Cost v's number of children

cornbuddy

Having read a lot of these threads I just wanted something cleared up. When the government introduced the new tax credits, were they not there to top up people's earnings, considering you can claim even if you are earning over £40k per year? I look at them as being given back some of the tax I have paid into the system. I certainly don't think I am doing anything wrong although I only get about £30 per month, but surely if you are entitled to them then you should claim them.

However both my partner and I work full time and we have a reasonable standard of living, my three children have nice things but I would not want to add to the number of children I have if that means I have to rely on the state. I had my children at a young age (the oldest is now coming up to 21 and the youngest is 12 and I am 37) and now feel that it is my time, however if I had planned my children I would probably only ended up having one.

Lotta_Littlies

black-saturn wrote:

I wonder if your going to start having a go at this poster now: http://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/showthread.html?t=250350

If a poster of any other thread wanted to post on this particular thread they would do so themselves. I don't think it's fair for someone else to drag others in on it and so shall not be commenting on it.

Lotta

jellyhead

i think posts in the benefits section of this site should stay there, the posters are asking for information, not for opinions or discussion about their circumstances. this post is in discussion time, not because the OP wants to debate whether tax credits etc. should exist, but i think initially it was meant to be a thread about how important material things are to us when deciding how many children to have, and how you can bring up children without a lot of money.

the OP has probably been scared off at this point. but back to her opening post. perhaps your sister thinks her daughter has enough close family with all the aunts, cousins etc. she has. her making this decision is probably not a reflection on how she thinks you live your life and i doubt she thinks your parents and wider family have got it wrong. her husband's thoughts are important here too, and he's happy with a smaller family. maybe she isn't really getting her tunes tied, but said it to put an end to the questions about when she's to have more children.

tinkerbelluk

black-saturn wrote:

I wonder if your going to start having a go at this poster now: http://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/showthread.html?t=250350

Black saturn it seems to me that by posting this you are deliberately trying to stir up trouble and more arguments?

tawnyowls

Lotta_Littlies wrote:

If a poster of any other thread wanted to post on this particular thread they would do so themselves. I don't think it's fair for someone else to drag others in on it and so shall not be commenting on it.

I agree. I don't think any of us should. I find it sad that Black_Saturn feels the need to drag other people (who have not asked for this) into a debate simply to bolster her opinions just because the majority don't agree.

In any case, I don't see it as at all contradictory to be irritated by the opinions of someone and yet help them if they needed it. That, to me, is basic compassion for another human being. That person asked for help - she got it. End of story. It has nothing to do with this debate.

teb_2

black-saturn wrote:

I wonder if your going to start having a go at this poster now: http://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/showthread.html?t=250350

helpafriend wrote:

So over to you. Has the cost of children impacted on the number you are going to have? Is my sister selfish? Should you worry about money when planning a family?

The thing is B_S, the words of the OP were as above. SHE asked for opinions. That's what she got. How you can get annoyed because people have told her exactly what they think is beyond me. You're scrabbling around now just looking for things to throw into the ring and you're doing yourself no favours.

Former_MSE_Forum_Manager

Im now locking this.

It's a shame this hasn't been able to be discussed with resorting to arguments but i think it has run its course.