Ex carer needing help.

JC9297

I think it would have been helpful if you had said in your opening post that he was an adult, as I guess people (as I did) would have presumed he was under 18 and you would therefore have parental rights. It just came across that you seemed to accept not being his carer any more fairly easily which, when we did not know his age, seemed a bit odd, especially when you were concerned about the financial implications.

Do you think that his father is able to meet his care needs, if not then could you involve his social worker? It doesn't come across in your post as if you have concerns over his welfare (I don't mean that you don't care, rather that you think he is cared for ok at his dad's). I am presuming that retaining carers allowance isn't your primary reason for wanting him returned to your care.

SingleSue

I can certainly agree with the OU as a possible way forward.

I am in year 2 of my law degree via OU and can find the time to study around the care of my three boys (all of which are disabled) and still maintain good grades. Yes, it is going to take me longer to attain my degree but it is time I am willing to take to enable me to care for the boys whilst they need it and when they are more independent (I live in hope), to then combine it with working.

Could that be a possibility OP?

meg72

Oldernotwiser wrote: »

The most sensible thing would be to transfer your credits to the OU to finish your degree, which will enable you to be available for work. You may well find that this fits better with family life than studying as you are at the moment.

I seems to me that this is the most sensible way forward for you.

I am so sorry for your distress over your Son and I know from personal experience that when you suddenly become an Ex Carer
there is virtually no help available.

As far as I know there is no obligation for the job centre to rehabiltate and when the new rules come in then you must be available for work.

Is your own Solicitor not able to advise you on this?

I do hope that this is resolved for you and that if you Son wants to come back to you then it happens quickly. Best wishes. Meg

kingfisherblue

OP, you did not state that your son is eighteen. Your first post read as though he is a child. I didn't suggest that you camped out on his dad's doorstep - I said that I would camp on the court's doorstep (metaphorically speaking - again, I was under the impression that your son is a child).

You are correct, though - you posted on here about benefits and how to stay on your course, not for help in getting your son back, or for support in view of the fact that he is now living with his dad.

I would have been posting from a different perspective if it this happened to me.