MSE Parents Club Part 13

BeenieCat

searching_me wrote: »

beenie i was with philip (hes on zoe BC long story dont ask) and didnt even make a claim as i didnt need to ... we were living together for 2 years then they wrote to him saying they're closed the case .. what case?????? ....

for many people they do help but when they fook up they do i badly x

I'm surprised if they work for anyone, cos this is the second time now they've failed me.

7 years ago they wrote to me to say they'd take £5 a week out of donor's dole money. About 5 years and no payments later they wrote to ask if i knew his whereabouts? Lmfao!

How hard can it be to take some money out of his wages and give it to me?? The fking t0sser has bought himself a new car this month and paid his ex-wife a tidy sum of money but as per usual i've got nothing and i'm so unbelievably skint - i was skint anyway but losing the £70 from Quidco has fooked me right in.
But that selfish !!!!!! has the cheek to tell me about all the overtime he's doing and how he's paid her and not me. Arghhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh:mad::mad::mad::mad::mad::mad:



EDIT - I know i am a hypocrite cos i did tell him to shove his money up his arris (lmao) but i wanted it through the CSA for my own pointless reasons. And i'm fuming that he was gonna give me the very bare minimum (less i think) and he's given her well over and above and she's in a much better position than i am. She must be loving it her kids are gonna get the £90k house and she has a rich daddy who takes them abroad 3 times a year and buys her a new car when she wants one. Amber's got fook all. I'm so bitter!! I hate him.

BeenieCat

Actually i think if he hadn't paid her (bint that she is) i wouldn't even care it's just the way he was bragging about it "i've paid for my kids, my 2 kids come first" and "i'm buying myself a car so my 2 kids can come and visit me" etc etc. And i'm just jealous/bitter/angry/disgusted/hurt that he is using Amber to get at me :mad:. Be a !!!!!!!! to me by all means but why say you don't care about her?!?!?! Fooks sake. Can you tell he's been texting me again today and set me off on one...lol

SusanC_2

BeenieCat wrote: »

Actually i think if he hadn't paid her (bint that she is) i wouldn't even care it's just the way he was bragging about it "i've paid for my kids, my 2 kids come first" and "i'm buying myself a car so my 2 kids can come and visit me" etc etc. And i'm just jealous/bitter/angry/disgusted/hurt that he is using Amber to get at me :mad:. Be a !!!!!!!! to me by all means but why say you don't care about her?!?!?! Fooks sake. Can you tell he's been texting me again today and set me off on one...lol

To be honest, although in general I think it's best for children to have both parents in their life, it does sound like Amber is better off without him.

Sami_Bee

3onitsway wrote: »

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OH is off - it's his first day of shifts which has turned out to be a rest day. The shift pattern is confusing me, he's on til 10pm tomorrow - will he eat when he gets home? And a couple of 3am finishes at the weekend, his sleep pattern is going to be messed up. I'm sure we'll get used to it eventually.

I never understood MILs, shifts I do remember her eating evening meals with us after being awake for about and hour then going to work - ick pasta for breakfast!

I forgot to say last night your holiday place looks like it's going to be fab!! If he likes the horses there is a stables 5mins from me that deals purely in kids that are disabled/downs/ASD that wouldn't be too far for you to take him occasionally (and meet me for a starbucks while you're at it )

Somnium

DK - yes T has an orange swim seat I never saw you, you should of said hi x looking forward to Thursday

BeenieCat

I know... just.. it's so hard

This time last year i was 20wks pregnant and he left me :( Took my car and fooked off, missed the scan, bad mouthed me to his ex and his family. All because we got back together and like an idiot i thought we were ok but he wasn't. How can you know someone for 10 years and not know they're capable of being such a !!!!!!?
I spent 6 years saying i'd never ever ever ever even considering having another baby if i was going to be a single parent again. What a muppet!!

searching_me

fall down to 3 says ...

you cant help who you love ...

you dont know someone til you know someone ..

and expect the unexpected ...

3 sayings i live my life by ... you're a better person for it and if it hadnt happened you wouldnt have your beautiful daughter x

cazscoob

tiamai_d wrote: »

Caz, we have the megane estate and I love it! It was mine till bloody DH bought the trajet then decided it was crap and I should get it. I hate the trajet....

i am so not stalking you and copying you lol! first the phone and now the car:o

3onitsway wrote: »

I am looking forward to it, but am not too!

I'm really scared of the 6+ hr drive :eek: and i'm a bit worried they're all going to be the hairy legged hippy types! I don't know why, I had an email of one of those in charge yesterday and she' sounds quite normal. :rotfl:


It's very easy to stay in and do nothing - you need to get yourself out, it makes you feel better (and I always find the children are easier to handle if they've been tired out during the day!)

i bet you have a great time and the kids will love it! the drie may be mad but i bet its easier than your crazy roads lol!!

not planning on doing anything today as the house is a bombsite although i would love the new nanny mcphee dvd so might nip out for that!

redmel1621 wrote: »

Glad things are looking a bit brighter caz Don't rush it though, but getting out is great....tbh it's something I am struggling with a bit lately, you are doing fantastic and good on your OH for pushing you;)

the only reason i am going out is because i am not getting the option? how are you feeling? did you get any sleep last night?

BeenieCat wrote: »

How can you know someone for 10 years and not know they're capable of being such a !!!!!!?

Huge hugs Beenie and you are not alone here i have been with OH for 10 years and i never thought that he was capable of hurting me so much. i feel that i dont know who he is anymore and it makes me feel so sad and yet angry at the same time. If you love someone enough you do put up with all their crap and lies and you do believe anything you tell them as why wouldnt you?? dont let him hurt you anymore and at the end of the day you have the best thing of all a beautiful baby girl! One day she will grow up and see him for what he is and look back at what you went through to make her the person she will grow into! he is the one missing out not you or her x

tiamai_d

Beenie, I have a friend who works for the CSA and I was chatting to him about the problems you have faced, as well as another friend. He says that half the computers dont work so its actually done by whoever you speak to on the phone. If you get a nice one, things go well, if you get a lazy !!!!!!.... So keep phoning up, go through the full story and make sure they get all the facts correct. Then call up again and check.

BeenieCat

Thanks guys

Back in a bit, gotta go to the JC and get this uni thing signed (hopefully)