help,,, seperation, house, kids not married

confused???_11

thanks will do, i am 99% sure he doesnt know we still have it so it wont be missed. He is away for the weekend so i can go through everything else to see what is there. people at work are telling me to keep/copy payslips incase i need them for the CSA?? seems a bit like theft cause they arent mine, at least the letters are addressed to us jointly

I cant believe we have come to this

Debt_Free_Chick

confused??? wrote: »

My financial contributions have been to the bills and food and he pays mortgage, it work out exactly the same pound for pound.

So you paid for his share of the food & bills and he paid for your share of the mortgage ....

To be honest, it doesn't matter what was bought with whose money as, on the face of it, you each contributed 50/50 to the total cost of running the house.

And, as others have said, there are kids involved which changes everything.

Get yourself a good family lawyer

daska

confused??? wrote: »

thanks will do, i am 99% sure he doesnt know we still have it so it wont be missed. He is away for the weekend so i can go through everything else to see what is there. people at work are telling me to keep/copy payslips incase i need them for the CSA?? seems a bit like theft cause they arent mine, at least the letters are addressed to us jointly

I cant believe we have come to this

He's trying to steal your home but yes, you can retain the moral high ground by not stealing them . A digital camera is what you need: take photos of payslips, tax notifications, passport, driving licence etc so that you have a record of all the necessary details.

lavidaloca

Don't forget bank accounts, especially any joint ones. If you have any joint accounts you need to speak to the bank as he could empty them.

Whilst you have the opportunity, get all your own important papers, yours and childrens passports etc. out of the house and store them with someone trustworthy.