would you buy next door to

RuthnJasper

That is a pretty grotty question to ask. Is that a whiff of Troll in the air out there...?

What's next, one-eye? Not buying a house next to black or Asian people because your kids would be "freaked out" because their skin colour was different?! Bl**dy hell...

These children are humans - not animals. I'm sure they're much more distressed by people gawking, sniggering about and pre-judging them than any so-called 'normal' children would be by seeing them. Especially ones who may or may not have a soul-less nut-job for a parent...

Disabled kids affecting house prices? Definitely one for the Daily Mail. Just pray they aren't asylum seekers as well, or you may have to go and live in a bunker somewhere - just to be safe...

mattcanary

Ridiculous thread. OP - you should be ashamed of yourself

neverdespairgirl

I'd be wary, not because of the disabilities, but because of the 24-hour aspect, how many people are living there, carers coming and going, etc. Could be noisy.

treliac

OP, you will probably find your new neighbours are a better prospect than a great many non-disabled neighbours are likely to be. Any worries you might have should be addressed by staff at the house.

Your children will have the opportunity to learn some very useful lessons about life and caring for others... they will be better people for doing so.

Your best bet would be to introduce yourself and get to know your neighbours. You might even consider offering to help on a voluntary basis and could find doing so very rewarding.

oneeye1

they are all adults no kids and i have said on another thread i am ignorant about people with l. d. therefore i cannot have any idea im trying to be open to the fact if it will be a good thing.there seems to be a massive swing in what people consider to be L.D. i dont know nothing about it if they have L.D can and i stress can that make them unaware what is rightand i do believe some of them do thrash out what if one next door is like that and thrashes out at the kids thad would influence them in a bad way

treliac

oneeye1 wrote: »

they are all adults no kids and i have said on another thread i am ignorant about people with l. d. therefore i cannot have any idea im trying to be open to the fact if it will be a good thing.there seems to be a massive swing in what people consider to be L.D. i dont know nothing about it if they have L.D can and i stress can that make them unaware what is rightand i do believe some of them do thrash out what if one next door is like that and thrashes out at the kids thad would influence them in a bad way

The staff should be skilled and able to look after them. I really think that if you make a point of meeting one of the managers of the home, you will be able to ask about the things that worry you and will be able to get some reassurances.

They are unlikely to be living in a location close to other people if they pose a threat.

jackomdj

neverdespairgirl wrote: »

I'd be wary, not because of the disabilities, but because of the 24-hour aspect, how many people are living there, carers coming and going, etc. Could be noisy.

24 hour care would probably involve a night shift so carers arriving at 8pm till 8am, no different to normal life really!

I am sure your children will not freak, they may ask questions initially...just explain things fully & I am sure they will make friends with their neighbours, ie say hello etc as they would with any neighbours.

ruggedtoast

oneeye1 wrote: »

they are all adults no kids and i have said on another thread i am ignorant about people with l. d. therefore i cannot have any idea im trying to be open to the fact if it will be a good thing.there seems to be a massive swing in what people consider to be L.D. i dont know nothing about it if they have L.D can and i stress can that make them unaware what is rightand i do believe some of them do thrash out what if one next door is like that and thrashes out at the kids thad would influence them in a bad way

You should be ok because theyre usually they cant go more than a few feet due to the ankle chains they are all fitted with.

Of course if your kids actually go in there and surround one of the fellows, poking him with sticks and riling him with taunts like "Igor" and "Mungo" then, well they all have the strength of ten and anything can happen.

This is a thorny problem indeed, however apparently sometimes they can make quite good companions.

Fang_3

No. For the same reason that I wouldn't live next to anywhere that required people to be coming and going at all hours of the day and night.

RuthnJasper

oneeye1 wrote: »

they are all adults no kids and i have said on another thread i am ignorant about people with l. d. therefore i cannot have any idea im trying to be open to the fact if it will be a good thing.there seems to be a massive swing in what people consider to be L.D. i dont know nothing about it if they have L.D can and i stress can that make them unaware what is rightand i do believe some of them do thrash out what if one next door is like that and thrashes out at the kids thad would influence them in a bad way

OK - One-Eye. To give you the benefit of the doubt (much as I am loathe to, given your unfortunate choice of wording to begin with) - if this is not a new property with you as a first-time buyer, the proximity to this 'care-home' would, presumably, have already been factored in - therefore you would have nothing to fear (if the residents were dangerous there is NO WAY that anyone would be permitted to sell residential housing that close).

I genuinely WAS an acquaintance of someone with world-beating schizophrenia and she was, indeed, a terror to live with. Ultimately, she was appallingly murdered, along with her innocent mother, by a family member. (http://www.independent.co.uk/news/uk/crime/suspect-surrenders-over-village-murder-of-mother-and-daughter-610919.html - except this report got it wrong - Theresa was the 53 yr-old Schizophrenic and Elizabeth Francis was the 83 yr-old innocent mother. It was awful. Truly awful.)

HOWEVER - and this is important. I also used to do volunteer work for (horse) Riding for the Disabled at Medstead. All of the profoundly disadvantaged folks that came along were loving, affectionate, decent people - despite their (sometimes obvious) problems. I worked there for a long time and never felt threatened or distressed in any way.

Draw your own conclusions. Personally, I don't think you have anything to worry about and - as others have posted - your children could stand to richly benefit from knowing these (perhaps disadvantaged) neighbours.

After all - why is it that, when an adult is said to have "the mind of a child" he is locked up... when children are allowed to run free in the streets?

One-eye - you must make your own decision. But please - seriously - do not put "psychopaths" in the same category as people with "severe learning difficulties". Believe me - they are a world apart. You must do what you think best for your children - and no-one can know what that is, except you.

(That said - if you ARE a *****ing Troll, you can ******ing ******** off and take your ***** ********* *******s with you!:mad:).

Seriously, however, - ALL people deserve respects and rights. Until they pick up a weapon to intentionally intimidate and frighten others.