Worst PWC in the world strikes again!

chriszzz

Soubrette wrote: »

However, if you already have mention of a punishment in your court order, and she's broken it, then she must have some kind of punishment or she won't hold any respect for future court orders.

Sou

This is what the courts need to put in place with immediate effect so that people like maggied and her OH should not have to pay out again further expenses for the pwc breaking the order, it should be apart of that order and soon as its broke pwc can be punished financially or imprisonment, its all too long winded and costly and in the mean time the child has to suffer.

Soubrette

chriszzz wrote: »

This is what the courts need to put in place with immediate effect so that people like maggied and her OH should not have to pay out again further expenses for the pwc breaking the order, it should be apart of that order and soon as its broke pwc can be punished financially or imprisonment, its all too long winded and costly and in the mean time the child has to suffer.

Agreed - plus there would be no wails of 'I didn't realise this could happen'. A clear punishment as a result of a clear breaking of the rules. No one else's fault if you take that route.

At the moment the courts are like an ineffectual parent, threatening punishments that never happen, no wonder non compliant parents don't take it seriously.

Sou

chriszzz

Hi Maggied,

Couldnt read and run, i really empathise with what you and yr OH are going through.

Me and my OH have the same problem, the time and energy that is involved in pwc like this is unbelievable, like us the child/ren are young, well my OH children are now 14 and things have gone really bad,( i have known them since they were five)

I am too a pwc and have never once interfered with my son having contact with his dad.

I find it really difficult to understand why these pwc behave this way, its suppose to be about the child, I could never do to my child what his ex does but I firmly believe these pwc are not confident in their parental role, they look at their children as a possession and want to control every aspect of that childs life, they dont consider what the child wants because in their head its about what they want, I dont let these things get me down no more ive stopped trying to understand, Ive seen the damage and am so glad that its not me doing it to my child.

I know its tough and you have got some years ahead of you both but some times just sometimes you have to play them at their own game, weve stopped telling the kids are plans because she would ruin it for all of us.

I know how evil and vindictive some can be and they can get away with it, I hope you go all the way with this, my OH has given up which is really sad but too long a story to tell.

maggied_2

You're all little gems! will update tomorrow, DSD is with us now, had a great day.

C xx

PlayingHardball

Maggied....I logged on tonight to see if things went okay, glad they did! It is just so sad that parents can't separate as a couple, and manage to put aside any bad feelings they had for each other for the sake of the children. I've been through what you are going through, my DD was 7 at the time, she's now 15 and can clearly see what Dad did (he was the NRP, very bitter and angry and still is) The parent who stays clearly focused on what is 100% best for the kids will one day be seen by the children to have done just that. Well done, you seem to be doing just that.

AnxiousMum

So happy for you and your family MaggieD - hope she has had an absolutely wonderful day surrounded with love

chriszzz

Glad things worked out for you all and keep your chin up, there are nice people on here who wish you the best.:)

Didismump

REALLY pleased DD had a wonderful party...:)
As I said previously..my 'baby' saw through her Dad and all his ploys to 'get her on his side'...
There should be no sides as far as 'your' child is concerned..and I personally did all I could to not involve 'our daughter' in the rotten divorce it ended with...Sadly her Father did not do the same...
And shot himself RIGHT in the foot...:(
Your DD will see through this all eventually..and she WILL make up her mind for herelf one day...
Be ready with the spare room...I can see it happening in the not too distant future if her Mother keeps acting up as she does...
Children need both parents..Its just sad when one plays silly beggers to get at the other..:(
'Children' and 'ammunition' should not go in the same sentence..but sadly they often do..
Make the most and BEST of the time you have her..she WILL see where she is best off for herself...:)
Good Luck with everything....;)

maggied_2

Hello again - these replies have made me a little teary eyed! We all had such a fab time - the cake was ready just in time and when looked at at one angle didn't look too horrendous! The jellies came out of the moulds, the kids joined in all the games with much gusto, they ate the food and all went home happy! Phew!!!

In the end X kept DSD in to watch DVDs. DSD told us (without being prompted by the way) when she turned up that she had told her mum that she wanted to go to the school fayre and be here - how sad. We just said "ah well never mind, you're here now, all your friends will be here soon".

I actually posted this on the familes board too - the replies on there were veerry interesting to read - mainly saying "why don't you just have the party another time".....says a lot really.

So - will be phoning the court and the police tomorrow - wish me luck!!

maggied_2

Sou - the line on the CO says this:

Where a contact is in force: if you do not comply with this contact order-

(a) you may be held in comtempt of court and be committed to prison or fined; and/or

(b) the Court may make ana order requiring you to undertake unpaid work ("an enforcement order") and/or an order that you pay financial compensation.