How do I get married?

fly_dragon_fly

you saying that i went to a wedding recently where there was two readings no hymns just the vows the readings and then the signing papers so it can be done. x

Alyssa_C_2

brownbabygirl wrote: »

:rotfl: :eek:Unbelievable. It might be easier to get married elsewhere dear

The whole point is OH is religious, she isn't.

Person_one

Cookie_monster wrote: »

Thanks for the welcome Lexxi.

We'd like to get married next year, maybe between June and Sept. We don't want to spend more than £3k-4k if that is possible.

I wouldn't mind getting married in a church if they can tone down the religious stuff.

We just want a small wedding with family and a few close friends. We really would love to do it abroad just the two of us, I really like the look of Greece but with 2 kids we'd have to take some people with us to babysit.

Even if they can, there'll still be big stained glass windows of people nailed to crosses, bibles verses on the walls etc. and I don't think many ministers would take too kindly to being asked to do that!

If religious stuff bothers you (and it does me so I understand) then maybe your OH should be the one to make the compromise! Does he go to church every Sunday? Give money to Christian charities? Is his faith a huge part of his life? If not, he can't really start claiming a church wedding is so important.

Kate78

Cookie_monster wrote: »

I wouldn't mind getting married in a church if they can tone down the religious stuff.

:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

kr15snw

If you have a good vicar then you can have a religous wedding without it being 'OTT', I have been to a variety of church weddings and some are very casual!

Could you compromise with a civil ceremony and then a blessing after?

3-4k, on this board my dear thats a big budget! Hehehe.

How many people you thinking for after the ceremony? Would you want a meal and seperate evening do? Or keep it all very low key?

dizzyb99_2

I can understand where the OPs OH is coming from. I'm catholic (non practicing at the moment but still a believer of sorts) but the catholic church wouldn't marry us as my DH was divorced (first wife had left him long before I met him).

I would not have felt 'married' if we had gone to a registry office and it would have meant nothing to me, although DH was quite happy to do this (no religious leanings at all) I would rather not have gotten married at all. This was not a threat just how I felt.

We were eventually married by a methodist minster who performed the most perfect and personal ceremony we could ever have wished for.
I can understand the OPs feelings but thought her OH may have similar reasons to mine for wanting a religious ceremony

Mrs_Jojo

My first wedding (yes, ok, I've had two!) was in a church, it had a vicar and an organist, me and OH (didn't stay 'DH' for long I'm afraid!) 2 friends as Best Man and Bridesmaid (well, my witness) and then 5 guests (very close family).

We didn't sing hymns, but had a piece of organ music played. Now I was a member of the church at the time, so obviously they didn't charge me specially for the vicar and organist, so it was a very cheap day.

To have a religious ceremony that isn't OTT you could choose readings that are popular as well are religious (Love is patient and kind... from 1 Corinthians for example) and you could choose songs that are more song like - don't know how old your children are, but there will be things they know from school if they are at the right stage (sing hosanna anyone?!) that people will enjoy singing.

Although you should get married in the church for the parish in which you live, I am sure that most clergy would be more than happy to help you to have a day that will celebrate the fact that your want to make your family 'official' (that isn't quite what I mean!) and will help you to achieve that :-)