Shy and don't like to be the centre of attention

Maysie

Everyone seems so confident in here. Is anyone worried about being the centre of attention on the big day? I don't mind being the centre in a very small group of friends but the thought of lots of people staring at me freaks me out a bit. We have not set a date yet but probably next summer.

shellsuit

I'm gonna be having a brandy or 2 before I leave the house, otherwise I won't be able to face anyone!

I'm seriously bricking it.

angel13

why dont u just have a few people (say 15) just close friends and then you will feel a bit better

Lexxi

I get shy with big groups but I think I'll just be thinking I'm a Mrs and that'll help!

ellay864

My first wedding was a full church do with about 85 people....but as I walked down that aisle I didn't notice them....I was just so focussed on him at the front waiting for me. I found the ceremony itself took over and the crowd didn't matter. Afterwards outside for photos it's all like such a weight off in that you feel floating and its just fun...everybody is in a good mood, I honestly didn't get the nerves as I expected
Keep it smallish if you really feel worried but I'm sure you'll be fine whatever you decide x

fly_dragon_fly

just remember that the day is about you and you partner and everyone there is there for you and will just be happy and smiling

( i'm rather confident on the outsite but on the inside i'm rather shy too.)

Maysie

15 is a large group lol. My mum made an amazing amount of fuss the other week about taking our picture now we are engaged. Well that never happened as i hid my face and made loads of excuses. It was horrible i felt about 5 again. My oh has lots of friends i have not met yet. He is a northerner . I am fine with a few people but lots is not good. Although i did manage a impromptu speech at my sisters wedding (16 years ago)as our dad would not do it!

My mum and sister are so excited and want to plan things and i am not. I don't want to go into a dress shop i don't want a big fuss.

My dad and most of that side of family have fallen out with us which has upset me badly and there is nothing i can do about it. They have so got the wrong idea about something and i cannot make them see the truth. People who actually know us know its ridiculous but nothing i can do. That part of the family have always been a bit rigid in their views and some possibly on autistic spectrum. My parents divorced when i was a child the grief they gave my mum was unbelievable.

If i have a drink or two before a pic i always look really gone my eyes just go straight away lol.

manda1205

We're only having 12 people and 5 children at our wedding for exactly the same reason, and Im still dreading walking in with 12 people looking at me. Im not having my dad walk me in either because I will find it too embarassing, so my DD is walking in with me. The worst thing for me is having to speak in front of people, I just cant imagine it and think all my words will come out wrong and then I go red, so quickly of the silliest things. Im just going to have a drink or two I think as I know that will make me relax.
Just so you know you're not alone, but sorry dont have any other ideas other than a drink.

Maysie

I was thinking about visualization and repeating positive things i am sure i read something about that somewhere. Perhaps imagining people naked will help lol.

Manda does your throat close up when your nervous i intend having a bottle of cold water to hand.

I will probably zone out and forget everyone else is there about from h2b and me . I really want to get married so mind over matter. Imagine the worst case scenario then its got to be better. Well it worked for childbirth that was easier than i imagined and less embarrassing.

RainbowDrops

I've heard the Bach's Rescue Remedy is quite good for a calming effect.

Bride2be24

I am seriously bricking it!! I am generally a shy person always have been always will be i guess. I hate being centre of attention and the thought of it makes me feel physically sick even tho majority of guests is my family.... I may come across as not a shy person on here... thats because i am on a computer and can do what i like but when it comes to a major situation like this then no, i absolutely hate it!!! so no hun your not the only one bricking it xxx