somebody PLEASE KICK ME

elantan

what have i done....i'm so angry with myself .....hubby and i are having some problems which some of you know about some don't ..anyway hubby suggested we have a family holiday ..now i know that isn't the answer ...but found myself saying ok.....i know what i am doing is stupid..but hubby went out today and booked us a holiday for next year ....we have manageble debt ...but it's still debt..and it needs to be paid....and there i was agreeing to go on bloody holiday when i need to get our debt sorted .....why do i do these things to myself ....and i can't see it papering over any cracks within our marriage..infact it will add to the pressure cause now we need to pay for this thing as well as get our debt down....arrrgghhh i am sooo angry with me right now

lynzpower

elantan

How much is it?

Sometimes, getting out of debt is not as important as preserving the relationships around you, dont be so hard on yourself honey pie.

xxx

chevalier

Don't they have cooling off periods. Could you not cancel it tomorrow?

LookingAhead

Hmmm. Well I am one of those people that doesn't know your situation so what I say here may not be very helpful.

But my first reaction was to think that couples do need to spend time together. I know you have debt...I have debt too....but OH & self have booked our first holiday away together since we got together 4 years ago. I really think that people need to spend time away from the daily grind if it can at all be managed.

Also the children need good times to look back on as well where possible. No-one is saying kids can't survive if they don't go to the Bahamas every 6 months but......if it is a nice break where they actually do stuff/you do stuff as a family together....it will be priceless for them.

I hope you go on the holiday...I hope you guys have a great time and maybe, just maybe, it will pull you all a bit closer again.

LA xx

elantan

it's gonna cost £1500 for the three of us then we have spending money on top of that ...so that's anyones guess ..i'll loose the deposit of £225 at least if i cancel....and he really wants to go ..i am just so confused just now ..i want someone to take me by the hand and show me exactly what i have to do ..i know that isn't possible but .....

elantan

thanks everyone ..maybe i am just panicking about money etc...we do need a holiday by the time we go it will have been 3 years since our last foreign holiday....but i am still so annoyed with myself

lynzpower

why not find a compromise, is there an option thats cheaper?

LookingAhead

Please don't be annoyed with yourself.

For what it's worth, I think you should have that family holiday. and you have a year to be inventive to pull some spending money together. If you research where you are going as well, you may find some cheap/free things to do there or think of games on the beach to play or something!

cattie1

elantan wrote:

what have i done....i'm so angry with myself .....hubby and i are having some problems which some of you know about some don't ..anyway hubby suggested we have a family holiday ..now i know that isn't the answer ...but found myself saying ok.....i know what i am doing is stupid..but hubby went out today and booked us a holiday for next year ....we have manageble debt ...but it's still debt..and it needs to be paid....and there i was agreeing to go on bloody holiday when i need to get our debt sorted .....why do i do these things to myself ....and i can't see it papering over any cracks within our marriage..infact it will add to the pressure cause now we need to pay for this thing as well as get our debt down....arrrgghhh i am sooo angry with me right now

i will only kick you if you kick me back!!:D
we all do stuff like this-me and OH have not ben on holiday in 5years we have been together and the kids don't have a clue what a holiday is bless them!
but like every1 else says you need some time like that or you wil NEVER have anything to look forward too, we were thinking about a hol in butlins just to say we had gone sumwhere and taken the kids sumwhere.
don't beat yourself up about it, it's 1 big splurge you are allowed to have.;)

LookingAhead

Fair point from lynz though although I can imagine losing the deposit now would be a right pain

elantan

looking ahead i will deff do that lynz i will look into that also but not holding out much hope i said to him while we were talking about it we should wait till just before we go then book through teletext...but i think he got excited...were booked for protarus in cyprus ive never heard a bad word about cyprus but i have heard it isn't cheap ...maybe when it sinks in and i calm down a bit i'll see it isn't that bad ...but for now ...thanks though for all your support ...your helping me to see it's not the end of the world