horasio

I was in a temporary job and every time I had to goto his office to get something from the filing cabinet and he was in there alone, he would accidently 'brush' against me. Once you can see as an accident, twice, alarm bells rang.

As it was a temporary job, I felt I could just leave and I did anyway, but I did ask the most senior workmate if he ever did that to anyone else, without saying he did anything to me, but the mood did change, so I wonder...

I am not the sort that makes this sort of thing up and I found it very distressing.

Horasio

ts_aly2000 wrote:

This is excellent advice OP.

The truth about men is that they're nothing more than big kids, they never grow up. And certainly one way to 'manage' them is to treat them like a big kid. They need their mummies to keep them in check. They need someone stern putting them in their place.

I've seen this before in offices. You will have the woman on one side who will do what Nicki is suggesting. Then you have the woman on the other who twists and turns, interpreting everything as 'sexual harrassment'. Yes, it does exist. But from the way your posts read, you have a childish idiot on your hands. Treat him as such.

If it was me. I'd dress as provocatively as possible (and keep a diary) and then start manipulating him. That is one power that women truly have over men; Manipulation.

Please don't become one of these weak women that hides behind rules and HR departments. You need to discuss this with a female manager in HR unofficially. And then start working your magic.

When 'sexual harrassment' is truly real, the person doing it will truly be outted by the WHOLE office. 9 times out of 10 though, it's just because men are boy like and don't know how to behave. And women are girl like being innocent and victimised.

You're an adult! Use the situation to skillfully manipulate him. It's all part of team work and getting on with people.

It is one approach, but if you dress provocatively in an environment that is more conservative, wouldn't it make you look like the bad guy?

Others would see you dressing differently and blame you. Some people don't understand the reasoning behind this course of action. Harrassers tend to be more subtle and look terribly respectable.

I dress how I like out of work but always like to dress appropriately for work.

Glad

Sarah
I wasn't sure where to move this thread to as it isn't about moneysaving in the family etc
I hope people on this board can help you with your rights and a way to resolve your problem though

misgrace

Your lucky you have 3 years behind you for the same company, when it happened to me I was under the time of the'unfair dismissal' law, at that time it was 2 years.

My boss made my life when I spurned his advances, in the end i had to threaten him, and thats when he made my life worse, he gave me the worst jobs imaginable, and then the git sacked me.

I saw a solicitor, couldnt get him done for 'unfair dismissal' cause i had only been there apprx 14 months or so, but I did take him to court for sexual harrasment.

Luckily enough I had the sense some months before to keep a diary of events, and who was there, and where I was when he would start his disgusting suggestive comments, unfortunately for me when it came to the crunch everyone that had seen and heard things suddenly went deaf and blind.

I then had to go it alone, no witnesses, no proof as such, only my diary, but I could be making it up, and I was terrified.
The day before we went to court, I got an offer of an out of court settlement, it broke my heart to take it, but my barrister said cause I had no one to back me up, it would have been a case of his word against mine.

Even if he had done it before to someone else I could have used that, but I was the first.

This did happen approx 8 years ago, and things have changed for the better, but I really didnt stand a chance, even now I still wish I had of gone to court, even if I had lost, at least I would have gone down on fighting.

niccy

why not buy a little dictaphone tape machine and keep it on you,that way if the geezer starts giving you verbal you can secretly tape him.

peter999

CCStar wrote:

I was in a temporary job and every time I had to goto his office to get something from the filing cabinet and he was in there alone, he would accidently 'brush' against me. Once you can see as an accident, twice, alarm bells rang.

Aren't you just being paranoid ??

Women have been indoctrinated to believe we should live in some perfect world.