i've been so stupid :'(

ivebeenstupid

deleting as he could read it

lindaatno9

think this is one you should live with hun. Text is awful isn't it as we do the most silly things. We can call people names because we don't have to engage in a face to face and then then we can get all sexy with someone because we are safe behind a screen. We can easily (we think) walk away and have no repercussions, but there are.

If your h2b has accepted your excuse I would be inclined to delete this chaps number and move on. You obviously feel very guilty and I guess it's nice to have an ex show some interest, but look at it that you've been very silly and it meant nothing to you. However, your h2b may see it differently, afterall, wouldn't you?
xx Chin up sweet. Silly mistake. x

RainbowDrops

I guess only you can make the decision based on hopw you think your partner will react, and how much you think it will eat you up.

Technically, you haven't really cheated, but you have been dishonest to your partner.
Was it because you were flattered by the attention from your ex, or are you unsure about your relationship with your OH?
If it's the former, I would maybe just leave it. Contact your ex to clear things up and say you're not interested in him anymore, and consider deleting his number.
If it's the latter, consider how you would feel if he had done the same.

ivebeenstupid

and again ..................

bubbles0169

dont ring in sick, get up dust yourself off, apologise to your OH for having his number still then try and act as if it never happened, you will only hurt your OH if you tell him the truth
if you truely feel you want to be with your OH then keep quiet but first look at why you felt you wanted to flirt in the first place, you were either really stupid or theres some underlying issue that needs resolving before you move on

ivebeenstupid

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bubbles0169

thats your problem then you need to approach your partner and say you dont enjoy the way he touches you, you dont feel you get enough attention from him
do you know how he'l react when you say this to him? do you think hes aware of a problem or not?

somerset-girl

I'd back up the advice of the others. You need to break off contact with the ex, and then work on your relationship with your partner. I was in a situation a while back where I was still texting an ex of mine. My partner never found out and I would never tell him, but I realised one day that I had to delete the ex's number and have no more to do with him because I was risking everything I had with my fiancee. My ex was an ex for a very good reason!
Hope it all works out ok for you x

ivebeenstupid

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bubbles0169

im sorry to say but i think youve got huge problems
alot of women hate their body but they learn to accept that their OH's love them for who they are so embrace them in every way
the OH on the other hand should accept that they are not comfortable and help them along the way
why do you hate your body so much?

shellsuit

Are you engaged to be married? (Just wondering with it being posted on this board)

If you are, then everything needs nipping in the bud otherwise what is the point in being engaged, let alone planning to get wed.

If you don't like your OH groping you, tell him.

I don't like things my OH does and I tell him ~ he might moan, but what's the point in lying and pretending you like something when you don't?

With regards to the texts, No you shouldn't have been texting an ex, especially in the flirty way you did, but is your OH normally one to fly off the handle?

You said he smashed your phone when he seen it, and that your 3 yr old doesn't want Daddy to leave which means the little one must have been around while all this was going on.

That would concern me more than not being honest about a few texts.