would you buy next door to

RuthnJasper

oneeye1 wrote: »

well believe me you are wrong ive had a troubling 24 hour trying to come to terms with the situation ,i accept due to ignorance that i have so much to learn and have been re assured by people i know whom work with L.D. people.the big problem for me is that whilst trying to educate my self i find on websites of organisations who help that people with L.D are much more likly to suffer from a mental illness for many differenet reasons incl depression now that bothers me as they state 25 -40% suffer from mental illness so the chances are that some of the clients next door would have L.D and a mental health issue.
i might add im slightly ashamed of my attitude and fear but its born thru lack of knowledge

In that case, Oneeye, I do sincerely apologise to you. And your post quoted here is very honest - and also brave of you to write and submit. I am sorry that I judged you unfairly. I hope that you can forgive me.

I, myself, have depression and have tried to take my own life a number of times. Now, thanks to medicine, psychiatric therapy, and financial advice here and elsewhere, I am getting better. But it is no lie to say that, were it not for my dog, Jasper, I would certainly not be alive today (sounds mad - but true. Apparently, you are over ten times more likely to recover (or, at least, learn to handle; you can never totally 'recover' from depression - like cancer, you are generally always considered as "in remission") if you have a responsive pet like a dog, cat, horse, etc.).

You are right. There IS much ignorance in the world about depression. It is NOT the same as "feeling a bit down" and it IS a terminal illness. It's to do with your body not producing enough of a chemical called seratonin. Seratonin is the body-chemical that kicks in when something goes wrong. So - let's say a person without depression suffers a personal set-back or disappointment. Of course they are sad and upset - but the seratonin kicks-in and they think along the lines of
"F***ing h*ll, that was a load of sh*t. Bl**dy h*ll. Still, you win some, you lose some. Swings and roundabouts and all that. I'll be OK, I'll be sorted/meet someone else soon... and I'm going to the match on Saturday with John and Dave, that'll be a laugh. Actually, better get some beers in for afters.... etc..."

HOWEVER - if you have depression and the exact same disappointment happens, your body cannot produce the seratonin stuff and the thought-process is more like this
"F***ing h*ll, that was a load of sh*t. Bl**dy h*ll. Oh G*d, this is awful, I can't cope. I'm worthless; I'll never amount to anything. everyone's laughing at me and I hate myself. What's the point? I'll never be sorted or meet anyone who wants to love me... and now THIS has happened, on top of everything else. Oh, bl**dy h*ll, I'm supposed to be going to the match on Saturday with John and Dave, I can't face it. I'll text them and say I'm ill. They won't want me there anyway, they're only my mates 'cos they feel sorry for me... etc..."

That's the difference. And that's why it's hurtful when people (even if they mean well) say stuff like "pull yourself together" - because you literally cannot.

Oneeye - I apologise again if I have misjudged you. If you know the specific problems of your potential future neighbours then please post them here - I am sure I (or someone else) can then advise you on your original question. If you prefer not to, for fear of further abusive replies, then feel free to PM me and I will help you as best I can.

Good luck with your situation. x

oneeye1

marklv wrote: »

Big deal - so what? I've had some real nightmare neighbours in my time; people who would party until 4am, scream and bang on walls. I then had an idiot who left his two labradors in the garden and did nothing when they barked all night.

As long as the neighbours are not noisy or cause a nuisance, what are you worried about? What's the big issue?

the big deal is by having no understanding i dont know what they are capable of they have severe L.D.could they appear in my garden/house uninvited as they do have L.D do they scream make strange noises all nite i dont know i may be off baseapperantly there are more likly to have mental issues what does that entail im clueless what if its not for us is the house saleble fgor at least what it stands me at i dont know nore does anyone else

its a problem which if the estate agent had informed me of i would of walkjed away and not fallen for the house and now ive had 2 days questioning my morals and compasion to those a lot less fortunate,the problem is im not a compassionate person in that way i harm no one but where do i start if i were to try and help less fortunates the blind orphans terminally ill and on and on and on and on i wish i could help them all but i cant unfortunatly i have to try and do whats right for my family

Evilm

I was looking at a house that had this a few years ago. We weren't worried about the current tenants but when we looked into the company that owned the property they also provided accommodation for ex-cons as halfway housing and it looked like they wouldn't have to get further permission in order to change the occupants of the property in the future. This did concern us a little.

As it turned out we ended up not buying that property for another reason (It was built on a piece of land that used to be a garden to the next door property and the original deeds say "gardens not to be used for further housing" or something).

oneeye1

Evilm wrote: »

I was looking at a house that had this a few years ago. We weren't worried about the current tenants but when we looked into the company that owned the property they also provided accommodation for ex-cons as halfway housing and it looked like they wouldn't have to get further permission in order to change the occupants of the property in the future. This did concern us a little.

As it turned out we ended up not buying that property for another reason (It was built on a piece of land that used to be a garden to the next door property and the original deeds say "gardens not to be used for further housing" or something).

another concern is that the nhs are trying to sell this property so whats the future for that they will only sell as a care home not a residential this could be a problem

ruggedtoast

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oneeye1

dont know how to do a link but its up for 112,500 in prudhoe northumberland and will be under sold stc

oneeye1

it pains me to say its not for us i am ashamed of myself but thats it

madeupname1

oneeye1 wrote: »

it pains me to say its not for us i am ashamed of myself but thats it

In my view nothing to be ashamed about (I think a number of the comments have been very unfair). For me it would be a great unknown. Alot of people have commented that they have nightmare neighbours who outwardly "normal". But I think the point is that if you knew there was a potential for a neighbour to be a problem before buying, you think twice about buying, which is exactly what you have done. It may also affect resale value.