Feeling depressed about new house - how long before I can sell it?

natman

I have a few thoughts.

You mention that this area is for couples. I presume you are single, but how fantastic an area would it be if you became a couple?

I suppose all i am Saying is that we change, our needs & wants change. Maybe a shift in focus may help. Look at the positives that this area gives. I.e close to work, good area for a couple. Only you can answer this.

Financially i am guessing it would cost a lot to move.solicitors, mortgage fees etc.

I would try it out for a while, get thinkin positive, perhaps get involved in the community.

The previous owners stayed a while, your neighbours have stayed. Positives should be findable.

maria6259

nomnomnom wrote: »

As a family of 4 and 2 babies in nappies, I know it is incredibly hard not to have bins overflowing. Don't assume that people don't care! Telling them you saw a rat isn't going to help them, just make them feel worse if they are struggling to keep up with the waste. I agree with phoning EH or the local council and informing them of a refuse problem. There are extra large wheelie bins that some councils give out to large families and it may be that this family need one.

As a single person you probably dont fill your bin, perhaps you could offer to let them use yours once in a while - this might also be an opener to get to know them!

I also think that you may be focusing on the neighbours because of the way YOU are feeling, that they're probably not doing anything wrong, and that they're no worse than any others. I have footballs in my back garden now and then, I just throw them back and quite often hear a little 'thank you'!

sonastin

nomnomnom wrote: »

As a family of 4 and 2 babies in nappies, I know it is incredibly hard not to have bins overflowing. Don't assume that people don't care! Telling them you saw a rat isn't going to help them, just make them feel worse if they are struggling to keep up with the waste. I agree with phoning EH or the local council and informing them of a refuse problem. There are extra large wheelie bins that some councils give out to large families and it may be that this family need one.

If you are on your own and you don't make a lot of waste, perhaps you could offer them some space in your wheelie bins? I did this with the family of 5 living next door to me and they ended up putting my bin out for me for the next 5 years as I was always late home on the evening it needed putting out! Its one way to get to know your neighbours and feel part of your new community.

The things coming over the fence can be a bit of a pain but as long as the kids aren't knocking on your door asking for it back every 5 minutes you can learn to live with it. Whenever I went out and found a stray ball in my garden, I'd either chuck it over the fence or leave it outside the back gate to be collected.

Eton_Rifle

We always feel a bit like this when we move house and always have a big culture shock too so I do understand.

Fill your house with the things you love, the people you love and start to develop routines to make yourself feel secure and familiarised with your environment and it will all soon feel like a home rather than a house.

Brallaqueen

I had this moving into my flat - all the excitement and anticipation I'd been feeling during the buying process just seemed to trickle away and I felt like I'd made a mistake.

Maybe try putting your own stamp on the flat? I spent a few quid on paint & got my on call handyman (dad ) over to do the honours. Since then I've felt much more at home.

poppysarah

You bought a house without noticing what the neighbours are like?

Introduce yourself to them.

Get on with your life.

getmore4less

Give it time.

It is a new type of living so do the adjustments.
make the house your own
Do stuff in the garden
Have people round(cheaper than going out).

If you have wheely bins and they fill theirs and you have space offer a bin bags worth of yours.(families can create a lot more rubbish)

Kids throw stuff, we just throw it back if around, sometimes next door would come and ask and say sorry, as they get older it tend to happen less were down to footballs and tennis balls but now nothing they play on the tramapolene.

Kids grow up quickly so areas change over the years as families mature..

Family areas are great for keeping an eye on your place more people about more often.(retired people even better).

Get to know the local people you don't need to klick and become good friends, just being on nodding terms helps a lot.

How old, male female?

Also forgot, if you have a drive and a car, do the washing the car thing on a sat/sunday.

jockosjungle

So your major gripes are that you are single and others are couples, they leave bin bags out and the occasional ball comes in your garden?

Is your area a wheely bin area or is it like mine where you leave your bags out in the street? I'd concur that you could offer your neighbours the chance to stick some rubbish in your bin.

I';m not sure what to say about the others, how old are you? Perhaps you could find a retirement home for single people that'll take you early? Without sounding harsh, although you probably are not that old, you do sound like you should be!

Maybe one day you'll be a couple with kids and it'll all work out, you're worried about a frisbee in the garden, I am currently looking at houses with a limited budget and wondering if I can go for a walk without being knifed.

Maybe you could move to a flat, these will be less popular with families. However the things that families would want, nice area, nice house, a garden are surely things that you wanted as well?

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C_Mababejive

Spray Jeyes fluid over their rubbish. The smell will hopefully annoy them and keep the flies down.

amcluesent

Nothing worse than ending up with a mill-stone of a property in an area getting more chavy rather than gentrified. No matter how nice the house, if the locals are working class then it's inevitable that there will be selfish behaviour, radios blaring in the garden, dogs left barking, scooters being revved, bawling wains and no discipline from the parents and 'partners'.