Moving out of town! Have you?

Savvy_Sue

tanith wrote: »

One of my worries is either of us being left alone (morbid or what!!) miles away from family.

Inevitably, unless you die together in some horrible accident (even more morbid me!), one of you WILL be left alone.

We're just glad it's my mum left, not my dad, he couldn't have coped a day without her.

tanith

Savvy_Sue wrote: »

Inevitably, unless you die together in some horrible accident (even more morbid me!), one of you WILL be left alone.

We're just glad it's my mum left, not my dad, he couldn't have coped a day without her.

Yep I know thats invevitable but I'd rather it were where I have family than miles away meaning they have to travel to support me..

Errata

tanith wrote: »

Yep I know thats invevitable but I'd rather it were where I have family than miles away meaning they have to travel to support me..

You planning on polishing the stairs to a high skiddy shine :rotfl:

Seriously - I think many people dream of retiring to a little place with roses round the door away from the madding throng, and the grass is greener scenario kicks in.
Sometimes that dream is best left in dreamland but there are many other changes in retirement that can be made without leaving a perch which has been comfy for many years.

tanith

Errata wrote: »

You planning on polishing the stairs to a high skiddy shine :rotfl:

Seriously - I think many people dream of retiring to a little place with roses round the door away from the madding throng, and the grass is greener scenario kicks in.
Sometimes that dream is best left in dreamland but there are many other changes in retirement that can be made without leaving a perch which has been comfy for many years.

I would happily leave it in dreamland but OH , now thats a different matter. I just want whats best for all of us, and I can see retirement by the coast/countryside being an ideal escape for my family at weekends occasionally, or even having the grandchildren come stay for the Summer, but its the , what ifs??? that I am struggling with...hopefully I have another 20 or 30 yrs in me , we can only guess at that one, but lots of food for thought and good ideas have come from this thread and I am gratefull for all of them...

Errata

All I can suggest is that you draw up a list of advantages and drawbacks and see which one is the longest - no cheating

Farway

azureblue wrote: »

oooh such an interesting thread. We just came back from a few days in Weymouth, having visited it before, and OH really wants to sell up and move there. We are the same as Tanith with kids and grandkids here and we do love them to bits ... would they visit? Weymouth is big enough to cope with us as we become decrepid, and the sea air and light did seem to help OH, he felt fine there but instantly down when we returned.
What to do? How easy/hard would it be to rent out our house here and rent a place there to get the feel of it? We have 2 cats to consider too.
Oh Tanith what to do to keep our men happy?

Come the 2012 Olympics your OH may hate Weymouth as it is the venue for the sailing and is bound to be heaving

On plus side new, fast, roads ar being built for easier access from London due to Olympics, and they will remain

FWIW I like Weymouth, was a bit run down in the past but Olympics has helped spruce the place up

PasturesNew

It's really all about money. If you have enough money to buy what you want (you will have trouble finding what you want and will have to travel long distances to look for things and you'll find that all the big names you're used to are more than 100+ miles away), if you have enough money to do what you want (if it can be done close by as you might have a 50 mile round trip for your hobby), if you have enough money to get out and away when you want (and accept that travel times are huuuuuuuge and costs are high), then you can enjoy it.

If you're on a limited budget than you can find yourself unable to join in anything, unable to get anything, unable to do anything... then it's hard.

Errata

PasturesNew wrote: »

It's really all about money. If you have enough money to buy what you want (you will have trouble finding what you want and will have to travel long distances to look for things and you'll find that all the big names you're used to are more than 100+ miles away), if you have enough money to do what you want (if it can be done close by as you might have a 50 mile round trip for your hobby), if you have enough money to get out and away when you want (and accept that travel times are huuuuuuuge and costs are high), then you can enjoy it.

If you're on a limited budget than you can find yourself unable to join in anything, unable to get anything, unable to do anything... then it's hard.

That all sounds dreadfully familiar. I particularly remember the round trip of an hour if we fancied fish and chips and well over an hour if we fancied a chinese takeaway :eek:

pollypenny

OH would love to love near DS in Florida. The cost of living is generally much cheaper - except for the crucial thing - health!

Secondly, the exchange rate varies so much that we'd never know where we were with our pensions.

It'll have to remain a fantasy!

Savvy_Sue

tanith wrote: »

Yep I know thats invevitable but I'd rather it were where I have family than miles away meaning they have to travel to support me..

I have to say that you clearly have your head screwed on, I just wonder if your DH has considered how he'd feel about this rural idyll if, sadly, something happened to YOU within a short while of you both moving there. And has it even crossed HIS mind that the chances are that ONE of you WILL be left there?

I know my mum's always been far better at the planning ahead, in some ways, than my dad was. I really don't think it ever occurred to my dad when they first moved that his health might deteriorate, or that one of them might be left on their own. Then when it did he became a complete worryguts about how Mum would cope on her own and how they ought to move into a home or at least sheltered accommodation. In reality, by the time he was thinking of another move, he wasn't well enough to DO anything about it anyway.